<b>salami to all of you,,,</b>

Its a friend of mine who keeps spending money in stuffs he doesn't require. I am tired of advising him but he sees nothing wrong with it.

So, I gave it up what do you think.

He is not rich, he buys a brand new thing today and end up selling it for half price within one or two months.

Isn't a problem ???!!! what do you think.

el israaf is not good!
any ways..is he married? or thinking to form a family or build a house???

It doesn't matter "alisraf 7ram"

Anyway he is single and wants
to get married...but hasn't got
enough money at the moment..!!!

well how he will do anything in his life if he doesnt manage his life in a proper way?
any ways...allah yehdeee

well no wonder he doesnt have enough money to get married!! He spends it all...!!

but i cant answer you at the moment coz i need to think about it.. i will post insha allah as soon as i have a suggestion

maybe he is just a shop-o-holic!

I appreciate you contributions but to be honest I expected much better replies especially you who already participated...well <b>4-ever-young</b> still yet to collaborate so I am waiting.

Basically, this is a move from me to help my friend by persuading him to visit Sablah and read what you lots had to say and who knows it could prove to be the required touch. So, come on, shake up your heads and provide sensible answers and Allah will reward you.

I acnnot sentence your friend without knowing him... but most of the young people I know, this habit can be even interpreted as a psycological defect in their personality.
It is no matter, whether the guy has or doesn't have too much money but this habit is forbidden in general.
I don't think he is from Nizwa as you are,since my experience with my Nizwani friends, they have trend to the other extreme in spending!!!??? kidding...
The only thing that keeps me from the unnecessary expendature is my thinking of the future house, and family and this attitude is very common with most of the young men.
Let your friend think about the coming days and the cumbersome hamper of esatblishing the family.
Life is full of examples....


[Edited by numismatic on 04-21-2001 at 04:16 AM]

Thank you so much mate although you hit us by mentioning the opposite extreme, I must say you weren’t lucky enough to meet the generous people of Nizwa :).

Back to our topic, our friend is originally from Nizwa but had had been living all of his life in Muscat before leaving abroad to study. Your comment was great and will be read by my mate.

Thanks.

if he would set goals in life to achive it would be better for him! let him monitor what he buys and sells, and how much he lost in it! let him set a budget of R.O 100/- a month, just to buy his stuff, if he exceeds it then he would have to wait for another month! he could change a monthly budget to a yearly one! or how about keeping his money with someone, or a Jam3eya! then he wouldn't be temped to buy!

U're sure its your friend not u?

the reason i say so is coz most ppl suffer from it. I myself am a shopaholic (but recovering wal7amdulilah).

Speaking from experience, i have a few suggestions:

- open a savings account where money goes in by a standing order. There's this type of account where he can't access his money if he doesn't give the bank a 30 days notice (that should put him off the spening). Also, another facility is not to let him know how much money he actually has in saving. So let the money go as soon as pay day is due.

- let him pay his bills by direct debit as soon as his money is in, that way, he can't even use the bill money if he's really tempted.

- get rid of credit cards. If not, then lock em somewhere and sink it into the sea. Only take it when travelling.

- pay everything with the switch card (or ABC in oman). That way he won't use the change for unecessary stuff.

- Pray a lot & ask Allah to help u and remember "Inal musrifeena kanu min i'7wanal shaya6een"

- Get occupied with stuff like sports rather than roaming in town when free or bored.

- always think b4 buying " DO I NEED IT?"

hmm...dunno....tell u if i come up with more. O.K take care folks.

Originally posted by R.online
U're sure its your friend not u?


yes, I am sure.

good tips you supplied there, I sent him the link hoping he reads what you lot wrote here and try to change.

Thank you all.

I beleive that nobody is poor in this world .. ok there are people who cannot have any kind of spending because of life problems .. but people should always keep in mind that whatever money u dont need today u will need it in teh future ..
Those people who complain that certain amount of money is not enough did not actually manage thier life well and thier expenditure well ..
About your friend .. I assume he comes from a welloff family and he never ever thought before that one day he will have to depend on his own .. actually studying abroad gives this life experience and if he still in his first years he will learn by experience how to manage his money well ..
My advice is to u .. if u see he is buying things he dont need and one day he comes and borrow from you and other friends .. try not to give him and make him suffer a littile bit ( unless the need is really necessery like a medical thing for example) ..
I know alot of people like your friend .. actually alot of Omanis are like that .. especially younge people .. they did not learn to manage money before so when they find money they dont feel how hard they got it ..
When it comes to money from work he will understand how hard it is to gain it .. and I beleive that only experience will teach him especially that he does not find anything wrong with spending ..
If he is reading Alsabla .. tell him that Almusrif is teh bro of satan .. whoever want to be a bro of satan ?!!!!