When I was younger I used to think a huge age gap was :yuck: ... I used to hear stories of people who were 13 year olds dating 18 year olds and think :yuck: why couldn't they pick someone their age.... now I am a bit older and look around me and see people dating men who were a lot older, and I thought what could they see in them? Well after some time I understood. Older men were a lot more intelligent, mature and knew how to treat a lady after all the experience they had. They were also working and were financially stable. No wonder these women were fascinated and charmed.

The advantage of men close to our age, although might be immature, are still young and were at the same life situation as ourselves (e.g. studying, working).

Although older men are mature and sophisticated, it also depends on the woman on what she wants from a marriage. Is she still fun-loving and childlike? I remember the famous Princess Di and Prince Charles marriage, that one of the things that could have contributed to them not getting along was the 10 year age gap. She still wanted to have fun, he was older and wiser than her and had much more mature tastes. She could not help, but got bored after a while. :laugh:


We all know that a 13 year-old guy dating an adult is ridiculous and not safe. But if both of you were mature adults, what would you personally prefer ? So would u prefer marrying an older (over 5 years older) or closer-age (max 5 years older) man (or younger)? What is your max age limit? Why?

Men also give your point of view and the age difference you'd prefer between you and your wife :D .

i would prefer a man older then me...but not more the "5

years"..@ least we'd think alike..n might like the same stuff...do

the same things..basically..we got sumthin in common with one

another which can keep us even more close..:angel: :love: :shy:

i dont know what women exactly have on their minds, i never knew..

but as a male, at the moment i'd rather prefer someone older then me, for many reasons which i dont ppl care to know now...

but, in the future after 6-7 years, when i might get married at the age of approx. 30 i will for sure go for a young lady, who is maybe 5-6 years younger than me, and who has a good degree!!

Is a matter of maturity, his past, how he relates to life and people, common views, so it can be 5 or more but not necessarily.

For some reason I never really cared about the age thing and I still dont. If I love him and he's all I ever wanted then I'd get married to him, regardless of the age gap.

I definitely prefer a man who is older than me, who is fully confident of himself and mature...though if I was single and looking for a date, I wouldn't mind someone slightly younger than me...at the moment that he is smart, well mannered and funny :shut:

I always knew I would end up with a woman who was 0-5 years younger than I am. to be honest.. I dont mind anything...as long as I love her.. even if she was older than me. :)

Originally posted by X-press
I definitely prefer a man who is older than me, who is fully confident of himself and mature...though if I was single and looking for a date, I wouldn't mind someone slightly younger than me...at the moment that he is smart, well mannered and funny :shut:


You mean over 5 years older X-Press would be best for you?

They say Age is nothing but a number----> YA RIGHT! lol

Well anyway.. i would go for someone older , not my age.. i mean looking at the guys in my class (no offence to you ppl if ur reading this) but they're soo i dunno how to put this in a good way... immature? maybe because they haven't totally turned into "men" yet. My max limit would be 10.. why? because it sounds nice :p when im 25 he'll be 35 LOL but then again just as how amo has said.. its a matter of maturity.

I would never take a guy who's younger than me, it just feels completely weird, that's just me.

I don't want him older than me by much, 4 or 5 years is the maximum I can take, but more than that isn't what I'm looking for. The thing is, I'd want him to be very close to my way of thinking, I don't want him too old or too young, I want it to be just perfect. Of course what matters most is maturity, but also the age does play a role in making up my mind!

Give or take a couple of years (i.e. younger or older female, no real difference to me....well...preferrably younger). Definitely not younger or older by 5 years. 3 max.

I'll go for a guy whoz my age or max. 3 years older
I don't know why, but I dont like havin a relationship with some1 who is much older,
I feel women tend to be with older guys to feel secure and protected cuz they think older guys are more confident and have more experince..
But the way I see it, older guys do have that, but they use it to make you feel that they protect you and they guide you cuz they know more..
Am not lookin for that in a relationship..and wouldnt want some1 to make me feel like they know more
I want me n him to go through each step together and enjoying it together..and that doesnt mean he cant protect me incase I needed real protection..

*And abt the 13 dating an older, i always told my friends ITS NONESENSE, it obvious he is takin advantage of her, cuz she is less experinced and very trustin..

I would never go for someone younger, or my age. I definitely need someone to be at least 2 years older than I am. Anything up to about 8 years older is fine with me.

I guess you already mentioned all the reasons why women want an older man :)

well me i want a woman older than me cause nowdays you can't find a girl who acts mature they all act kiddy and thats a big turn off
I'd like a woman hmmm i don't mind her bein 5 years older than me!

One of the reasons they like older men is that women like the thought of being 'taken care of' and an older guy is more likely to be financialy & emotionally stable than a younger one.

There's also a match between a 20 year old's sex drive and that of an older guy, that usually is absent when both are near the same age.

But even with all that, I'd like someone to share my life with and experience it with me rather than have an old sod who'd done it all.

I wouldn't mind if the age difference was 3 years older and upto 2 years younger... I don't think i would mind if he was younger because most of the ppl i am around are younger and I actually can't really think of a person I hang out with that is older than me... it isn't a big deal to me at all...

sophi LOL this age issue thingy complicating your life indeed!

any ways

as i told you before the maximum gap that I might allow to be between me and my future wife can be 8 years (maximum)

yet whenever i look at things ..I start to look at the past and compare!

our grands used to marry each others with age difference reaching even up to 20 years and their marriages were successful and GREAT! So does age realy matter here????

sometimes I hear stories about couples with big gap age difference but very happy life and the reverse for those couples that have not much age difference gap!!!!

So age as such is not the only and not the major determent here for a successful marriage or Love!!!!!!!
so it shouldnt be much of a big barrier to me!!

Originally posted by Thug4Life
sophi LOL this age issue thingy complicating your life indeed!

as i told you before the maximum gap that I might allow to be between me and my future wife can be 8 years (maximum)



Thug, what the hell are you talking abt? Nothings complicating my life :duh: .

Anyway! This was just a general question, that we see happening to so many of us! :)



our grands used to marry each others with age difference reaching even up to 20 years and their marriages were successful and GREAT! So does age realy matter here????

I thought this was a great answer :) . But hasn't life changed from the past?


Anyway personally for me it would a max of 10 years, and min of 3 years.

.. for me i always wanted an "age difference" and that was in the range of +/- 5 years.. but i found it it even deserves +/- 10 ...

.. i believe age difference is a positive thing in marriage coz on of them has to complete the other one.. while same age , they both has to suffer what they haventlearnt yet:yes:


that what i recently reached to.

cheeers:)

well i did like wht THUGY said...n all wht i can 2 is that..age is jst a number..no matter how many years differences...bottom line...its how u WORK the marriage out ... wala aish raykum...:rolleyes: :color: