Okay answer the following, fully :-

1) Which one comes first: Your Family/ Your Career ?
2) Give reasons to why you chose Family/Career and the advantages/disadvantages of occupying yourself fully to that certain area.



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Okay, I just asked this to see different opinions, so no hard feelings. Besides there are many people who are workaholics, and on the other extreme stuck-to-their-families. :rolleyes:

An equal of both's good. I need my work to have a family.

So, I can't say no to family and yes to work either ... that would be insane!

I have a similar answer to LP.

Plus what do you mean by career.... do you mean working the usual working hours and do u mean if someone choose family they should not have a career/work??

It really depends, since I'm single, my life really rotates around my career, that's what's ahead of me, and it's all I have in mind at this part of my life!
But, if I have a family in the future, then I would really want to balance between the two, both are very important to me. The thing is, until this time, I don't think I'm ready to ruin my career, since we're studying for so long, and my career means everything, but I know that's not the way life is, you end up with a family, and then my family would be as important as my career, if not more important, I don't know, I need to be in that position to know what to do!

Being Single right now, Career comes first. Right now only source of enjoyment as far as I am concerned is devotion to my work...I will be occupied with my work and so no worries.

After marriage and having a family, depending on cirumstances importance will change. Once a career is established there will be enough time for family.

Being single, a person (especially Arab women)will say that she is a career person, but once she is married and has a child or children, then her priorities will automatically change.

For me:

1-My family will always come first

2- Because my family are people whom i love and will protect by any means, a career is more like a want thing rather than a necessity. I would be required to work so as (my family/my husband) to make it easy by helping each other out with the expenses of the house or by providing the best that i could do for family.

I think if a woman devote herself in to a career then in the middle way she will find herself trapped. If she has a family, one of her kids may be sick and requires a special attention, while at the same time the mother is required to be in the office has a very important deal or issue that requires her attention as well, if she is a career woman i dont know what she will do.

Originally posted by Shinoda LP
An equal of both's good. I need my work to have a family.

So, I can't say no to family and yes to work either ... that would be insane!
Same here!

Okay, for the ladies, would you rather stay at home with your family, or go to work?

1) Which one comes first: Your Family/ Your Career ?

Its question with automatic answer,I think family comes first always regardless if you are working or not for a female and male


2) Give reasons to why you chose Family/Career and the advantages/disadvantages of occupying yourself fully to that certain area.


I would love to have both, I want to be family woman to take care of my kids, watching them growing, available when needed the most. At the same time, I would love to be Career woman, to contribute my knowledge and help improve the society and giving me additional image beside being a wife and mother.

Originally posted by Cerulean
Okay, for the ladies, would you rather stay at home with your family, or go to work?

Once again I want to manage and balance both but if the situation is critical at home for sure I'll give-up the job to serve my marriage and family at large.

Once I get married and become a mother it will, without doubt, be my family.

It is so much more important to me to be a good mother than it is to be successful.

Of course, right now its my career. :p

my answer is similar to shinoda. i guess that will be the answer of all men , since they have to provide for their family whatever they need .

Same as Dottoressa, actually my life is mainly work cause don't have else, and don't think in the future things will change, though Shonda is making many efforts to make me change my mind: just he doesn't understand it doesn't depends on me really :rolleyes:

i am single now so for me career comes 1st, but if i was a married woman then i will try me best to balance both...and if i can't then family comes 1st.........

It really to answer this question ……. I really though and thought before I write any word…. It not easy to say Family or work is more important to me. It is note matter I am singe or married now … still I have family.

First of all, what you mean by family is wife and children or those people who I group up with them whom I share my dream with them or those people whom i love.

There is question mark in this point need to be addressed .........

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This can give use some guide that, there is not such question which is important to us Work or family. It is all important to Us. I am as person Plays many role in this life … I am worker … I am father … I am brother … I am sun… I husband … I am friend …I am one of the society ….. You are responsible about your activity in all these ….

I will give you example ….

You have a meeting with your boss, and you know by this meeting you will reach to such position you are dreaming to reach it for long time. In the same day, one of your best friend’s have a accidents……..and he maybe will die. Where you will go

Some time it happened you get a good chance for job out side your country and it really offer that you never dream about it….. in the same time you have many of friend and family who they depend in you in some who ….. What will be your choice ….. Job or Family …….

Some time you get appointment with your friend to have some meeting with some business man to explore any opportunity for business with them … as soon you get home … you surprise some of your family are coming to visit you and you have ask them for this Invitation .. what you will chose …..

More over, Your daily work and working for long day to get some promotion ……..Instead of spending some time with family.

You, see how it is difficult to answer this question …. It all depend in the situation some time you think you are doing these for others and inside you self your are do it for your self not for family.


For me I try to be logical and try to have some fairness in my life between work (which means all kind of work) and between my family (my Parents, brother, sister, all my family and try to give each one what he orh her desire. Try to be logical, that I can’t gain the benefit of work with out losing some benefit of the family. This is the life…..

Its difficult to say which comes first coz each one of them has its own values in this case given them the same attention will be the best thing to do but of course if i see that my career took all my time i will rethink about it

For me if I had long life it would be first a career, or else how the heck am I going to make the money for marriage in Oman?? The dowry is so high!!! :D LOL...

Seriously, I would think of my career, then about having a family..

Otherwise if I'm alerady married, then I still will have to develop my career in order to give a beautiful social life to my family, especially to my kids, I want them all to have the best education, to have the best in everything, and therefor I would develop my career first, but this doesn't mean that I wouldn't take care of my family on the other hand. ;)

Trying to balance them equally. 65% familyl and the rest career.

You cannot live with one of them only of course, but at the end, you have only one family, and you can get a million different careers, you can lose your job and get another one, but you cannot simply lose your family hoping to get another one.

1) Which one comes first: Your Family/ Your Career ?
I guess my family comes first, 'cause as some members stated you only have one family which definitely cannot be replaced, whereas you can have different jobs any time you want..

2) Give reasons to why you chose Family/Career and the advantages/disadvantages of occupying yourself fully to that certain area.
Family comes first, however, this doesn't mean that i fully occupy myself and my time with my family..'cause i simply can't ignore the fact that i still have my future ahead..

as blue chi said ..u cant live with one of them ... both of them are important.... but then again families are more impor. somehow cuz theyre what make ur life important ..and what makes ur career go up or down !

my family, simply because they give me a lot and deserves alot or all the thing.:)

Well, in my opinion it really differs for men and women. I know I might sound old fashioned or whatever but let's look at this logically...

Men, have to have good careers in order to be able to take care of a family in the future. He needs to provide financial secuirity for the family... Of course but not sacrifice time for his wife and children for his career. Balance is the key of success of any sort. I believe that men are made for this responsibility and it's not a small one it's totally huge.

Now, when it comes to woman, who is better than to raise the children than their own mother? Ok, when a woman doesn't have children in the family yet, yes, she can go work as long as she wants. But when she has her children, it'll be too much of a responsibilty. She'll have double work to take care of... Why should she go through all this when she can be treated like a queen at home and raising her children to be the best human being they can be.

If it's up to me, I'll give up my career any day for my family. It's hard enough for men to raise money for the family so why not make it easier for him. Marraige is like a team. Each women and men should help each other out and make it easier on each other....

totally agree with steller!!

I neer thought that I might leave work coz of my family before getting married, now though it depends on the financial situation of my husband .. I might actually relax at home :) or open my own business and work from home ;)

Hmmm...this is quite an interesting thread because i don't think you could leave one answer out of the other :)

I mean, i really depend on my family right now because theyre funding my education in which my career in future depends on.
But then again i really need my career later on in order to look after my family... :blush:
I guess it all depends on who you are, what your gender is (and that was a VERY good point stellar) and where you are in your life (i.e. still a student or working on your career)

This question is a yin-yang brain buster :D

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Of course it always depends on the situation. If the husband needs help financialy I see no problem for a woman to help but it'll add more stress one her because then she'd have 2 jobs, her family and her money earning job. In this case I hope the wife or husbands family are close by because at least they can help with the children if both the woman and man have to work to keep the financial state better.

I'm totally for women getting well educated and working before they get families. The experience would teach her a lot of life that she can't really learn by staying at home all the time. That way she can understand her husband more and even her children when they reach that stage of life.

That's just my opinion.

Originally posted by Stellar
I'm totally for women getting well educated and working before they get families. The experience would teach her a lot of life that she can't really learn by staying at home all the time. That way she can understand her husband more and even her children when they reach that stage of life.

That's just my opinion.

Well then in that case, that makes two of us Stellar :)
I strongly believe that women should have equal rights and should be treated equally with men...

We ALL deserve the best ;)

I believe all should be treated fairly. Some men don't believe that a woman should go further than high school and I'm totally against that idea. I mean if the girl wants to educate herself more, then she has every right to be educated. The best weapon on this earth is education and knowledge. All should have the oppertunity to learn and make a good use of what they have learned.