I dunno whether its a good or bad thing, but i'm always parnoid with who my elder brothers hang around with and what they do.
and i TOTALLY hate it, when i hear stuff about them and the girls they hang around with, and it sickens me when i hear how cheap the girls are, and at the same tim how disgusting my brothers are to hang out with these yucky girls!Is this normal? how can i tell my brothers they're wrong? Cuz to them i'm just their little sister. I hate it, i hate it when i hear stuff about my brothers from other ppl, its like a slap on the face :yuck: uffffffffft!!! my point of view towards them changed 180 degree's and their supposed to be "ppl i look up to"... yeah right!!

i think ur brothers r mature guys who know what they r doing!

i totaly agree with hitman....they know what they r doing ...;)

Originally posted by FluidNutria
I dunno whether its a good or bad thing, but i'm always parnoid with who my elder brothers hang around with and what they do.
and i TOTALLY hate it, when i hear stuff about them and the girls they hang around with, and it sickens me when i hear how cheap the girls are, and at the same tim how disgusting my brothers are to hang out with these yucky girls!Is this normal? how can i tell my brothers they're wrong? Cuz to them i'm just their little sister. I hate it, i hate it when i hear stuff about my brothers from other ppl, its like a slap on the face :yuck: uffffffffft!!! my point of view towards them changed 180 degree's and their supposed to be "ppl i look up to"... yeah right!! sallam cousin

well it might be over protective from u.......because u are looking at things in ur own way, unlike ur brothers......

they might be wrong in things,.,,,i suggest teh good way is to go to talk to them, but in a way to show them that u care, and not in an offinceive way , because guys always wants to look to be right all the time, and i knwo they dont accept most of the time any thing from their sisters about their friends specially if they were younger sisters............

probably a small talk from u, might clear things for u.........
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p.s. some one is watching , be carefull ;)

Originally posted by CaNdy
i totaly agree with hitman....they know what they r doing ...;)
And drinking ? you think its right weather they're mature or not its haraam, and the prophet said you should always advise whoever (old or young). "A student can always correct a teacher."

Originally posted by Solafa

p.s. some one is watching , be carefull ;)

Whose watching? let them watch i dont give a D*A*M*N! im not saying anything wrong im just so D*A*M*N pissed off.

Originally posted by FluidNutria
Andf drinking ? you think its right weather they're mature or not its haraam, and the prophet said you should always advise whoever (old or young). "A student can always a teacher."

i repeat, im sure they know their religion too...

its good u r concerned...but thats the best u can do!

Originally posted by FluidNutria
Whose watching? let them watch i dont give a D*A*M*N! im not saying anything wrong im just so D*A*M*N pissed off. hello dear


i will send u a pm:)

Originally posted by FluidNutria
Andf drinking ? you think its right weather they're mature or not its haraam, and the prophet said you should always advise whoever (old or young). "A student can always a teacher."

Enjoining or commanding the good and forbidding the evil is a Muslim's duty. Prophet, (saw) said: "Whoever of you sees something objectionable then let him change it with his hand, and if he is not able then with his tongue, and if he is not able then with his heart, and that is the weakest iman (Muslim).

http://www.4justpeace.com/Webpages/justpeace.html

Hope that answers your question ;) .

^^^ i was thinking of the same 7adeeth!!:gap:

Originally posted by The HITMAN

its good u r concerned...but thats the best u can do!

hmmmm, i dont think thats all i can do... i think i'm gonna start working on a plan... maybe get the message to their insy winsy brains!:angre: :6:

Originally posted by FluidNutria
And drinking ? you think its right weather they're mature or not its haraam, and the prophet said you should always advise whoever (old or young). "A student can always correct a teacher."

ok....it's very nice from you to advise ur bro....but i mean dont they know there religion...even if it's harram...i'm sure that they know what's right and what's wrong...:rolleyes:

maybe they will listen to you maybe they wont...:rolleyes: so all what i am trying to say here is that even if a student can always correct a teacher the teacher may be worse in athor ways...;)

For a younger sister to confront her elder brothers who drink and hang out with b*tchy girls, it might come across as a rather displeasing confrontation. You brothers might flip out and tell you to mind your own business ... even worse, they might go all strict on you; knowing how it is in the Middle East, I sense thats pretty bad.

I'd say ... talk to them about what you've heard regarding them. If they flip out, then let them be. They'll learn the truth themselves sooner or later ...

Talk to them in a respectful , calm and caring way.. let them sense it from your tone. and like shinoda said.. tell them what u've been hearing about them..and let them know u're worried and concerned about it. thats all u can do.. for now.

I agree that you should talk to them but in a good and calm manner. like dont come attacking them saying "you did this" "this is haram" "how could you do that".. cuz they will sooo not take it from you... especially since u are younger than them.. If talking doesnt work.. buy liitle booklets that have ahadeeth or you know those islamic small books they sell everywhere and like put them in places they will find, for example, their drawers and stuff.

my mom does that all the time with me, about listening to music. my parents hate that i listened to music and they dont want to force me to stop, they wanted me to realize that what i amdoing is wrong and stop it by myself, so my mom buys all these little books and stuff of the punishments of music listners and stuff. I still listen to music but EVERYTIME i see something my mom keeps around for me, i do read it and feel so bad. one day inshallah i will stop.

try it with your brothers, it might take a while (like my case) but inshallah in the end, they will finally realize what they were doing was wrong and stuff.

hmmm i'll try my best to be calm..i'll probably start thinking of a speach so i dont go over the edge... but thanks :D

btw kaza, where do u find these booklets? the prob is i wouldnt be able to put them n e where as my bro is leaving tom. :bored:

Ok sister this is my best dua is in the quran, chapter 46 ayah 15!

"15. We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: In pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth. The carrying of the (child) to his weaning is (a period of) thirty months. At length, when he reaches the age of full strength and attains forty years, he says, "O my Lord! Grant me that I may be grateful for Thy favour which Thou has bestowed upon me, and upon both my parents, and that I may work righteousness such as Thou mayest approve; and be gracious to me in my issue. Truly have I turned to Thee and truly do I bow (to Thee) in Islam."

Well girl, men DON'T like to be told that they are doing something wrong by any woman much less their little sister.

The way to approach a guy is to present your case in the sense that you care and that it hurts you. Don't use any 'blaming' sentences and don't use any commanding words like shouldn't, mustn't, you're not supposed to, don't.

And perhaps you can consider using the innocent, guilt trip approach; tell them so and so said this about them but you know that your brother is a good muslim, you look up to him, you're proud of him and he would NEVER do any of those things. :inno:

Thanks Manta, i'll email that to him.

lool enigma, i think the guilt trip would work best :6: too bad he left tho, i guess its too late. :bored:

well i don't think your being overprotective you just care about ur bro's and i agree with what nabz and kaza said just talk to them in a nice polite way and good luck