I could never imagine myself sitting alone in a restaurant and enjoy a meal. Somehow I feel that people will look at me and think that I am a very sad person. Does this mean insecurity?

I've tried it and it baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad

though I was in the mood of staying alone .. but not in a returant .. I dont know I guess the enviroment is supposed to be jolly and you feel sad inside you that you are alone ..

until few years back, I wouldnt have a meal with me eating alone .. I would have rathar skipped the meal.. but then uni life taught me to tolrate that habbit!

There was a point of time when I first arrived here in jordan that I kinda had to go and eat all alone , especially in ramadhan the time of iftar. I didnt really have friends here cause i had just arrived..and It was depressing but I had to do it.

about you not being able to do that.. well it might be some sort of insecurity and it might just be your nature.. the way you are..and perhaps u always feel the need to have people you know around you.

I say.. just do what you have to do..and dont worry what people think or say.

Originally posted by Blossom
I could never imagine myself sitting alone in a restaurant and enjoy a meal. Somehow I feel that people will look at me and think that I am a very sad person. Does this mean insecurity?

Insecurity is not like this mate, its more like you feel people are talking about you, they are against you, feelings as such could be called as insecurity, but the feeling you just mentioned wouldn't be insecurity, but it means something else. I can't remember what is it called!! Sorry... but I'm sure that is not insecurity.

:)

As a mod shouldn't you know better than to list a "social problemo in the general sabla" ?;)

From a psychology point of view if you think that people are starring at you can act busy buy pretending to read something, watching TV while being on the edge of your seat or racing your way to the end of the meal and getting out of there.

I simply take a "to go " order while using the DRIVE THROUGH

Originally posted by Blossom
its not a social problem, i am trying to rise a discussion on why do ppl feel akward to be alone on a restaurant.....

Its not necessarily a restaurant. It could be walking alone in a mall , going to the movies alone.. and other social places..where one expects you to be having a good time with friends or family.

Originally posted by Blossom
its not a social problem, i am trying to rise a discussion on why do ppl feel akward to be alone on a restaurant..... I am sure most women find this more difficult than most men. I do it all the time and never feel awkward. I'm not there to socialize or party. I'm there to get a meal and then go on about my day.

It's a mind set ;)

Originally posted by jack
I'm not there to socialize or party. I'm there to get a meal and then go on about my day.



I agree with you with that.

But the problem is the people around you wll be annoying by looking at the person sitting alone.

And in the western society if they saw a guy sitting alone they might think he is gay. is this right? As they expect everyone to have a girlfriend. :rolleyes:

I eat alone sometimes....here ppl mind their own business but I dont think I can do it back home. In france alot of ppl eat alone and I dont see anything wrong with it but if I had someone to drag with me then I would

I dont think it has anything to do with insecurity but ya I guess ppl will actually think u r sad besides it feels weird...

I would never sit in a place alone, I dont know, I guess I wouldnt' feel comfortable being there all alone with no one to talk to.

Shopping alone in a mall, done it so many times.:os

I hardly go anywhere alone. Not because I feel insecure or lonely, but there's always someone around me ... and its 10 times more fun, when you're in a group anyways.

And Dr.N ... you shop alone at a mall?! :os

Originally posted by Homeless
I dont think it has anything to do with insecurity but ya I guess ppl will actually think u r sad besides it feels weird...

isn't caring what others will say, considered insecurity?

being alon in a restaurant to have a meal ppl might think that ur a sad person....but sometimes u just enjoy ur own campony...nothing wrong about it but that will make the others think:no: it's not normal!!

although i never tried it but i think its a good a idea to someplace alone u do need it ,not sad or insecure .. i sometimes go to starbux or a coffe shop alone and enjoy it ...its very relaxing ..

Originally posted by Blossom
isn't caring what others will say, considered insecurity?


it doesnt have to be all the time ... besides I didnt mean it tha way .. I was just making a point
u dont have to nessacirly care wht others thing but u r still going to feel weird sitting their on ur own despite of the looks or others reaction twds it...

Originally posted by Cute_BooQ
although i never tried it but i think its a good a idea to someplace alone u do need it ,not sad or insecure .. i sometimes go to starbux or a coffe <a href="http://www.ntsearch.com/search.php?q=shop&v=56">shop</a> alone and enjoy it ...its very relaxing ..

I try it at least once a week in uni when im waiting for my friends in the cafe having some snack or whtever and it feels so weird walla.. I feel so uncomfortable being there on my own
Sometimes even when im starving to death id still wait for a friend to join me!!!

You all have commented positively and that's fair...
But let us think it Negatively a Women dining out alone in the restaurant.. sick minded Beople they may think the lone women perhaps she is hunting waiting for any Mr right to approach her!!:weep:

Originally posted by Shinoda LP

And Dr.N ... you shop alone at a mall?! :os

What's so weird about that?!! :os lol

tea
And in the western society if they saw a guy sitting alone they might think he is gay. is this right? As they expect everyone to have a girlfriend.Sorry to pop your bubble, but everyone doesn't and everyone is not expected to have a boyfriend/girlfriend in the US.

I don't think you are gay just because you wear a dress (dishada). ;)

It happened to me today .. was having lunch in the cafe in uni and my friends had to leave for a group meeting so I was finishing up my food all alone and it did feel weird and ppl just kept stairing as well... not that I really cared but I myself felt uncomfortable...

Whoever here said that girls were more self- conscious about this than guys was right. Girls make a fuss out of everything and think that the world cares about only them to talk about and stare at :rolleyes:

Whereas guys are cool, they don't care about what people think about them. I admire that ;)

As for myself, I'm the oldest of five boys with a huge year gap between me and the next. So I'm quite used to doing things on my own and it doesn't bother me at all. I've gone to plenty of movies alone and ate out too. People can think what they want to, I'll just do my business.

Originally posted by jack
tea
Sorry to pop your bubble, but everyone doesn't and everyone is not expected to have a boyfriend/girlfriend in the US.

I don't think you are gay just because you wear a dress (dishada). ;)

Na he is just of one the brothers in the KKK "lol, J/K Icey"

I've done that. I had breakfast at a hotel all alone a couple of weeks ago and I actually didn't mind it. It gave me some time to think and look around at what everyone was up to :) I could also stuff my face silly without having to worry about what anyone else thought. :p

But then I'm the sort of person who doesn't mind being alone sometimes.. I actually need time to myself.

Originally posted by Blossom
I could never imagine myself sitting alone in a restaurant and enjoy a meal. Somehow I feel that people will look at me and think that I am a very sad person. Does this mean insecurity?

You may be in the habit of talking to youself, how comes you go restaraurant without a boyfriend/husband/friends? Are you ok!:)

Next time if you want to go there, just call this number…999 or 555 and asked 4 Manta so I can give you a company!..........:)

I'm not sure it's the sense of loneliness as much as it is the boredom. Eating in a proper restaurant on your own is so boring. You're just sitting there on your own, most of the time just waiting. It's not like going into a fast food restaurant and eating quickly. You need to take something to read to pass your time.

I went on vacation on my own once. Even though I had friends in most of the places I visited, I still found myself so bored most of the time. I was going out of my mind. I don't know how other people do it.

this is the thing i LOVE to do sometimes..
i feel that i enjoy sitting alone having my lunch.. i do this at uni and i do enjoy it really,, and i dont think that i have a problem at alll.. cuz i have alot of friends and they all love me as much as i do love them.. but i love myself as well :).. and sitting alone with myself is something i like from time to time :)

I just remembered!

I had lunch once alone when I had to go to Al Ain. I was supposed to give a presentation after the lunch break and I couldn't walk all the way to where my friends went to have lunch, so I stayed in the uni and had my lunch alone and went through my notes! Weird thing is I never felt weird, though I would usually would if I had to eat alone!

I can’t imagine myself sitting alone in a restaurant, I’ll feel so weird. I’d rather have someone with me, someone I could talk to, instead of staring at everyone else while eating. I know that if I saw someone sitting all alone, I would think “Dam*, does she/he have anyone to hang with?” although I could go shopping alone, sometimes I think it’s so much better to shop by yourself cause that way you can take your own sweet time.

Originally posted by Sensational
I can’t imagine myself sitting alone in a restaurant, I’ll feel so weird...... although I could go shopping alone, sometimes I think it’s so much better to shop by yourself

u need someone to stay with while ur eating but not while u are shopping???
weeeeeird... i dont neebd anyone to help me eating but i guess i would love to have somone to go shopping with so i can take his/her opinion in things im gonna buy:kewl:

Originally posted by kitkat
u need someone to stay with while ur eating but not while u are shopping???
weeeeeird... i dont neebd anyone to help me eating but i guess i would love to have somone to go shopping with so i can take his/her opinion in things im gonna buy:kewl:

I enjoy having someone around while eating...I also enjoy shopping with other people, but I think it's better to shop by yourself at times cause that way you know you'll buy whatever captures your eye. Sometimes I take a friend's opinion and end up regretting it...that's why I'd prefer to shop alone :)

I don't mind it at all really, although I do need to have something to read while I'm waiting. Otherwise I'd disturb the other customers by watching them eat :Shock:

Originally posted by Sensational
I enjoy having someone around while eating...I also enjoy shopping with other people, but I think it's better to shop by yourself at times cause that way you know you'll buy whatever captures your eye. Sometimes I take a friend's opinion and end up regretting it...that's why I'd prefer to shop alone :)

then u must take me shopping with u once and I promise u that u will never regret :kewl: TrY Me

HEllO


Personaly, i dont mind having my meal alone in a resturant, but not often thought, i always enjoy having some oen with me and giev a company:)

but sometiems i feel it is better if i am alone, at least it gives me more time and chance to think and have a resting time for my ears to hear, or mouth to speak and relaxing my mind from thinking about others........:p


But i hate when i want to cook a meal at home to cook for my own :bang:. cause i cant cook a small amount of food, and i can not control it........
its either cooking for more thna 2 or not to cook at all:rolleyes: strange , i know:duh:


i remember when i used to be in a student accomodation i used to ask my hostle mate to join me to eat, and they always enjoyed eating my food:D. becaus eit was strange to them, even if it was the first time i was cooking something that did not excist before:D.............


:love: :angel: :inno:

First times you feel strange cause others make you feel so, is not our insecurity is just others who want to close you in a cliche though nowadays is kinda normal.
Actually i got used to.