men men men cant live with out them cant live with them. :lost:
since i was a kid i had many BFs bt it was something pure not like now many problems and i dont know what. a girl cant live without having him around her. its something natural imean i cant live without boys not just to have them as lovers bt also as friends. me ma self i had 9 BFs i loved 2 and the rest just playing around. but what did i get from it happiness at first then pain and damage. imean u can not trust boys these days. they will start by been angels then A BIG BOOOOOM he changes he start ignoring u yelling at u fighting with u. and then finally wether u dump him or he does. in ma 9 realtionships i got experience bt pain is more then the useful stuff. i mean i loved the first one and he went out with another girl WHY cz he cant live without new girls entring his life what a blame excuse. the second one i was perfect with him i gave him alot i made him perfect infront of every one bt infact he was nothing and then what ...he cant live without sex .... :bang:
what u r an animal u cant control u r needs its totly imposible....i dont understand why should i love boys why should i be with them and again when ever i meet someone new he says baby LOOK AT YOU FINGERS THEY'R NOT THE SAME TALL..... well baby i know one thing they r the same coulor....

:D.......Duh........... :laugh:

well I guess your taste in men sucks then.. if u cant even find one decent one. :rolleyes:

well I guess your taste in men sucks then.. if u cant even find one decent one. :rolleyes:
Duh........true, that is a standard point!.............. :)

well I guess your taste in men sucks then.. if u cant even find one decent one. :rolleyes:


nabhan i dont have a special taste in men its just that i love the personality and what s showing from out side make it perfect then i get shocked after a while ba he s activities.... its not the taste one acheater always a cheater and no matter what he was if he s bad he will still be bad :fire:

Duh........true, that is a standard point!.............. :)



u dont know me to say that or even to agree with him and DUH cant trust any one not even u..... :mad:

what sort of personality do u like a man to have?

what sort of personality do u like a man to have?

honest and when even he enter a room he gets every ones atention...including me..

honest and when even he enter a room he gets every ones atention...including me..

gets everyone's attention. thats the flaw. u'll have to expect him to get the attention of other girls and well am sure he'll be 'honest' with u about cheeting on u later on. ;)

You had 9 BFs...? :app: kool.. get me one of them if they like boys..hehe :gap: ..hello..something wrong with you otherwise they wouldnt leave you like that... try to find out from some of the exs' reasons for leaving you.

First the sex thread, then this love search and in both you spit out your rage against them: why don't you sometimes take a look at your responsabilities regarding not finding an honest sweet boy?

Not all men are cheaters ... only the ones who are too honest or too lazy actually get caught ...

:haha:

OUCH!
poor you dija (as I was registering I wanted DiJo to be my nick, but I was like they have a dija so I guess there is no need for a dijo lol ;P), anyhows lol 9 is just a big number did you ever make sure that the problem wasn’t in them?! maybe it's something you did or said (why do we girls always have to blame them the guys *I do that too:D* )..
Or maybe your personality doesn’t agree with the type of guys you choose..

..hello..something wrong with you otherwise they wouldnt leave you like that... try to find out from some of the exs' reasons for leaving you.

It doesn't necessarily mean that something is wrong with her, but if it went wrong 9 times, and she's the only 'constant' then I guess it could be possible.

Or maybe you were just unlucky, dija. Nine times.

Well not all guyz r the same here's an advice why dont u ask ur friends and some other guys about this guy ur in love with (for example) before going out with him. If he was a player then good ur saved from the prob. But if most of the ppl say he is a good angel guy thenn hmmm why dont u try for the 10th time, and u never know it migh work and change ur bad luck ;)
Remmber not all fingers r the same heheheh!

From your profile I gather you aren't yet twenty, so I honestly think that you need to lie back and just enjoy life while you can. Forget about boys!

Nine times is one time too many girl, just stay away from them till the right one comes along ;)

You had 9 BFs...? :app: kool.. get me one of them if they like boys..hehe :gap: ..hello..something wrong with you otherwise they wouldnt leave you like that... try to find out from some of the exs' reasons for leaving you.
hellow nothing is wrong wid me u know what the problem is that i am too good and that what makes them scroed up .... infact the one who cheated me ba sleeping wid a girl called to say that i am the best and aweeen he will never find a person like me well i hang the phone on his face LOL its really silly they do mistakes and when u dumped them ppl say that something s wrong with u :eyes: sheeeeeeeeeeeesh i am good with them. :Shock:

OUCH!
poor you dija (as I was registering I wanted DiJo to be my nick, but I was like they have a dija so I guess there is no need for a dijo lol ;P), anyhows lol 9 is just a big number did you ever make sure that the problem wasn’t in them?! maybe it's something you did or said (why do we girls always have to blame them the guys *I do that too:D* )..
Or maybe your personality doesn’t agree with the type of guys you choose..




i didnt do any thing wrong ask enigma if u dont believe me :irk: its that iam so sweet and good with them and they feel iam too good for them so how to make it equel go show her u r power and u r wanted and me ma self cant forgive someone like this i mean i can forgive him but keep onhatting him until evantuly i come to him and say dude iam soory its not gonna work out .... :D

iam so sweet and good with them and they feel iam too good for them :D
Duh how!.... I don’t believe you at all I want to see it than! If that is true! Cuz I never trust 99% of women in ma life!..... :D

Duh how!.... I don’t believe you at all I want to see it than! If that is true! Cuz I never trust 99% of women in ma life!..... :D


Duuuh i can be the 1% and u dont have to believe me and the thing is tha what am saying is true and hard to believe too cz men are like women and not defending one side there r a few good men and there are a few good women like ME...... not trying to be a show off or something but its true... :)

Duuuh i can be the 1% and u dont have to believe me and the thing is tha what am saying is true and hard to believe too cz men are like women and not defending one side there r a few good men and there are a few good women like ME...... not trying to be a show off or something but its true... :)
:D ..........Duh........"Clarity of mind means clarity of passion, too!....this is why a great and clear mind loves ardently and sees distinctly what it loves!"........(What we cannot speak of we must pass over in silence)...... :)

:D ..........Duh........"Clarity of mind means clarity of passion, too!....this is why a great and clear mind loves ardently and sees distinctly what it loves!"........(What we cannot speak of we must pass over in silence)...... :)

well this is the first time i agree with u all though i dont know what is that to do with ma topic.... :scratch:

well this is the first time i agree with u all though i dont know what is that to do with ma topic.... :scratch:
:D..........Aha haaa sister it has do with you’re subject, cuz you’re dealing with those crazy men not search us Manta!........... :laugh:

I think first of all ..you are an over-confident person..might be one of the reasons why they dont continue with you...could be you trying to convince your attitudes towards them...or you maybe try to impose things on them they dont agree with you...

As somebody mentioned above..seems you are young..maybe you need to enjoy yourself without being into a relatioship...leave it for a later stage..

Enjoy life...think before you make any step...judge your decision from all angles..always be wise...

Regards,,rev

First dija, I really want to say that I admire your honnesty, as it is not obvious for anyone to come forward and share with open heart any personal problems http://www.englishsabla.com/boy-i/Smilies/thumbsup.gif.

You certainly bring here a topic which I am sure is lived by many ladies outside and I will not be surprised if, like you, they don't know what to do to keep their relationship.

I believe that in general a relationship or even a marriage require a lots of thinking and compromise, if we want it to work! A relationship involves for a start two people and there is in both direction some 'give and take'.

If apparently all your relations so far are failing, this means that there is somewhere a problem. It doesn't necessarily mean that the problem is from your side, but it might be worth to try to find out.

...me ma self i had 9 BFs i loved 2 and the rest just playing around.
...in ma 9 realtionships i got experience bt pain is more then the useful stuff

Can I ask you why you agree to enter 7 relationships when you didn't love the man at the first place? Secondly why did you allow yourself to experience pain for 7 men you didn't love?

X-presss Good Question.. I also wanna know

I donno where we are heading.. but 9 boyfriends too much for you Dija and why playing arround with them.. Dont you have another activities in your life than these relationships?

Dija ... could you explain to me something;

I don't understand why you want to be in a relationship ... (ie with someone) ... but not give into it ... (ie intimacy, communication, time together, etc).

If you just want a 'man' or 'boyfriend' for the sake of having one ... (like Barbie needs Ken for show) ... than I'm sure you could get a blow-up doll ...

;)

I think first of all ..you are an over-confident person..might be one of the reasons why they dont continue with you...could be you trying to convince your attitudes towards them...or you maybe try to impose things on them they dont agree with you...

As somebody mentioned above..seems you are young..maybe you need to enjoy yourself without being into a relatioship...leave it for a later stage..

Enjoy life...think before you make any step...judge your decision from all angles..always be wise...

Regards,,rev

Well i am a confident person and that might be the reson why men get attracted to me and its not my problem that i am trying to meke them good i mean i love crazy wild men and they always have many probs and infact i had to deal with them smoking or drinking and i never complain bt i show them what s the effects and problems they get from it i never force any one to do any thing bt i tell them what i like and dilike and is it a broblem to be an understanable person.... and FYI all of them knows that they r the problem so for that they come baging for ma mercy bt i give it to them strate NO....

First dija, I really want to say that I admire your honnesty, as it is not obvious for anyone to come forward and share with open heart any personal problems http://www.englishsabla.com/boy-i/Smilies/thumbsup.gif.

You certainly bring here a topic which I am sure is lived by many ladies outside and I will not be surprised if, like you, they don't know what to do to keep their relationship.

I believe that in general a relationship or even a marriage require a lots of thinking and compromise, if we want it to work! A relationship involves for a start two people and there is in both direction some 'give and take'.

If apparently all your relations so far are failing, this means that there is somewhere a problem. It doesn't necessarily mean that the problem is from your side, but it might be worth to try to find out.



Can I ask you why you agree to enter 7 relationships when you didn't love the man at the first place? Secondly why did you allow yourself to experience pain for 7 men you didn't love?

actully i was with the 7 cz i was searching for the right one and i couldnt find one who can make me forget every thing and just think of him its all crazy i mean men be with women just for fun and the 7 knows that i wasnt in love with them i was just spending time with them and i know it silly and its like i am jobless or somthing bt its the truth and i am never afraid to say what i did even if it s wrong and stupid. i admit it i did so many bad things by playing with feelings bt i was hurt from the two guys i loved who broke ma heart and with no reason it makes me a person with no feelings or emotions bt thanx to god am ok now and i can control ma self and all what happened to me was a sad memory and inshallah ill get through it .....bt still i can never trust a guy even if he was an angel... :color:

X-presss Good Question.. I also wanna know

I donno where we are heading.. but 9 boyfriends too much for you Dija and why playing arround with them.. Dont you have another activities in your life than these relationships?


u got your answer ...happy :irk:

Dija ... could you explain to me something;

I don't understand why you want to be in a relationship ... (ie with someone) ... but not give into it ... (ie intimacy, communication, time together, etc).

If you just want a 'man' or 'boyfriend' for the sake of having one ... (like Barbie needs Ken for show) ... than I'm sure you could get a blow-up doll ...

;)

ha ha ha are u trying to be funny here ??cz hmmmm no body laughed not even ME ..... well i am not dieing for a realationship here dear pretender and u can not say such things and u dont know me for god sake u can not judje ppl like this ...... :no: anyways i didnt go after these men they came to me asking for having me as agirlfriend and i odnt know in every time i just say this might be the right one and infact i descover that i dont want him to be as alover bt i want him as a friend..... i can not know what i feel untill i be with them and know what i had to them was just liking and nothing more the saomthing like brothers and sisters...... :lost:

ha ha ha are u trying to be funny here ??cz hmmmm no body laughed not even ME ..... well i am not dieing for a realationship here dear pretender and u can not say such things and u dont know me for god sake u can not judje ppl like this ...... :no: anyways i didnt go after these men they came to me asking for having me as agirlfriend and i odnt know in every time i just say this might be the right one and infact i descover that i dont want him to be as alover bt i want him as a friend.....

Actually ... people were laughing over IM. :laugh:

But that's besides the point.

If these men 'chase' you 'all' the time you need learn the new word called: "NO"

Obviously the more you say: "YES" the more you will be asked out as you will be thought as 'available'.

It's pretty simple and requires only two letters (N and O).

Example, (this is the quick guide):

Guy 1: "Hi, I've noticed you around ... and I was wondering if we-"
Dija: "NO."
Guy 1: "But ..."
Dija: "I said NO!"
Guy 1: "Fine ..." (walks away feeling hurt for a few seconds than forgets about you forever).

Here's another:

Guy 2: "How long have we've known each other?"
Dija: "Hmmm ... a couple of months ..."
Guy 2:"Don't you think we should be more than friends?"
Dija: "Sorry, NO. I would be more comfortable if things don't change."

Simple? No?

Ask any girl older than you who has a balanced lifestyle ... or better think of this as practice when you get married ... you'll be telling you husband 'NO' a lot (just kiddin').

Seriously ... stop it now before you hurt someone else or yourself in the long-term.

:scratch:

what if it was Mr. Right?

she would never know...

u got your answer ...happy :irk:lol you know I am an old lady so I was just wondering is this right way of searching mr. right for you young ppl like you? I remember when I was young those boys use to freak me out and I never wanted to be involved with anyone... hey but life changes :bored:

I have a lil advice for you young lady Dija..

Love is like a butterfly . The more you chase it , the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often it hurts , but love's only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.

a free advice you can take it or leave it :)

Hi dear

Your prb got my attention cauz most girls now adays face it I wounder Y!!

Your prb has 2 sides to me, so I have 2 perspectives:
1st u can't be blamed cauz guys in the Middle East have been raised to belive there is no friendship between the man & the women & the only relationship they can involve in ia "the sexual intercourse" which girls call it "love"... this is how such selfish creatures entice some ladies.
(This is not generalization for all men in Midd. East, but mostly do think the same).

2ed I have to blam u cauz u gave the chance for these guys to use u!! you didn't think of it this way, u thought that u played at them & when u felt u got no special feelings for them u dumped them!! "But u r wrong" they used u by taking your time & playing with your feelings plus abusing your REPUTATION!! I'll qoute for u what guys will say to their peers even if U dumped them not them "She was very easy girl & I wouldn't accept going with such girl" :shut: Sorry for saying that but they really do say that (Trusted resources)..

Finally you r a worthy jewel don't let such guys to use u & satisfy their man ego . You gonna find Mr right & the love you deserve when its time comes don't be hurry ;) .
Belive me you gonna get the feeling u r looking at when u find some one who truley in love with u & wish to complete the rest of his life next to u..
This is man who goes directly to your house door not through the phone line or even the net, not who wanna hang around with ya only..

God bless u dear sis & good luck in your life ;)

...i didnt go after these men they came to me asking for having me as agirlfriend and i odnt know in every time i just say this might be the right one and infact i descover that i dont want him to be as alover bt i want him as a friend..... i can not know what i feel untill i be with them

Dija, it doesn't really matter if these men come to you or if you are the one to make the first move...either way, a man will always be willing to be with you if you show him an interest.

If you can not know how you feel unless you are with them, why don't your try to be their friends first, before being their 'girlfriend'? Nobody should just jump into a relationship and then see if there is any feelings or not.

You decide to enter a relationship because you are attracted to that person and because there are a lots of commun points you both share. Still this doesn't mean that you will not end up hurt, but at least you start that relationship based on real feelings and commun interest you both had.

My questions to you:

1) Is it possible for you to be first a friend with a man?

2) How do you feel when you are not in a relationship with a man?

what if it was Mr. Right?

she would never know...

She should concentrate on herself and Mr. Left cause 'love' will be IMPOSSIBLE to say 'NO' to.

Or am I being a little to simplistic and romantic about this?

:confused:

Actually ... people were laughing over IM. :laugh:

But that's besides the point.

If these men 'chase' you 'all' the time you need learn the new word called: "NO"

Obviously the more you say: "YES" the more you will be asked out as you will be thought as 'available'.

It's pretty simple and requires only two letters (N and O).

Example, (this is the quick guide):

Guy 1: "Hi, I've noticed you around ... and I was wondering if we-"
Dija: "NO."
Guy 1: "But ..."
Dija: "I said NO!"
Guy 1: "Fine ..." (walks away feeling hurt for a few seconds than forgets about you forever).

Here's another:

Guy 2: "How long have we've known each other?"
Dija: "Hmmm ... a couple of months ..."
Guy 2:"Don't you think we should be more than friends?"
Dija: "Sorry, NO. I would be more comfortable if things don't change."

Simple? No?

Ask any girl older than you who has a balanced lifestyle ... or better think of this as practice when you get married ... you'll be telling you husband 'NO' a lot (just kiddin').

Seriously ... stop it now before you hurt someone else or yourself in the long-term.

:scratch:

well iam always nice mr pretender its not that i wanna be nice in a stupid way bt its me cant change me cant be rode to someone even a guy i am always sweet and nice even to strangers....
let me tell you a story:
GUY: hi there wuts up?
Nice Dija: heyyyy.
Guy: Can i be your friend??
Sweet Dija: Sure ....
....Then we r friends then what ??? he start loving me cause aweeeeen i am nice and sweet... and i always make him laugh and i dunno what...

ppl ist aproblem to be cool with every one i know it is bt i cant change all though iam trying now.... :twitch:

lol you know I am an old lady so I was just wondering is this right way of searching mr. right for you young ppl like you? I remember when I was young those boys use to freak me out and I never wanted to be involved with anyone... hey but life changes :bored:

I have a lil advice for you young lady Dija..

Love is like a butterfly . The more you chase it , the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often it hurts , but love's only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.

a free advice you can take it or leave it :)

sorry for been angry at u bt i am really pissed off of things around me so thanks for the advice it really ment alot to me an inshallah ill try to make it up ma head always

what if it was Mr. Right?

she would never know...

thank you i hope ppl like pretender c it your way :app:

Hi dear

Your prb got my attention cauz most girls now adays face it I wounder Y!!

Your prb has 2 sides to me, so I have 2 perspectives:
1st u can't be blamed cauz guys in the Middle East have been raised to belive there is no friendship between the man & the women & the only relationship they can involve in ia "the sexual intercourse" which girls call it "love"... this is how such selfish creatures entice some ladies.
(This is not generalization for all men in Midd. East, but mostly do think the same).

2ed I have to blam u cauz u gave the chance for these guys to use u!! you didn't think of it this way, u thought that u played at them & when u felt u got no special feelings for them u dumped them!! "But u r wrong" they used u by taking your time & playing with your feelings plus abusing your REPUTATION!! I'll qoute for u what guys will say to their peers even if U dumped them not them "She was very easy girl & I wouldn't accept going with such girl" :shut: Sorry for saying that but they really do say that (Trusted resources)..

Finally you r a worthy jewel don't let such guys to use u & satisfy their man ego . You gonna find Mr right & the love you deserve when its time comes don't be hurry ;) .
Belive me you gonna get the feeling u r looking at when u find some one who truley in love with u & wish to complete the rest of his life next to u..
This is man who goes directly to your house door not through the phone line or even the net, not who wanna hang around with ya only..

God bless u dear sis & good luck in your life ;)

I agree with you totly honey but the thing is it s not that i am easy with guys its just that i give them trust and i believe them and give them the chance cuz i believe that every one should be given a chance even if he was the devlished person on earth . God gives ppl a chance why cant i and i am just a person...well untill today non of these guys known ma point of been with them which is to try to have something nice even if it was bad and nasty.... i hope just one day ill find the right one even though i dont think that i can trust a guy any more... :duck:

so u mean u were dating 7 guyz that u never even loved just because u were searching for that MrPerfect?!
Ok im sorry to say this but i consider this selfishness.

*First of all because u are playin with the guy's feelings and lieing to him (and u should never ever do that in a realtionship no matter wha kinda of guy u r dealing with).

*Secondly that might be the reason why the guys didnt turn out as u wanted to be i.e a perfect lad. I mean if the guy knows that u dont love him nor have feelings towards him, do u expect him to treat u well or even respect u?!! He would be like ohh im dealing with this lady whos playing around with me, doesnt really love me but just going out with me, so this is more than perfect i could play around with her too!

I'm sorry if i said anythin that might have hurt ur feelings but what i had said is true well that in my opinion or wha do u guyz say?!

Dija, it doesn't really matter if these men come to you or if you are the one to make the first move...either way, a man will always be willing to be with you if you show him an interest.

If you can not know how you feel unless you are with them, why don't your try to be their friends first, before being their 'girlfriend'? Nobody should just jump into a relationship and then see if there is any feelings or not.

You decide to enter a relationship because you are attracted to that person and because there are a lots of commun points you both share. Still this doesn't mean that you will not end up hurt, but at least you start that relationship based on real feelings and commun interest you both had.


u know hon its true what u r saying and i did that i mean i am been there friend first but they rush with me i dont know why after 3 days they come and say heydija i am falling in love wid u.... and i get shocked i know that i like him bt i just cant let him go cz he fell for me..... its hared to explain bt i can not push ppl a way from me i love having friends around me... well its a prbolem n ill try to say NO more bt i did try every thing and its not ma falt they rush i really tried not to bt i cant control it.... right now i dont think that ill search for mr right ill wait and leave it to God.... :)

so u mean u were dating 7 guyz that u never even loved just because u were searching for that MrPerfect?!
Ok im sorry to say this but i consider this selfishness.

*First of all because u are playin with the guy's feelings and lieing to him (and u should never ever do that in a realtionship no matter wha kinda of guy u r dealing with).

*Secondly that might be the reason why the guys didnt turn out as u wanted to be i.e a perfect lad. I mean if the guy knows that u dont love him nor have feelings towards him, do u expect him to treat u well or even respect u?!! He would be like ohh im dealing with this lady whos playing around with me, doesnt really love me but just going out with me, so this is more than perfect i could play around with her too!

I'm sorry if i said anythin that might have hurt ur feelings but what i had said is true well that in my opinion or wha do u guyz say?!

Dear dear dear no u didnt hurt me infact all what u have said its true and i know it from the begining but the thing u dont know i played with 7 but 9 played with ma feelings so dont come and say that i am SELFISH cz i am not the guys i v known were animals and i didnt know thaqt untill i fell for two but thank god i didnt use ma pure feelings to the other 7 ...... when i love i love from the bottom of ma heart and what i get is NOTHING so i am a bad person for using those 7 but they were *** two... and no in all ma realtionships i kept ma self respect and those animals kept it two cz if u werent respectable to u r self no one will respect u and i did respect me and them so i got that from them two.... :)

i played with 7 but 9 played with ma feelings so dont come and say that i am SELFISH

Well lets say the 2 guyz who u loved were bad boys who only wanted to play around with ya but u know guyz could be so good acters sometimes, well and to ur bad luck u belived them.
Ok so u loved the 2 guyz and they didnt, and there u are playin with the 7 guyz and as what u said they knew that u were just playing around with ya! So would u expect them not to play around with ya and THEY KNOW THAT U R PLAYING AROUND WITH THEM?! :lost:

abusing your REPUTATION!! I'll qoute for u what guys will say to their peers even if U dumped them not them "She was very easy girl & I wouldn't accept going with such girl"

This is so true el7elwa sometimes guyz could be such a pain!!! ruining a gals reputation and spreading bad rumours about her eveywhere! :fire:

what if it was Mr. Right?
She would never know...

Kama i dont agree with ya at all... She doesnt have to find for the Mr. Right, not at the moment atleast. But if she was with this guy who she heared from ppl that he's kind and not a devil then thats ok.

Dont look for love, let it find you. That's all I can say.

men men men cant live with out them cant live with them. :lost:

1) me ma self i had 9 BFs i loved 2 and the rest just playing around. but what did i get from it happiness at first then pain and damage. imean u can not trust boys these days.

2) in ma 9 realtionships i got experience bt pain is more then the useful stuff.

3) what u r an animal u cant control u r needs its totly imposible....i dont understand why should i love boys why should i be with them



doesnt that sound like u were a playa.. :rolleyes: :lost: .. what would u expect..them not FINDING out..what r u NUTZ :duh: :os !!.. i mean if they really did found out..ofcourse they'll try 2 use u no questions asked @ all :bored: !! & ofcourse ull suffer wit pain unless u stop going out with more then O-N-E guy..then u can be HAPPY.. :gap: .. n speaking of needs..why r blamming 'em..when ur the one who cant control your needs..!! :scratch: might i add.."MAN DO HAVE FEELINGS TOO.."

sorry if i am harsh wit' you..but you asked...n well we give it 2 u.. :angel:

why do u ppl BLAME me????
a guy is a playa thats fine but a girl NO and a gal ddnt play she told them the truth .i told them that we r just friends and they ddnt exepted they want more then that n i dont want to lose them ..... as FRIENDS and only friends.

:help: :help: HELP :help: :help:

why do u ppl BLAME me????
a guy is a playa thats fine but a girl NO and a gal ddnt play she told them the truth .i told them that we r just friends and they ddnt exepted they want more then that n i dont want to lose them ..... as FRIENDS and only friends.

:help: :help: HELP :help: :help:


No, that aint fine if a man is a PLAYA ... but nothing would happen much with his reputation unlike the girl...NOW YOU GET IT.. ..I HOPE THE GOING OUT PART WAS AN INNOCENT OUTTING TOO..n if u wanna tell the guy that its a going out mal Friends only..then you should it BEFORE it gets DEEPER ... coz i lost my best friend coz i didnt tell him earlier..so dnt keep on doing the same mistake again n again..

but dont u think u're being too full of yourself, i mean sentences like " i'm too good for them, i'm too confindent, "

i ll tell u why your relationships dont work, its becaouse u r taking it as if u r doing the guy a favor by being with him, no guy with pride tolerates that.

thank you i hope ppl like pretender c it your way :app:

So you are saying that you are promiscous and lack any sort of thoughtfulness on why you want to be with someone and who it is because really ... deep down inside ... you are "looking for love"?

:scratch:

As much as we got men out there who their hobbies is to play around with women, than for sure we got that kind of women who just love to play around with the nasty tails with men!!!

To some, this is something really nice. and very exciting. But they won;t really realize how bad it is, unless they are once caught in a position where they are being played with, while they were really falling for that person!!!

Once you play with fire, you should expect it to burn you! :rolleyes:

9 times!!!!! what are you? a bicycle?

As much as we got men out there who their hobbies is to play around with women, than for sure we got that kind of women who just love to play around with the nasty tails with men!!!

To some, this is something really nice. and very exciting. But they won;t really realize how bad it is, unless they are once caught in a position where they are being played with, while they were really falling for that person!!!

Once you play with fire, you should expect it to burn you! :rolleyes:

No one could have said it better :app:

9 times!!!!! what are you? a bicycle?


lolz :haha: :angel:

No, that aint fine if a man is a PLAYA ... but nothing would happen much with his reputation unlike the girl...NOW YOU GET IT.. ..I HOPE THE GOING OUT PART WAS AN INNOCENT OUTTING TOO..n if u wanna tell the guy that its a going out mal Friends only..then you should it BEFORE it gets DEEPER ... coz i lost my best friend coz i didnt tell him earlier..so dnt keep on doing the same mistake again n again..

WHY WHY why nothing happened to his ****ing reputation why do u ppl c that men r different from women... HON i am not a playa even if i was i would use those stupied men bt i ddnt i was with them as friends and i saw them as friends i liked them though bt i never NEVER say to them that i love them n its not wrong to be with someone u dont love well it like experience n FYI they were great with me they ddnt use me i mean we were friends before girlfriend boyfrind thingy pluss when i broke up with each one of them i ddnt hurt them it was a me n him who deside that n hurt was never there between us hurt and pain was with the one i loved n just from ba ma side......

but dont u think u're being too full of yourself, i mean sentences like " i'm too good for them, i'm too confindent, "

i ll tell u why your relationships dont work, its becaouse u r taking it as if u r doing the guy a favor by being with him, no guy with pride tolerates that.

Hon the too good n confidant part was not for the 7 was for the two i loved they saw how good am with them n they got scared that i can be the good part in ma realationship with them . well i ddnt get this information from the begining bt a dear firiend who studied sycology told me this.... well i know am wrong in a way but dafinitly the broblem not me......

As much as we got men out there who their hobbies is to play around with women, than for sure we got that kind of women who just love to play around with the nasty tails with men!!!

To some, this is something really nice. and very exciting. But they won;t really realize how bad it is, unless they are once caught in a position where they are being played with, while they were really falling for that person!!!

Once you play with fire, you should expect it to burn you! :rolleyes:

true what u r saying bt u can control fire n stop it ..

9 times!!!!! what are you? a bicycle?

well no i am motorcycle!!!!! :6:

No one could have said it better :app:
i ddnt know tht u cant talk for u r self n there s someone who talks for u .. well thanx u told me so when i feel tiered n i cant write ill let someone writ for me!! :shut:

lolz :haha: :angel:
is that sO funny ??? well i think u r funny for laughing for that ...
LOoL s at u honey :haha: :D

before goin though all of what above.. how old Are you Dija..

If you're convinced that men are the scum of the earth, then why even bother giving them chances when you're determined not to let anyone change your mind about them?

I mean, I don't like men very much (generally speaking, ofcourse), but if someone came alone and proved to me that not all men are *******s, that'd be fine with me. I'd actually like that.

One thing I've noticed from your posts is that you complain about something, and when someone tries to advise you, or replies with a certain comment, you go on and say "You don't know me so don't bla bla bla". Doesn't look like you're prepared to listen to anyone, so why bother even asking for advice? :os

One thing I've noticed from your posts is that you complain about something, and when someone tries to advise you, or replies with a certain comment, you go on and say "You don't know me so don't bla bla bla". Doesn't look like you're prepared to listen to anyone, so why bother even asking for advice? :os

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WHY WHY why nothing happened to his ****ing reputation why do u ppl c that men r different from women... HON i am not a playa even if i was i would use those stupied men bt i ddnt i was with them as friends and i saw them as friends i liked them though bt i never NEVER say to them that i love them n its not wrong to be with someone u dont love well it like experience n FYI they were great with me they ddnt use me i mean we were friends before girlfriend boyfrind thingy pluss when i broke up with each one of them i ddnt hurt them it was a me n him who deside that n hurt was never there between us hurt and pain was with the one i loved n just from ba ma side......


why do u ppl c that men r different from women
they are not..but prob. is its the society that we r livin' in hun..! :shoot: :angre:

and 4 the rest of the stuff u've explained..then why are u complaining if everythin' is ok now!! :bored:


is that sO funny ??? well i think u r funny for laughing for that ...
LOoL s at u honey

well hun..it sounded funny 2 me.. :angel: :color:

If you're convinced that men are the scum of the earth, then why even bother giving them chances when you're determined not to let anyone change your mind about them?

I mean, I don't like men very much (generally speaking, ofcourse), but if someone came alone and proved to me that not all men are *******s, that'd be fine with me. I'd actually like that.

One thing I've noticed from your posts is that you complain about something, and when someone tries to advise you, or replies with a certain comment, you go on and say "You don't know me so don't bla bla bla". Doesn't look like you're prepared to listen to anyone, so why bother even asking for advice? :os

couldnt have said it better maself...n yeah Dija..girl..i aint against ya or anythin'..trust me im cool wit' ya.. :kewl: :angel: :)

before goin though all of what above.. how old Are you Dija..
18 WHY????

If you're convinced that men are the scum of the earth, then why even bother giving them chances when you're determined not to let anyone change your mind about them?

I mean, I don't like men very much (generally speaking, ofcourse), but if someone came alone and proved to me that not all men are *******s, that'd be fine with me. I'd actually like that.

One thing I've noticed from your posts is that you complain about something, and when someone tries to advise you, or replies with a certain comment, you go on and say "You don't know me so don't bla bla bla". Doesn't look like you're prepared to listen to anyone, so why bother even asking for advice? :os

Sweety i dont know am kind of angry of every thing so excuse me for been an *** hole wid u all but ill try to take u r advice if u give it to me in the right way not ba blaming me n not understand me..... :)

Sweety i dont know am kind of angry of every thing so excuse me for been an *** hole wid u all but ill try to take u r advice if u give it to me in the right way not ba blaming me n not understand me..... :)


If you're angry and need to vent out your anger, then fine, no one is stopping you. I didn't say that you could not talk about it here.
I just think that you have the wrong attitude because when people are merely trying to help you, you immediately lash out and take everything personally. If you're not prepared to accept people's ideas or thoughts with an open mind, then why are you even asking us what we think?

I'm just stating what I have observed. :)

*cough cough* :bored:
its always on the man...
well women r complicated, when u dont give em no face, they come after u, but when u show em that u care for them, they play hard to get or some of that typa sh!t !! :bang: :bang:

Im sorry I cant have any sympathy with you. You say you had 9, 7 of which were just playing around. What can I say, maybe the flaw is with you.

18 even. Goodness, how long did each last, on average?

true what u r saying bt u can control fire n stop it ..

Very true - but what even play with fire in the first place sweet?! :rolleyes:

I don't think that there is something inherently wrong with your ex-BFs, dija. This is only "natural," and expecting events to turn out otherwise is comparable to standing on the tip of a cliff and expecting to emerge unscathed.

The problem here is the attitude that has crept into western society, and other societies as well, that long-term intergender relationships outside of marriage, i.e., having a "BF"/"GF" is a legitimate, appropriate way to behave. This is a recent historical invention, and the "experiment" has been costly.

We must return to the modest ways of the past, when boys and girls met with the intention of marriage, and even if they did live together outside of marriage, it shamed them. They married earlier and undertook family responsibilities earlier, did not practice "family planning," and raised their children in segregated schools.

Only then will youth be spared the misery that you descibe, that is so prevalent nowadays.

I agree with monotheism. Western society today basically centers around relationships, which is unfortunate.

I.e., non-marital relationships. Meeting someone with the stated intention of considering for marriage is positive.

There's a great book by Wendy Shalit called A Return to Modesty on the general subject--highly recommended.

Jeeeez ... I was justing doing the numbers and rates ... and I've figured out Dija will be TWICE the slag I am at my age ...

Okay, umm out of all those relationships, the only constant is you. So I'm guessing either you're doing something wrong, or you're just plain unlucky! :os

did you meet these boys via a match-maker, dija? if not, that's where you went wrong, IMHO, because in that case, one knows from the outset that the other person is not necessarily seriously considering marriage

Time Magazine

April 16, 2001

Puppy Love's Bite

Romance is great for adults. But a new study finds it can lead to depression for the young

BY AMY DIKINSON

Even now, decades later, I can remember that first romance--the notes passed at school, the endless discussions with my girlfriends containing the phrase "I know he likes me, but does he, like, like me?" Young love is bound to induce adolescent inanities, but it can also lead to serious depression, suicide and even homicide. (Andy Williams, the accused killer of two students at Santee High School, told friends he was despondent over a relationship at the time of the shooting.) Grownups may know enough to brace themselves for at least some relationship difficulties, but for kids, everything about romance comes as a shock--straight to the heart.

As a divorced parent of a 12-year-old, I have fumbled for answers to my daughter's tentative queries about romance. "It's like being an actor in the best movie you've ever seen, but you never get to see the script, and no one will tell you how the movie ends," I told her. This didn't have quite the elucidating effect I was looking for. She looked as if she wanted to call her agent immediately.

A recent study of 8,000 adolescents in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior shows that love can be hell, especially when it strikes young. Although steady romantic attachments tend to increase the health and well-being of adults, those relationships are a great source of stress for adolescents and can lead to depression, the study says. Kara Joyner, a sociologist at Cornell and co-author of the study, said, "Girls become more depressed than boys, and younger girls are the worst off of all."

A possible reason for the link between romance and higher risk of depression for girls is "loss of self." A new University of Tennessee study of 1,300 high schoolers shows that even though boys say they "lose themselves in a romantic relationship," this loss of self is much more likely to lead to depression when it happens to girls. Romantically involved adolescent girls tend to submerge their feelings and opinions and estrange themselves from friends and family.

Dr. Miriam Kaufman, a pediatrician and author of the very helpful book Overcoming Teen Depression: A Guide for Parents (Firefly Books), says 15% to 20% of teens--especially younger teens--will have diagnosable depression at some time during their adolescence, often triggered by romantic involvements or breakups. "I advise kids not to jump into romances too early, because young adolescence is a time for girls to cement their friendships, and strong friendships--and a strong sense of self--help kids through the tough times," she told me. "Unfortunately, some parents are overly invested in their daughters' love lives before they're ready. They think if she has a 'boyfriend,' that means she's popular." Kaufman suggests that parents actively encourage their younger teens to stay involved with their friends and activities and spend time hanging out in groups and with family--with and without their "crushes."

Parents should watch for signs of depression--increased isolation and sleep, eating or mood changes--and if they see these symptoms in their daughter or son for more than two weeks, get professional help. The good news is that the link between romance and depression seems to level off with age. Love will always make us feel like teenagers, but maturity gives us a chance to avoid the worst side effects.

Thanx for the advices guy .

maybe you just natutally gravitate towards cheaters!! what about dating guys who youve been close friends with first? that way youll know each other really well, all the history and stuff and if you knew he was a cheater going in , then you have no one but yourself to blame. anyways you dont always have to have a boyfriend right? i personally like it when all the guys i know are good friends, life is so much easier that way!! you dont have to worry about what your gonna say and how they will react and stuff... if you feel like you have to be 'with' someone all the time, then you have some self-esteem issues, girl!!

What about not dating, getting educated, and learning some self-respect instead of defining your own worth by how much stupid young guys want to nail you?

Wake up and smell the coffee Dija: It's not because you're sweet and cute, and it's not because they love you. It's because young boys will sleep with anything. I mean ANYTHING. And they'll do or say anything to sleep with you once they know you're a "go-er".

You have a serious self-esteem issue, child. Look within.

What about not dating, getting educated, and learning some self-respect instead of defining your own worth by how much stupid young guys want to nail you?

Spot on! :app: :app: :app:

18 WHY????


so young to speak about some serious relations.

yeah i say just live ur life, as someone once said "single, sexy & free" u don't need a guy to complete u. The guy in ur life doesn't complete u, you complete you.
So take a bit of a breather, and chiiiiiiill, spend more time with ur friends than shabaab. And see how things go!! and try not to give all of urself up ! as soon as a guy finds out tht a person is "easy" they go for them straight away, with one goal. they don't care abt ur feelings.. boys will be boys.. if u dont "give them any" and they still want to be with u, then hey maybe its true..
but in my opinion i'd say to lay low for a while :)

dija, what is your point this thread? Are you trying to express your feeling on the relationships which you've had? Or just trying to say men are all alike, and they are animals?

haha well sum men r animals don but iv decided to stay away frm them now!

haha well sum men r animals don but iv decided to stay away frm them now!


Yeah, just wait for Prince Charming to come along! :gap: