hello.

I know every parent would love their kids and would like to spoil them [most of them].

But some times some parents do tend to spoil their kids more than others.

The spoiling can be in different ways, such as allow the kids to have their wide freedom or spoil them by giving them what ever they want or let them behave with no restriction or a discipline specially when they are around other people.

Some of these kids can annoy other people by their act and attitude…
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Personally the last few days I did experience some attitude from a kid who is suppose to be my nephew. I got so annoyed by the act of the kid and the parent. I love kids and I love to play with them, but I hate when they have the spoiled attitude and not listening to adult when they are been asked to do.

The bellow is what happened.

A kid came to you’re house, and started messing with your stuff even though his parent were there with him. For example the kid would be doing the following mess, by opening the drawers, messing with your papers on the studying desk, playing with food, spilling drinks and other things. Then the father asks the kid to stop messing with things, but the kid did not respond to what his father ordered, and he kept messing and the father kept asking the kid, but not really asking him to stop by going to him and take him away from the mentioned areas, instead he was just sitting where he was and just give orders by shouting.

Any way, I got to my limit that I had to ask the kid to stop all of this and sit in one place, and not to move. I could see the look of the father that he did not like it that his kid had been shouted at, but I had to do that because it was driving me crazy.
If it were the matter of few hours then I would have controlled my self. But they stayed with us for 2 days, that was driving me so crazy…

I don’t like to shout at kids specially if they are not used to me and I am not used to them. But in this case I had to do it, otherwise my stuff would have been everywhere and played by him, and that is so annoying.
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I am sure that most of you must have seen/met this group/type of kids that I am talking about.

This Issue can be looked at in different ways:
But I would mention few questions about it…
You can discuses this issue within the questions or add something else.

1- What do u think that about the limit in spoiling a child and if it is important?
2- How would you know that this is it [limit] that u need to provide the child with been spoilt?
3- How far does the spoiling can affect the child attitude and behaviour?
4- Do you think that I was wrong to act in that way in front of the father’s kid?
5- If you were in my place, what would you do?
This is what I can think of at the moment, but I will add other things later.

1- What do u think that about the limit in spoiling a child and if it is important?
Yes it is important to have limits when it comes to spoiling ur kids... everyone has the right to be pampered and spoilt but then it shouldnt cross the line and have negative side effects which it could bring

2- How would you know that this is it [limit] that u need to provide the child with been spoilt?
It comes out through the childs personallity I guess where they would just end up being spoilt brats

- How far does the spoiling can affect the child attitude and behaviour?
It really depends on how extreme it is and it differs from child to child

4- Do you think that I was wrong to act in that way in front of the father’s kid?
Hmmmm .... well u had the right to .. I know how it feels but maybe u could have did it in a different matter

- If you were in my place, what would you do?
This is what I can think of at the moment, but I will add other things later.

well I think I would have flipped and did the same thing too ..

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Originally posted by Solafa

1- What do u think that about the limit in spoiling a child and if it is important?
2- How would you know that this is it [limit] that u need to provide the child with been spoilt?
3- How far does the spoiling can affect the child attitude and behaviour?
4- Do you think that I was wrong to act in that way in front of the father’s kid?
5- If you were in my place, what would you do?
This is what I can think of at the moment, but I will add other things later.


1-Of course there should be a limit. My father always says that I was put into a boarding school to teach me some discipline, plus I was so ke-adabu or qaleel el adab when I was a kid, used to swear at our neighbors in Oxford, and following me, my sister.
2-When it gets over your head. When the children start telling you mum I want that and this, and you think its too much!! I don’t know if that was the limit. Not a father yet, but that is how my father did to me.
3-It could reach into a limit that the kids don’t care about you anymore, and don’t respect your requests anymore and others.
4-Well good on you… Keep it up
5-I would have done the same plus told the father what to do to bring up kids “put them in boarding school” LOL :D

But Solafa, that was a bit hursh though :sweat: ....... Gosh I was kidding!!!!

1- What do u think that about the limit in spoiling a child and if it is important?

A child has the right to a happy childhood, but there is definitely a limit. A child should understand from a young age: 1) to respect his parents 2) to respect others and 3) that he or she cant always have what they want.

2- How would you know that this is it [limit] that u need to provide the child with been spoilt?

I dont really know...

3- How far does the spoiling can affect the child attitude and behaviour?

It can get very far. You see a lot of spoilt kids in Muscat...and its quite pissing off. These kids get whatever they want, without knowledge of any consequences. When they get older though, and have to take some responsibility, they'll learn.

4- Do you think that I was wrong to act in that way in front of the father’s kid?

no you were absolutely rifght, and should have shouted at the father too.

5- If you were in my place, what would you do?

As I mentioned :D

1- What do u think that about the limit in spoiling a child and if it is important?

First of all, the kid has to understand that I'm DA BOSS. When I say something it's a must, no negotiations. I'll spoil him/her but there is a limit.

2- How would you know that this is it [limit] that u need to provide the child with been spoilt?

Well, when I say something it goes my way. That's the most important bit. I dont want the kid to say "No"... I'll just freak out! :sweat:

3- How far does the spoiling can affect the child attitude and behaviour?

A LOT! They think the world rotates around 'em. When they say something, it must be done.. or the crying begins. It's annoying.

I think that the first step into avoiding spoiling a child is to make him work for what he gets. Even when they are babies, they can help out with little chores and stuff, you give them a moderate (& realistic) allowance and let them do what they want with that money. If they want a certain toy, they can save up for it. Of course, once in awhile you surprise them with something just to make them feel special.

But you know, NO MATTER WHAT there will always be a time when a kid cries for something in the store. Once every 5 months he'll bawl for Toys R Us's latest red ninja dude or malibu barbie. That's how kids are and it doesn't always mean he's spoiled. However if it happens every week or every time you go out then I say send them to military school !

hello all

Thank you for replying my thread:)

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So most of u think that there is a limit for the spoiling thing.....

and u r all against over spoiling kids.

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Like the option of send the kids to the Army/Bording school to teach them how to be discipline and how to behave.

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But if u saw a kid who was so spoiled according to the level or the limit that u would think or had set, and he/she is related to u, would u talk about it with his parents or would u just ignore it?

Originally posted by Homeless
1- What do u think that about the limit in spoiling a child and if it is important?
Yes it is important to have limits when it comes to spoiling ur kids... everyone has the right to be pampered and spoilt but then it shouldnt cross the line and have negative side effects which it could bring

2- How would you know that this is it [limit] that u need to provide the child with been spoilt?
It comes out through the childs personallity I guess where they would just end up being spoilt brats

- How far does the spoiling can affect the child attitude and behaviour?
It really depends on how extreme it is and it differs from child to child

4- Do you think that I was wrong to act in that way in front of the father’s kid?
Hmmmm .... well u had the right to .. I know how it feels but maybe u could have did it in a different matter

- If you were in my place, what would you do?
This is what I can think of at the moment, but I will add other things later.

well I think I would have flipped and did the same thing too ..

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hello dear

when u said it coems with the child's personality,In which angle u were talking about?

Originally posted by Amir
1-Of course there should be a limit. My father always says that I was put into a boarding school to teach me some discipline, plus I was so ke-adabu or qaleel el adab when I was a kid, used to swear at our neighbors in Oxford, and following me, my sister.
2-When it gets over your head. When the children start telling you mum I want that and this, and you think its too much!! I don’t know if that was the limit. Not a father yet, but that is how my father did to me.
3-It could reach into a limit that the kids don’t care about you anymore, and don’t respect your requests anymore and others.
4-Well good on you… Keep it up
5-I would have done the same plus told the father what to do to bring up kids “put them in boarding school” LOL :D

But Solafa, that was a bit hursh though :sweat: ....... Gosh I was kidding!!!! hello Amir

So u were ke-adabu :laugh:, LOOL :haha:u made me laugh at this word:p

That was a good action by ur dad to put in the bording school:D....

But do u think u did benifit from being there, or had learnt any thing?

I know i might have acted a bit in a harsh way, but it was the action taht i took at that time.

which i hated my self after that :(

Originally posted by Pineapple Thief

2- How would you know that this is it [limit] that u need to provide the child with been spoilt?

I dont really know...

hi P/T

I think some of the parents wouldnt know the limits, otherwise u wouldt see alot of the kids are been spoilt to the extend that they lose the respect towards their parents and every one else infront of them.

Originally posted by Cerulean
1- What do u think that about the limit in spoiling a child and if it is important?

First of all, the kid has to understand that I'm DA BOSS. When I say something it's a must, no negotiations. I'll spoil him/her but there is a limit.

2- How would you know that this is it [limit] that u need to provide the child with been spoilt?

Well, when I say something it goes my way. That's the most important bit. I dont want the kid to say "No"... I'll just freak out! :sweat:

3- How far does the spoiling can affect the child attitude and behaviour?

A LOT! They think the world rotates around 'em. When they say something, it must be done.. or the crying begins. It's annoying. hello dear

I think i am similar to u. i always want to tbe the BOSS ,and i want the kids to fofllow my instruction in an exact words......

LOOLL , i can be in a Military:scary:

Originally posted by Enigma
I think that the first step into avoiding spoiling a child is to make him work for what he gets. Even when they are babies, they can help out with little chores and stuff, you give them a moderate (& realistic) allowance and let them do what they want with that money. If they want a certain toy, they can save up for it. Of course, once in awhile you surprise them with something just to make them feel special.

But you know, NO MATTER WHAT there will always be a time when a kid cries for something in the store. Once every 5 months he'll bawl for Toys R Us's latest red ninja dude or malibu barbie. That's how kids are and it doesn't always mean he's spoiled. However if it happens every week or every time you go out then I say send them to military school ! hello dear Engi.


This is what i have as wellin my future plan, and it would be my way to raise my kids isnhallah .....:)

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out f topic:, i hope Nabo wont be spoiling ur kids much:laugh: otherwise he will ruin ur raising plan:p.;)

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