a Young girl lets say 18-24 years marry an old guy lets say : 65 years cause he is rich and he will send her to study abroad ??


I wanna see the moral inside this?

OOh just add to the above (To increase the beauty of this thread)
that the guy is allready married ..have kidds.(actually ADULTS ).. :)

First of all I don't think a girl will agree to marry a man just because he will send her to study. Marraige should be natural which means it shoudn't be for personal interests only and being selfish otherwise the girl is fooling her husband to be. Other than that I don't see any problem if she is not forced to marry him, it's better to marry and have family instead of staying single counting the nights and having health problems. Even if he is married as far as he is giving all his wives their rights then it's ok ;).

Originally posted by IceTea
First of all I don't think a girl will agree to marry a man just because he will send her to study.

Dont Think..as it happend allready :)

Originally posted by Thug4Life
Dont Think..as it happend allready :)

I see :)

But do you think this girl agrees to marry him for this reason only?

Originally posted by IceTea
I see :)

But do you think this girl agrees to marry him for this reason only?
Money ;) and study... Thats all am sure :)

Nice haa?

some one commented and said this to me: DARn SHe is CLEVER!!!

Originally posted by Thug4Life
Money ;) and study... Thats all am sure :)

Nice haa?

some one commented and said this to me: DARn SHe is CLEVER!!!

I don't find it strange in today world and how tough the life is, yes she is clever and he is also lucky to marry a fresh young girl and enjoy the rest of his life :).

Thugy, reading your post, it seems it is an actually story happening maybe here in Oman or with someone you know.

Hearing that a young girl marries a man, who could be her father or even her grandfather and this for the sake of his money, doesn't really surprise me, but is very sad to my opinion.

Marriage should be based on love and nothing else. However, I do not understand why this young girl would marry him simply because she want to be sent abroad to study. Doesn't she have parents who could do that for her without her marrying a man (young or old) to pay for her studies?

I think it's sad.

I mean, how deseperate this girl might have been, or mentally tired, that she thought her only way out was to marry an old man, with some money. I think she's paid a really expensive price just for the sake of going abroad and studying, and I don't think it's worth it. He's too old, and she's way too young to be spending her youth with someone who's as old as her grandfather just for the money.

Reminds of that european girl ready to give off her virginity for her studies, you ask about the moral: goes under feet when you are desperate.

well if he's rich rich then why not paying for my studies as long as i'm not only taking advantage of his money. i shouldnt be thinking of leaving him after i get my certificate........


actually i'm against taking advantage of people just to get what i want..... i actually i know someone who her husband sent her to study abroad and she betrayed him after getting BD she asked for divorce...... that was soooo mean....

Originally posted by IceTea
I don't find it strange in today world and how tough the life is, yes she is clever and he is also lucky to marry a fresh young girl and enjoy the rest of his life :).

"Fresh" young girl? LOL :D. Haven't seen any "expired" ones around.

Icy, man, where are u living? You are so naive! I mean she's obviously gonna ask for a divorce when she's back with her Degree, why the hell would she want to stay with an old man, with kids who are probably her age!

Well, all I can say is: the girl is smart and this guys a fool. (with a lot of money ;) )

I don't think the girl is smart at all. She is only an opportunist that is all and she deserves to get the same treatment she gives.

Did you ever think that the man might agree to marry her, but might not send her for no studies abroad or even in Oman and worst... might be stingy with his money? What guarantee does she have that he will give her a divorce even if she begs for it?

As he is in his 60's and he has money, he might not be too dumb...so I hope he will not fall in her trap.

Originally posted by X-press
I don't think the girl is smart at all. She is only an opportunist that is all and she deserves to get the same treatment she gives.

Did you ever think that the man might agree to marry her, but might not send her for no studies abroad or even in Oman and worst... might be stingy with his money? What guarantee does she have that he will give her a divorce even if she begs for it?

As he is in his 60's and he has money, he might not be too dumb...so I hope he will not fall in her trap.

add to that this guy does not have a good reputation ...!!You like drinks..smokes...BUT STILL he is Darn RICH ;)

Humm...I wonder if he marries her..they sends her abroad..
didnt u all think of one additional factor...(she can get pregnant! from him !!)

again: she is clever? u call that clever??

smart girl!!

the old chap is 65, he will die sooner or later!! and the girl will have money...and can marry again easily!!


my younger brother once told me:

"IF YOUR FATHER IS POOR, ITS YOUR DESTINY, BUT IF YOUR FATHER IN-LAW IS POOR THEN ITS YOUR STUPIDITY"

Such a materialistic world! pure money minded world inhabitants!!!

Originally posted by Thug4Life
Such a materialistic world! pure money minded world inhabitants!!!

good morning!!

u mean the girls generally dont go for well to do men? ok in her case the man was very old, but imagine he was young and as rich and had a first wife, then no one would have commented right?

all those marriage conditions: house, dowry...etc for me are the same as the story u just told us!!

Originally posted by The HITMAN
good morning!!

u mean the girls generally dont go for well to do men? ok in her case the man was very old, but imagine he was young and as rich and had a first wife, then no one would have commented right?

all those marriage conditions: house, dowry...etc for me are the same as the story u just told us!!
Just wonder about the girls opinions here about what u said above :)

Originally posted by Thug4Life
Such a materialistic world! pure money minded world inhabitants!!!
Are you thinking to live with your doctor salary or as a poet?imagine he was young and as rich and had a first wife, then no one would have commented right?
Right

Originally posted by amo_l_oman
Are you thinking to live with your doctor salary or as a poet?
Right
well dear priorities and morals more important at least to me than money

who said money isnt important its just how much u will allow such thought to dominate ur life???? and suppresse all the other sides in ur thinking process..

it will be like:

I live to get what i want/..and what i want is only money!
the rest....let it go to hell!!!,<=== thats a No No for me!

Originally posted by nana
well if he's rich rich then why not paying for my studies as long as i'm not only taking advantage of his money. i shouldnt be thinking of leaving him after i get my certificate........


Are you saying you will agree to marry an old man if he can provide you with the financial assistance to complete your study?


actually i'm against taking advantage of people just to get what i want..... i actually i know someone who her husband sent her to study abroad and she betrayed him after getting BD she asked for divorce...... that was soooo mean....

Even if she ask for a divorce it's up to him to divorce her or not, if he is treating her well then if she went to the court they want agree to divorce her.

Originally posted by Cerulean
"Fresh" young girl? LOL :D. Haven't seen any "expired" ones around.


A woman is like a flower, start fresh and end up getting old ;).


Icy, man, where are u living? You are so naive! I mean she's obviously gonna ask for a divorce when she's back with her Degree, why the hell would she want to stay with an old man, with kids who are probably her age!


Even if she asked for a divorce the divorce decision is in the husband hands and not the wife, or you don't know that yet. And if he is able to satisfy her completely then she will complain about living with him. Maybe he is even stronger then her and can afford having another wife on top of the two.

hi

The truth i find this girl to be stupid.....

Cause today she is marrying him for the sake of the money, and for a hope that he will send her abroad to study and spend his money on her.........

-What would gurnatee her that the money thta he has now will remain in his hands by the time she wants to finish her studies,thats if she would be sent abroad.

-The age gap can play a very big rule in the way she would be leading her life to be, which is more possibilities to be a missriable life than a good one......

- There are more chances to be facing a big challenge with his kids specially as they are all adults, as well as with his previouse wives....if he had them till now.

-If she got pregnant then another reasons for not completing what she is aiming for due to her studies.......she will end up having kids and rise them isntead of studing and building a future.

-Today he got married with her, even though he is so old to her, and may be he took her just to feel him self to be young again by having a young wife, but what would gurnatee her that he wont think of marrying again and bring another wife who could be even younger than her!how would she feel at that time?


Gethering all the above points, i find her stupid and a looser in the end.......

She might win something but not every thing, and she is paying back her life for the sake of the soemthings needed in this life to be done by her......


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I am not against the more than 1 wife theory........
But as well as when u think of doing it, better choose a man who is near to ur age and who u can gurnatee to live with a near mentality and understanding......plus with love and careing.

Originally posted by IceTea


Are you saying you will agree to marry an old man if he can provide you with the financial assistance to complete your study?



Even if she ask for a divorce it's up to him to divorce her or not, if he is treating her well then if she went to the court they want agree to divorce her. [/B]


well now i dont need him to pay for my studies as i study for free... but of course wouldnt let such a chance to fly away ... i would actually marry him but will stick with him till he dies....... then i'll have the great portion if not all his wealth......:D

Originally posted by nana
well now i dont need him to pay for my studies as i study for free... but of course wouldnt let such a chance to fly away ... i would actually marry him but will stick with him till he dies....... then i'll have the great portion if not all his wealth......:D

Allah akbar 3alal al 7ameer (I mean al 7areem) :laugh:

Ina kaydahuna 3a'9eem.

we never know how that girl is thinking,,
maybe it was her way to esacpe from the life she is living with her family..

we never know...

:bored:

Originally posted by kitkat
we never know how that girl is thinking,,
maybe it was her way to esacpe from the life she is living with her family..

we never know...

:bored:

from hell to another hell lets say??

Originally posted by Thug4Life
from hell to another hell lets say??

yes it is for us but maybe not for her..

lemme tell u this.. I know a girl (thye are actully 2 friends but I will take about only one of them in here)..
shes good looking and graduated this semester ..I like her personality I think shes nice..
but when it comes to her house and her family and they way they live.. she says she is ready to marry ANYONE just ANYONE to get out of there.. cuz anything else will for sure be better.. and this is what shes hoping.. her elder sis didnt marry yet.. cuz everyone meets her father changed his mind about his daughter..

and I believe that this girl deserve to marry a very good guy cuz she is really nice..but noone would like to..
hope u got what I was trying to say.. cuyz im not that good in explaning what I want to say:angel:

actually i pity the girl, there is no guarantee that he is gonna send her to study. she will be stuck with an old man, who won't be able to give her the happiness she need. and when he dies she will have to fight his children for her rights.

I am not surprised at all , and well.. I guess some people just dont think straight b4 getting theselves into something. choosing money over true happiness is just really dumb in my opinion.

oh well.

Originally posted by Thug4Life
from hell to another hell lets say??

Why are you saying that, maybe the girl is happy and satisfied with her current suitations. Everyone will get his/her share in this life it's all written my friend.

Originally posted by IceTea
Why are you saying that, maybe the girl is happy and satisfied with her current suitations. Everyone will get his/her share in this life it's all written my friend.
I agree

But talk about possibilities...

what precentage would you give for as a gurante for her happiness?? if You had such privlage and looking at all the circumstances surrounded this story!!!

Originally posted by Thug4Life
I agree

But talk about possibilities...

what precentage would you give for as a gurante for her happiness?? if You had such privlage and looking at all the circumstances surrounded this story!!!

Well it's difficult to give a %age coz it won't be fair as I don't know the exact story and circumstances surrounded it. Unless you presnet it to us.

But I would like to mention one thing that normal marraige life I mean without any hidden agendas is even subjected to problems as they say it's the sault of the marriage life. However facing problems doesn't mean that the couple can't solve their problems and become happy again as a family. So even in this story if the girl intentions are to use this man money and then get rid of him, things during marraige life could change, she could change herself by the way he treat her, respect her and she could fall in love with him so things will change from the original plans. Also if they have kids then the relation between them will be stronger. Do you agree with me?

Originally posted by IceTea
Well it's difficult to give a %age coz it won't be fair as I don't know the exact story and circumstances surrounded it. Unless you presnet it to us.

But I would like to mention one thing that normal marraige life I mean without any hidden agendas is even subjected to problems as they say it's the sault of the marriage life. However facing problems doesn't mean that the couple can't solve their problems and become happy again as a family. So even in this story if the girl intentions are to use this man money and then get rid of him, things during marraige life could change, she could change herself by the way he treat her, respect her and she could fall in love with him so things will change from the original plans. Also if they have kids then the relation between them will be stronger. Do you agree with me?

possibilities there..and % can differ! sometimes depending on many factors a possibility can overweigh the other ones!

YET...when we talk about the real world..and omit abit the dreamy once in a blue moon u r talking about..You can say:

Welcome to the Real world !

OOh well...non of us can say 100% that he is right!

Looks like the work of a parasite...

well the girl is smart and stupied at the same time.
Smart: coz she's thinking realistick im mean men nowadays can hardlly find a job how about building a life . And after he gets the job whats next he just started he can built a life of 300R.O sallary....So go after an old rich guy is the best sulution to have a better life.
Stupied: coz sometimes the guy will give her every thing but she will never get something from him from the love side.. There ideas in things will be completly diferent so that will cause many probs between them. N we should never forget that mony's something immortal it can go withen seconds.

Well, one of my sayings is that: "Age is just a number" .. so I wasn't really concentrating on the ages of the man and woman. If she agrees to marry him, then I am sure she has reasons behind that! She's young and I guess there are other many who will propose to her, but if she wants him then I guess there should be something in him that attracts her so much.

Its deceiving, & immoral 2 take advantage of an old & senile viagra poppin bast*rd. There is no moral side of it unless the woman loved him. It jus not right 2 take sum1s money for 1nes selfish motives. Its a matter of priciple. But i guess that it would b okay if the woman made it clear why she was marrying the old fart.

Born Lopsided
LOOOL



I see it more like a business deal .. he gets her youth, she gets his money .

am sure the old man knows why is she marrying him .. I feel sorry for her once she realizes what she put herself in to ..it will be too late.

What’s the concept…

Ppl here trying to answer as per question directly…some time they forget the concept itself…
In one thread ‘ does age matter’ 90% of u agree that Age doesn’t matter…if thers is love, white heart…bla bla..

Now most of u…trying to blame this lady of been smart, or selfisg or whtever side she is on…

Anyhow ..who knows she might find him a kind man and has some features which that can bring them close enough that melt he age difference ..better than ignorant guy who is in her age… plus she knows that he can live more than her… cus simply it in GOD hand…

Anyway ther might be more reasons behind it rather thn money…. Walla yewfaq saie b saida… :blush:

The brain
Anyhow ..who knows she might find him a kind man and has some features which that can bring them close enough that melt he age difference

Based on Thug4Life's quote we made our assumptions ,seems that he is sure of it .

Thug4Life
Money and study... Thats all am sure

but if she wants him then I guess there should be something in him that attracts her so much.

Exactly. I don't think that these women just marry for the money, but also the much older guy is wiser, a lot more mature, knows how to treat her... u know a sort of father figure, sugar daddy effect.

I think "What happens is in such marriages will somehow be related to circumstances and the upbringing of the girl. Circumstances must have forced her such decisions - could be her parents are mean and this old husband may be an escaper for, and if it is really the money then it will her elders could not make her ( in arabic we say) qanoo3a, meaning she does not know how to have enough.

Well ... he is doing his bit in "social development"

To be honest i really dislike this issue of an aged man to be married to a younge girl , espacilly when he is comfortable and supported by hes wife and already have familly.if the reason that the could'nt have more children he would thinkk of marring for an early time not at this last age.that well only create problems and Interference with children.

The girl is so stupied to keeep here life in the hand of an old rich man as express said who knows maybe he won't send he a bord or nevr even give her here full rights .She will live in adilemma and face suffer agony and pain because the familly won't ever admit that she’s part of it.

who give a 100% of Who would give her assurance that he will divorce her she changed her mind than she will have to pay back if she wanted to leave him.

as i recall from what thugy said he isn’t good person with bad reputation so what is the point of marring him .Only money that make people fall apart. :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

for some people who come from extremely poor faimlies, that may have been the girls meal ticket and this man could have saved her life. but i think that and TRUE love are the only two reasons people should marry when the age difference is that big.
if this woman (girl actually) married that man just to be sent abroad and for his money, then shes morally bankrupt.