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omania74
31-05-01, 11:35 AM
A TURE FRIEND

Once there was a man. He used to supply water to the nearby village. He had two buckets and a bamboo pole, on whose two ends he would tie the two buckets and carry water for the villagers. Slowly the time passed by and one of his buckets developed a small hole in its bottom. The water from this bucket started leaking out. By the time the man would reach the village, water in the first bucket would get down to half the full level. This made the bucket very sad and one-day she asked the man to throw her away, as she’s incapable of doing her full worth. She said, the other bucket is doing her job to her maximum capacity, while she’s capable of doing half her worth only. The man listened to her very carefully and said “ok”. But he also asked her that before throwing her, he would like her to examine the route through which he brings water for the villagers. The next day when the man was bringing water the bucket saw that all through the route beautiful flowers were blooming. The scene was so pleasant, that the bucket forgot her sorrows for the moment. But as the village came nearby, the bucket saw that half of the water she was carrying has again leaked out. This made her cry and she again asked the man to throw her away. The man said that he knew this defect in her, since the beginning and that’s why he had planted seeds of some beautiful flowers in the way where he used to carry water for the villagers. And through this procedure he had been able to utilize the negative points of that bucket into some positive and useful gestures. He told her that all the water that leaked from her didn’t go waste. Each and every drop was utilized for a cause. So she needn’t worry at all.

Moral of the story:-- A true friend is one who can turn the negative points of the his/her friend into positive ones and accept them as they are

Kamakazy
31-05-01, 01:31 PM
nice story there, thats what friends are for, to get out the best in us :)

thanks for the that omania74

4-ever-young
01-06-01, 12:02 PM
Thanks and keep them coming!!

SoMe1
01-06-01, 12:36 PM
Thats something nice ..
And its good to bring out the negative sides in your friend and make sure they turn to positive things..

FARIS
01-06-01, 09:10 PM
Taheyati laki omania74
It is realy meaningful symbolic storry
here are some valuable principles on how to win friends and maintain friendship i extracted them from a book titled "how to win friends and influence people"
* Don't criticize, condemn or complain
* Give honest and sincere appreciation
* Arouse in the other person an eager want
* Become genuinely intrested in other people
* Smile
* Remember that a persons name is to that person the sweetest ans most important sound in any language
* Be a good listner and encourage other person to talk about himself
* Talk in terms of the other person's interests
Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely
* The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it
* Show respect for other person's opinions.Never say you are wrong
* If you are wrong admit quickly and emphaticaly.
* Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers
Try to see things from the other person's point of view
* Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires
* Call attention to people's mistake indirectly
* Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person
* Ask questions instead of giving direct orders
* Let the other person save face
* Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement
* Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to
* use encouragement . Make the fault seem easy to correct
* Make the other person happy about doing the things you suggest
I think any one who could apply the above principles would be realy succefull person and he could not only turn the negative points of hes/her friend into positive ones but he could as well turn his enemies to friends ....... but who could apply them?

omania74
02-06-01, 12:05 AM
Thanks Faris...quite intersting!!!!
inshallah i'll try my best to follow these principles...well it's true that finding a real and a TURE friend is very difficult nowadays but i am also sure it's not IMPOSSIBLE...lets pray to Allah that everyone will find his/her true friend:)
Thanks once again...
Omania74

BomBola
02-06-01, 08:45 AM
but what if one of your friends break-up your relation suddenly.. you might have done a mistake.. & the other person too.. but how would you build back your relations?!!!

I mean.. if you had an old friend .. & some problems occur between you two.. & he/ she breaks-up your relation..how would you build it back?!!!
if you try to fix up things between you too but he/she doesn't give you face.. would you just ignore?!! or try again & again?!!
how would you turn the negatives to positives?!!

leo
02-06-01, 01:01 PM
I like the story very much. It really indicates how friends should look to each other...

Well done... We hope some new stories with good morals to come....

4-ever-young
02-06-01, 10:13 PM
to the arts sablah as it is a story not a discussion and i think it fits much better there!