In Islam, the only you may remarry your wife/husband (after the third divorce) is if the wife marries another man and then divorces him... the verse:

And if he divorces her [after the first two revocations], then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she marries another husband. Then, if the other husband divorces her, it is no sin for both of them that they re-unite, provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah. These are the limits of Allah, which He makes plain for people.... (2:230)

I was surprised to discover in Judism, it does not allow a man to marry his ex-wife if she has remarried and divorced..

That one who divorced his wife shall not remarry her, if after the divorce she had been married to another man (Deut. 24:4) (CCN134).

What do you all think of this? Which ruling do you consider to be more reasonable?

Are you analysing different schools of philosophies?

Personally, I find the Judaism's version more reasonable ... why? Because I wouldn't marry my ex-wife if she divorced me and married someone else.

Originally posted by Shinoda LP
I wouldn't marry my ex-wife if she divorced me and married someone else.

But she'd have the chance to make comparisons and coming back to you means you are the best.

Shino, its not what would u do .. its whats u r allowed to do.

meaning, if u thought of marrying her ever again .. khals u dont have the right to!

well am a muslim, I dont think I am in place to say whats reasonable :angel:

Originally posted by Enigma
In Islam, the only you may remarry your wife/husband (after the third divorce) is if the wife marries another man and then divorces him...


Correction:

The wife marries another man and then divorce her not him. Islam gave the divorce in the hand of men for many reasons.

Originally posted by Enigma

What do you all think of this? Which ruling do you consider to be more reasonable?

I find Islamic ruling is logical because the wife become again as strange women after marrying another man and then he divorce her, so he can marry her again and join the family.

But there is one point to mention here about this process, what most people do today they make some kind of agreement with the man who is suppose to marry the divorced wife. The agreement is that he marry her for few days then divorce her so that her ex-husband can marry her again, which is totaly wrong and against Islam. The man should live her as a normal husband and wife and then if he decided to divorce her by his will then it's ok otherwsie he shoudn't be forced to divorce her for the sake of making her "halal" for the ex-husband only based on a set deal with him.

Originally posted by Shinoda LP
Are you analysing different schools of philosophies?

Personally, I find the Judaism's version more reasonable ... why? Because I wouldn't marry my ex-wife if she divorced me and married someone else.

SHON you understand the topic in a rong way . I F she married another one that gives here a chance to think , i know i thought that she doesnt love you no.she will came back to you beside she will know you value and thats good for you.:c2:

I F she married another one that gives here a chance to think , i know i thought that she doesnt love you no.she will came back to you beside she will know you value and thats good for you

Silky, I guess I understood it in the right way ...

If she didn't truly 'love' me in the first place ... then divorced me ... married someone else ... divorced him ... and came back to me, then I would NOT ACCEPT her.

The reason being simple ... I won't forgive her to leaving me, and coming back to me when she failed to find love with another man too! ;)

Well I don't think that either religious ruling makes much sense ... whether you can or cannot marry your ex-wife again, why should God care? I think men made up those rules.

However, since Islam is the less restrictive of the 2 choices, Islam comes closer to being reasonable :p

Icey, now it's sooo easy to see how you just make things up. It's been shown in many discussions that Islam grants women the right of divorce - and is held up as a Grand Defense of Islam and it's superiority over other religions ... :rolleyes:

Originally posted by Shinoda LP
Silky, I guess I understood it in the right way ...

If she didn't truly 'love' me in the first place ... then divorced me ... married someone else ... divorced him ... and came back to me, then I would NOT ACCEPT her.

The reason being simple ... I won't forgive her to leaving me, and coming back to me when she failed to find love with another man too! ;)

If you think like that you wont live,let me ask you a simple Q you dont know what in ppl soul , you cant even know about how do they think. You see i hope you get the point because i beleive you are smart:)

Sorry guys had to split the thread as the topic went way off.

New Thread (http://www.englishsabla.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=18024)

Silky ... I guess I'm smart enough ... lol

I mean ... I generally give people second chances, but not to those 'few' who tramp over me, and come back crying to me.

I've been there ... atleast for the dumping part, and trying to hook up later ...

Sorry, won't make that mistake ever again. I stick with what I said first ;)

ps/ What's ur msn id? ;)

people should live their lifes like animals **** And Forget ..


what islam what judism what christianity ..

Varghority or shinoditino is the best religion ever :angel:

Originally posted by Shinoda LP
Are you analysing different schools of philosophies?

Personally, I find the Judaism's version more reasonable ... why? Because I wouldn't marry my ex-wife if she divorced me and married someone else.

Shinoda ... :duh:

Why does it have to be that SHE left you? What if you divorced her? Or what if you both came to an agreement to divorce but regreted it later on?

And your feeling of 'not wanting to take her back because she decided she didn't love you' ... Is that really a basis to create a ruling for millions of followers of a religion? Aren't religions (and humanity for that matter since you aren't religious) based on forgiveness among other things?

I think one of the reasons Islam made this rule was to stop men from permanetly divorcing their wives. If he thinks that the only way for him to get her back is after she is with another man that might stop him from finalizing the divorce.

Islam may have put the majority of divorce in the man's hands but it also put down so many rules to keep him from doing it.

The reason given for the Judaism's prohibition of remarrying one's wife after she has remarried and divorced is that if this is allowed, there is the danger that couples will deliberately "take turns," and "swap," "trying out" another mate for a set amount of time, "just for a break"--or for other equally unworthy motives.

This would make a farce of the holy and fundamental institution of marriage.