This is important.......please give your opinion.

[nzwani]

<b>salami to all of you,,,</b>

I have noticed that most members don't fancy this place.
<ol>
<li>Maybe they have no problems at all.....kidding.
<li>They think personal problems shouldn't be revealed to strangers.
<li>They don’t have adequate courage to tell us their personal problems.
<li>Fear of harsh judgment from hasty members.
<li>They don’t think we are able to solve their problems.
</ol>
Based on your opinions we could either encourage people to come forward or save Sabla’s storage space and erase this part. for example if most of you think the reason is number 2 then we can’t do anything about it hence forget this part but if it was number 4 then we might just be able to change things.

Anyway, lets see what you lot think about this.

[Jadgaliya]

i think that the members who have been here for quite a while wouldnt hesitate in posting their problems here because they know that the ppl here are their friends.. but the newcomers in the sabla, might hesitate to post topics here, coz they dont feel comfortable sharing it with STRANGERS.. it takes time till everyone feels settled into this sabla, and maybe sometime soon, with many new members joining, this place will start kicking a55es.. :)

[numismatic]

I guess the serious problems can not be posted here. We meet problems daily but I never thought of posting one here, I know that the guys are so kind and nice to resolve my problems but I believe serious problems need us to compromise a solution and with one with whom I am able to reciprocate talks and idea since there is no time to post it and keep checking the net.
Most of the problems I have seen so far, can even be posted in the general discussion forum.
That what I think,
Salaam

[SoMe1]

Well for me i do have problems but i like to face the person when im talking to them.. and plus if you post your problem here its like you have to wait for a sulition!! and everyone has hes own thinking.. Sometimes you need to cry!! sometimes you feel angry !! you can talk to your best friend and she/he can help you out.. but what is the point of sharing your problems on the net??
However, i think that small problems can be solved.. like you need more then one persons opinoin or so..
another thing, like for me ive met most of the people in the sabla.. i cant imagin my self listing down my problems infront of them!! maybe i dont want them to know!!
walla keef ya sayied Nizwani???

[nzwani]

we have two opposite approaches,
<b> Jadgaliya</b> believes that new comers wont be confident enough to share their personal problems while<b>some1</b> thought that the old members like her might hesitate to list their problems.

one of you said new members keep joining so its still early to evaluate the success of this place and I pretty much agree although I go with<b> numismatic</b> in saying that this place will only host less serious problems.

[SoMe1]

well as you see nizwani had a problem and i posted it in this sabla!! see it wasent that hard after all

[roya]

Could it be also that people are ashamed of their big problems to share them? So that leaves them with the problems that are not worth writing about; e.g. "my car didn't work today", or "I need more money".
In the more liberal societies, people are less ashamed of things. They talk about women subjects openly infront of men, and they talk about partners and sex. This doesn't work in ours.

[roya]

I just thought of something........people would want to post more personal problems here if the moderator was a psychologist and answered everybody individually. This way, you avoid being judged by lots of people who have their own opinions and you feel that it is a more personal approach if you are writing to a professional who always wrote you back.

[SANTOS]

If we share our problems with others it ease it out of our chests, and you dont know guy's we could find an answer to it somwhere somehow with someone faced the same dilema, maybe.