sex sex sex.. why the hell ppl think that sex is heven? i mean what make it special ? what do you get from it? why cant men wait to have it the right way ?
all what i know that i dont think that ill injoy it. infact i think it will just bring pain and harm to me.
but for men it s the power. its what make's them men . hey hey hey i am a man i slept with this gal. this is what sex means to men . showing off that they have it all . they can do it , they can control it and they can injoy it. but onlu one question to you ma broders WHY cant you wait?:fire:

hi there...first of all...strange why 69!? sex has different ideas and positions..eh!.:scratch: ,,,

anyway it's not why cant they wait...it's until when to wait...ok i suppose i am talkin about those who dont have money to get married..(proper way!)... we see lots of guys in their mid-twenties still unemployed...do you think it's easy for them to wait...and to wait until when?,,, ok i aint defending them...i aint telling go and have sex improperly...but they are still humanbeings!! they need to satisfy their pleasure!! ...so...we need a solution? temporary marriage maybe? ...I wouldnt blame such guys...!!!

Originally posted by dija
sex sex sex.. why the hell ppl think that sex is heven? i mean what make it special ? what do you get from it? why cant men wait to have it the right way ?
but for men it s the power. its what make's them men .

That's because people do have sexual needs. Yup, they are needs, not wants. That's how humans are. It varies from person to person on how strong that need is. Some people get very frustrated and unhappy if they don't get it. While for others it doesn't bother them at all if they don't get it.

all what i know that i dont think that ill injoy it. infact i think it will just bring pain and harm to me.

Plz take a look at the health and education sabla :weep: . Anyway you wait till you get married ;) . Sex is not harmful at all and is enjoyable, unless you've already decided psycologically that it will be harmful.

DUDE if you cant wait then do you wanna make "ZENA" ? then you cant be wid de girl you slept with even if you love her. cz as we all know u cant marry a girl who u slept wid acording to our "deen" system.:yes:

sweetie sophis you dont know me to say that i didnt do it . i know what i am talking abt and i know how i feel abt it . and FYI harm and pain is not just physicly its mently more then it harms the body dear. a man uses a girl's love to sleep wid her then what . i will marry you hon ill ask for your hand thats all what he say just to get what he wants. because the gal is naeiv she agrees. then the big boom i cant marry you cz you r a ***** who agrees to sleep wid me you should value your body more i dont want agirl like you.
thats pain and harm hon :irk:

Originally posted by dija
sweetie sophis you dont know me to say that i didnt do it . i know what i am talking abt and i know how i feel abt it

:Shock:


I was answering the question in terms of how sex is generally and why people want it.

Originally posted by dija
DUDE if you cant wait then do you wanna make "ZENA" ? then you cant be wid de girl you slept with even if you love her. cz as we all know u cant marry a girl who u slept wid acording to our "deen" system.:yes:

That's only with the Ibadhi mathhab.

all what i know that i dont think that ill injoy it. infact i think it will just bring pain and harm to me.

sweetie sophis you dont know me to say that i didnt do it . i know what i am talking abt and i know how i feel abt it .

You contradict yourself unless was a typing mistake.

a man uses a girl's love to sleep wid her then what .

You sound smart enough to think well about your acts so is up to you to decide if doing it with the right person before marriage or not and what the consequences will be.

As sophis stated, sex is more of a 'need' than something to be wanted, and it's within human nature to fulfill its every need. Some men don't care how they achieve it as long as it's achieved and some care enough to wait for the right time. :) , same goes to women too.. and not only men. ;)

You sound smart enough to think well about your acts so is up to you to decide if doing it with the right person before marriage or not and what the consequences will be.

well if a guy loves me he will never think of sleeping wid me thats what i think . i dont trust guys cz as we all gals know guys r playes they do what they want and gets what they want then what NOTHING ....

Originally posted by dija
You sound smart enough to think well about your acts so is up to you to decide if doing it with the right person before marriage or not and what the consequences will be.

well if a guy loves me he will never think of sleeping wid me thats what i think . i dont trust guys cz as we all gals know guys r playes they do what they want and gets what they want then what NOTHING ....

Not all guys are players , and infact sometimes guys can be more respectable than girls. ;) , having this idea of guys are players is just negative. u just watch out for yourself and choose a guy with good charactaristics..and surely u wont fail. but if u want the outgoing cool hot guy that everygirl wants.. then well u'll probably end up with a player who only wants to get into your pants and then let u go. :)

As sophis stated, sex is more of a 'need' than something to be wanted, and it's within human nature to fulfill its every need. Some men don't care how they achieve it as long as it's achieved and some care enough to wait for the right time. , same goes to women too.. and not only men.

nabhan i know that sex is a need but we r not animals we can control it aaiit. and dont tell me that if u need sex u r gonna go wid any girl . ppl i am talking abt something that is not allowed to be done before marrige in our socity.i know me i am not gonna do it unless i lost ma mind or gone crazy....

If sex was that much of a need (you guys make it sound like food) then I don't think Allah SWT would have prohibited sex before marriage AND sex with someone other than your spouse.

But, as it is one of the more hungry desires Islam encouraged people to get married young.

The problem nowdays is that the age for marriage has gone up, not just the age but the qualifications like money, job & status. So guys (and girls) are kinda left frusterated. But that's not to say that they cannot control themselves, we're not animals are we? I will give an explanation for their behaviour but it isn't under any circumstances an EXCUSE.

And hey, if you read up on fatwas about masturbation you'll find that its allowed for those who cannot 'control' themselves and fear sin!

nabhan i am not saying that all boys r playes but dude most of them r they just think live your life like you r dieng tomorrow.. ya3ny sleep wid her if u get the chance.

Originally posted by dija
nabhan i am not saying that all boys r playes but dude most of them r they just think live your life like you r dieng tomorrow.. ya3ny sleep wid her if u get the chance.

LOL.. :D , well i wont deny that you're right there.

GO enigi GO:app:

ok am lost. dija... what are you trying to tell us is not new..ppl do mistakes...other ppl dont care about religion...others dont think that you can have sex only after merriage.. it is totaly up to them... I dont see why are you so upset

ok am lost. dija... what are you trying to tell us is not new..ppl do mistakes...other ppl dont care about religion...others dont think that you can have sex only after merriage.. it is totaly up to them... I dont see why are you so upset

sweetness its not that am upset or something its just that i am angry"well its worse then upset" i am shocked of how low and silly ppl think nowadays they only think of now not tomorrow what if a guy slept wid a girl which she do it just for him n he s not planing to marry her ok :no: and then she got pragnant whats the use of been in such position why do i wanna make ma family upset and ruen their and ma raputaion its unbelieveable ppl do things with out thinking and it s really commen now.. :Shock:

ok gal no need to be upset .. Not only now days that men thinks of sex? even before they were thinking of sex but it is good that you are smart enough to know that some men are bu$tard and you shouldnt fall in their dirty hand... and some gals are just so fool to know that...

hey but why did you say sex 69?

sex 69 hhhhhmmmmm well i dont know i thought of it to get ppls atantion and well its good isnt it..... :blush:

sex 69 hhhhhmmmmm well i dont know i thought of it to get ppls atantion and well its good isnt it..... :blush:

Ever tried it?... nah it;s not good.. other positions are much better :hyper:

Sex is the most weakness desiers in human beings and that is why people should think and use their brain before making a big mistake

How about 96 :scratch:

Hey dija as most of the ppl said sex is the most weakness desiers in human but there is something called controlling urself! Thats goes to both sexs male and female. But i think these days sex is like a normal thing to do, ppl dont think about it in the religious way; they just follow their desiers and thats really so bad! So i guess girls should be so so careful not do this big mistake "having sex before marriage" coz when she one day gets married and this guy gets to know shes not a virgin he will just take her back to her parent's house than whats gonna happen? Will the guy get harmed? NO, he will live happily ever after have children and grandchildren too. But the gurl is the one who will just sit in her place with no one to get married to.

But dija u should never put in ur mind that sex is harmful and blah blah blah dont u want to get married? Its "sonat elhayaa" isnt it?

Ever tried it?... nah it;s not good.. other positions are much better :hyper:

I hope you're married...

But dija u should never put in ur mind that sex is harmful and blah blah blah dont u want to get married? Its "sonat elhayaa" isnt it?[/QUOTE]

well thanks and i know it is but i am talking before marrige and a guy cant make a realationship without asking agirl sleep wid me babe i mean what the hell r they thinking.... :lost:

sex 69 hhhhhmmmmm well i dont know i thought of it to get ppls atantion and well its good isnt it..... :blush: madri... is it good? I also donno :angel:

Hi 'dija' and welcome to the sabla as it is the first time for me to see your nick.

I can't help but to be slightly confused about all your posts and I can't really pin-point the main problem here. Overall, it seems you are asking many questions....

~ revolving aroung men's attitude when it comes to relationship and their apparent desire to be sexual active too.

~ At the same time, you seem to enquire as to why they can't appreciate a girl without wanting to sleep with her.

~You also talk about the problem of girls nowadays having intercourses before marriage simply to please their 'men' and they sadly end up pregnant out a wedlock.

~ You also ask why people sex is heaven or so special?

However, out of all this, there is really one sentence you wrote which really striked me the most and which is:


...all what i know that i dont think that ill injoy it. infact i think it will just bring pain and harm to me.


Even if all the questions you asked above were answered, why are you so negative about how sex is or should be?

As you made this personal remark, I hope you will not mind me bringing two senarios here: either you never had intercourse before or you already had at least one encounter (Please don't reveal anything!)

1) If you never had intercourse before: What make you think that sex is not special and worst that it will only harm you? Did your friends or relatives shared with you negative stories?

2) If you already had intercourse: If you already feel that sex is nothing special and can only bring pain to you, didn't you ever think that maybe the partner(s) you had were probably not the right one for you...or that your partner(s) didn't know what to do to make your sexual experience an heavenly one?

I hope you're married...

Nope...I am not marrried..not even thinking to get married soon..but we learn..we watch..we experience..

well i;v heared stories and lots of ones and the way ppl do sex around me and why made me feel that sex is something not good and there s nothing special abt it its only somthing joyable at the moment then NOTHING....

Dija, I found it very sad that you think that way and I am sure you are not the only one. I was always surprised to hear so many negative (if not horrible) stories when it comes to intimity between a man and a woman here. I don't really know if it is something wrong in this side of the world, but there is definitely something not right.

I am not going to say that I am a pro-sex advocate, but to my opinion (and I believe to the opinion of many) there is nothing as wanderful in a relationship/marriage then being intimate, giving loved and being loved in return. Love making is an art of its own and can bring tremendous physical as well as mental well-being. I think the french, the italians, and even many arabs will agree with me :).

Dija, I really hope you will try not to listen to all this bad stories people tell you and just give yourself the chance to experience things on your own with time and without being under the influence of what is surely wrong. If you find MrRight and he knows what to do, I can assure you that you will be pleasantly surprised! ;)

You sound smart enough to think well about your acts so is up to you to decide if doing it with the right person before marriage or not and what the consequences will be.

well if a guy loves me he will never think of sleeping wid me thats what i think . i dont trust guys cz as we all gals know guys r playes they do what they want and gets what they want then what NOTHING ....


well not all men are players.... and maybe you banged on them... but definately there are men who are so decent....

sweetie sophis you dont know me to say that i didnt do it . i know what i am talking abt and i know how i feel abt it . and FYI harm and pain is not just physicly its mently more then it harms the body dear. a man uses a girl's love to sleep wid her then what . i will marry you hon ill ask for your hand thats all what he say just to get what he wants. because the gal is naeiv she agrees. then the big boom i cant marry you cz you r a ***** who agrees to sleep wid me you should value your body more i dont want agirl like you.
thats pain and harm hon :irk:



well some guys are players and some girls are stupid to agree to do such a thing....

Dija, I found it very sad that you think that way and I am sure you are not the only one. I was always surprised to hear so many negative (if not horrible) stories when it comes to intimity between a man and a woman here. I don't really know if it is something wrong in this side of the world, but there is definitely something not right.

I am not going to say that I am a pro-sex advocate, but to my opinion (and I believe to the opinion of many) there is nothing as wanderful in a relationship/marriage then being intimate, giving loved and being loved in return. Love making is an art of its own and can bring tremendous physical as well as mental well-being. I think the french, the italians, and even many arabs will agree with me :).

Dija, I really hope you will try not to listen to all this bad stories people tell you and just give yourself the chance to experience things on your own with time and without being under the influence of what is surely wrong. If you find MrRight and he knows what to do, I can assure you that you will be pleasantly surprised! ;)

hon its not that hate sex its just that ppl made me feel that way i mean when ever am with a guy the talk of the hour is sex or even if he ddnt he got to get in it in a way ...... guys r animals sometimes "not all of them though"..

well not all men are players.... and maybe you banged on them... but definately there are men who are so decent....
hope to c one..... :)

hope to c one..... :)

Hi. Nice to meet you too. :)

Hi. Nice to meet you too. :)

:irk: hhhhmmmm it seems that u r sOoOoOo confidant .... heeey there :gap:

Dija- you should never consider sex as just an act. It involves many levels and factors to make it enjoyable or in a negative aspect….not that great.
There is so much more which includes emotional; foreplay; touch; kissing etc. As Xpress has addressed with you it is shocking that you have such an negative impression about the most natural thing in the world.

As for ‘’players’’ and being cheated than that mentality of sick childish brainless men. Who want nothing in life but to waste time and find their next conquest. A girl/women should value herself and realize what sort of relationship she is living. There are ‘7ikam’-wisdom as to why we have been told to wait till after marriage….

Inshallah you will find the right person who would change your perception

Plz take a look at the health and education sabla :weep: . Anyway you wait till you get married ;) . Sex is not harmful at all and is enjoyable, unless you've already decided psycologically that it will be harmful.

You seem to be something of an expert. No wonder all the Sabla guys are after you ;)

The funny thing is that she/he is talking how this sex issue is important to man and how she/he does not really understand or agree, yet the topic has a 69?! whats the connection?! :lost:

Neens she wanted to catch ppl's attention I beleave

Dija...Nice one here! Straight-forward and to the point!
I think of sex as a way of continuing life. Like food and water. It's not that important for the first glance, but later on, you know it's vital. Not because of the feeling you get from having sex, it's just because if our race has to continue, we have to reproduce: and obviously we can't reproduce except by means of sex.

Now men, and women today, think of sex as a tool for happiness. They think that you get a euphoric feeling during sex (which is kinda right) but that's not the whole point about sex. Sex is of SECONDARY importance, nor primary importance. However it is important, but not vital. At some point (especially in teenage years) sex becomes more interesting to individuals. It's not because they know about it, it's just because it's something new to know about. Something exciting in their point of view. THAT'S why they like to brag about sex, in their minds it improves their image in front of their society...So, that's that!

I think the french, the italians, and even many arabs will agree with me

Apparently the rest of the world do it as a medical procedure.


Dija,

From my experience, I would apply the following general rule: Sex can be fantastic, and the more you and your partner love, respect, trust and understand each other, the better it will be. If you're uncomfortable about it for any reason, or the emotional side just isn't there, then it isn't worth it. So marry someone you have a wonderful relatiosnhip with in general, communicate with each other and find out about each other's needs, and hopefully it will be wonderful for you too.

Seems to me your problem is more about finding a guy to trust. If that's it, just hang in there: You are still young, and he is out there somewhere.

sex sex sex.. why the hell ppl think that sex is heven?
because it's true :p :D

and heyy ! everyone can wait it's just in ur head :)

You people should read Gerald's Game!

Geeeeeeeeeee this thread is old like sheeeeeeeeesh!:hehe:
Yo peeps it was my first thread at sabla two years back!
So e7em :XD: i was a bit excited thats all!

sex sex sex.. why the hell ppl think that sex is heven? i mean what make it special ? what do you get from it? why cant men wait to have it the right way ?
all what i know that i dont think that ill injoy it. infact i think it will just bring pain and harm to me.
but for men it s the power. its what make's them men . hey hey hey i am a man i slept with this gal. this is what sex means to men . showing off that they have it all . they can do it , they can control it and they can injoy it. but onlu one question to you ma broders WHY cant you wait?:fire::rolleyes: OHHHHHHHH,,,lol this is why I was about to say are you Jahannam's friend or something why don't ypu like to have SEX?Chee shon gu fu chin chin yan shy tzo chi shi o shu tzu.......Iko mzuri sana kufanya SEX weye jaribu.:rolleyes: :)

:rolleyes: OHHHHHHHH,,,lol this is why I was about to say are you Jahannam's friend or something why don't ypu like to have SEX?Chee shon gu fu chin chin yan shy tzo chi shi o shu tzu.......Iko mzuri sana kufanya SEX weye jaribu.:rolleyes: :)

Umm...There's no chance, by any means, that you would repeat that in English is there?

Dija why would you bother about sex and call it whatever you did if you havent tried it yet??

E7em this thread is an embarresment. Can any Mod lock it please:hehe:

NF>> Never mind me hon, was a kid once in my life;)
Manta .... you dont change do you!:mmhmm: Nyamaza!:XD:

Threadlike.... LOL he never visits sabla.. i must be lucky he replyed here:p

ahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!! your past has been shown! but what will your future hold my young student? we'll wait and see!