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Right it's summer time, male and female sexual hormons kicking. We know that in Oman summer time is the marraige season as most people having their holiday at this time of the year including teachers. And also they run away from the heat ouside for honeymoon.
Few years ago a new style of marraige started in Oman, it's group marraige which means many couples will arrange for the wedding on the same day. Some people they say this habit originaly came from Jordan then started in UAE and finaly reached Oman. It's a good practice I believe as alot of advantages will be gained which will be reflected on the society in general. Now it's organized in many areas in Oman and I heared there was a big group wedding in Barka involved 87 couples marraid same day.
What is your opinion about this?
Yep. Dr.N and I have agreed to get married on the same day.
It'd be really fun to share all that happiness with so many people.
The more the merrier. :D
sad_dreamer 06-07-03, 03:32 PM yeah I've read about on the newspaper .....It's a very good thing to do if you decide to get married ..I'm talkin' about the less money you'll pay for the food ..and all that kind of stuff :rolleyes:
H-Highness 06-07-03, 03:46 PM Mmmh Mass wedding.................I don't think its bad idea.
Silver Angel 06-07-03, 04:26 PM Seems a good idea:)
Libellula 06-07-03, 04:46 PM It doesn't sound all too bad, unless someone wants to be "under the spotlight" by themself and doesn't want to share this with someone else. :gap: lol
Originally posted by runnin' around
Yep. Dr.N and I have agreed to get married on the same day.
Thats nice, I hope you are not marrying the same husband :D
Why I see short replies only, commn guys this is and important issue to be discussed :)
Originally posted by runnin' around
Yep. Dr.N and I have agreed to get married on the same day.
It'd be really fun to share all that happiness with so many people.
The more the merrier. :D
LOL, that would be great;)
Well if it's someone you like, someone who's close to you, then yes why not, I think it would be great, it makes the event more special, and you'd have something wonderful to remember and cherish.
I don't like the idea as I like to be under the 'spotlight'!!:wink:
fahad_404 06-07-03, 09:14 PM It is a good idea , include my name in the waiting list of the new group:gap:
Man of principl 06-07-03, 10:01 PM well i guess it is a nice idea and it is very common her in saudi arabia .i guess it started along time ago may be 12 years back.
Her in saudi arabia the reason behind this group marriage is the cost of the marriage in here.Specily these days so groupe marriage reduce the costs in some manner.
Besdies this encourage other who has a finacial barriers to go for marriage coz it is no more costly :)
H-Highness 07-07-03, 10:36 AM Well, if the reason behind this is to minimize wedding cost, then I don't think it can help much. As per my understanding mahar always is too high compared to wedding expenses.
Does it make sense if I paid mahar of RO. 10,000 and go for mass wedding just because I would pay RO. 200 instead of RO. 500 as wedding expense.
My opinion.
I agree with H-H! In addition, if you really don't want to make an expensive wedding:
You can still have your own solo wedding, with low mahar, low expenditure and make it unique!
Originally posted by H-Highness
Well, if the reason behind this is to minimize wedding cost, then I don't think it can help much. As per my understanding mahar always is too high compared to wedding expenses.
Does it make sense if I paid mahar of RO. 10,000 and go for mass wedding just because I would pay RO. 200 instead of RO. 500 as wedding expense.
My opinion.
Thats true the mahar is one which is too high, but also in some areas the wedding expences also high. So people are taking this approach to minimize wedding expenses, and somebody told me that a guy will save around RO. 500 by joining such groups, which is not bad. And in big groups lets say 50 people then the total savings will be RO. 25000 which is not bad.
Beside that those group weddings sometimes are sonsered by big companies in the country, so they take care of all or contribute to the expenses. It's good to see the society helping those young guys to start their new marraige life.
To me it doesn’t make a difference coz u only reduce the expense
of the wedding day and u still have to pay the proposed mahar....
cash money…. Jewellery …cloth… the only difference that instead
of having ur wedding in hotel that will cost u around 2000… u will
pay maybe 500 or 1000 …. so how much u will save 500… 1000…
it is nothing compared to the 10,000 or even 20,000 u paid as
mahar….
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well..i dont agree with most of u here, this night should be exclusive for me and my wife only, all lights should be focusd on us.. we should be the 2 stars of that night, if it isa group marraige it will be crouded plus you wont be that special, coz many couples are there too..
Its true that group marraige has an advantages but still, this is your only night.. u should be the star in it the party..
Originally posted by Qoloob
To me it doesn’t make a difference coz u only reduce the expense
of the wedding day and u still have to pay the proposed mahar....
cash money…. Jewellery …cloth… the only difference that instead
of having ur wedding in hotel that will cost u around 2000… u will
pay maybe 500 or 1000 …. so how much u will save 500… 1000…
it is nothing compared to the 10,000 or even 20,000 u paid as
mahar….
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Losers Never win.......
Qoloob, the bride is not a pice of land (600 SQM) at Al-Ghubrah area to pay 20,000 or 30,000 for "mahar". Yes it's expansive in some areas in Oman, but I believe the average "mahar" is 4000 to 5000 OR. So saving 500 rials or 300 is still good for people with low income.
H-Highness 07-07-03, 02:43 PM Originally posted by amo0or
Its true that group marraige has an advantages but still, this is your only night.. u should be the star in it the party..
Good point Amour but not everyone is looking for attention and being spotlight of the event. Some like very simple wedding with no big fuss about.
My opinion.
Amoor, u can still be the star of that night in a group wedding by letting the camera to focus and zoom on you :D
Originally posted by H-Highness
Some like very simple wedding with no big fuss about.
Even if it was in a small house or if it is in the back yard of the house who cares..but still you want to feel that its your day..and that is my opinion..:)
Originally posted by IceTea
Amoor, u can still be the star of that night in a group wedding by letting the camera to focus and zoom on you :D
Sub7an allah:rolleyes: even in your threads u chit chat, wain el mushrefeen??:p
yeah u are right..i should bring profitionals just for me to take photos for me huh?? and let the zoom on me:gap:
fikra sara7a..
H-Highness 07-07-03, 03:03 PM Originally posted by amo0or
Even if it was in a small house or if it is in the back yard of the house who cares..but still you want to feel that its your day..and that is my opinion..:)
True but always that special thingi will be within you and your partner. So either it be mass wedding or solo one it doesn't make difference.
H-Highness 07-07-03, 04:20 PM Originally posted by amo0or
Exactly :)
You're missing my point Amour :eyes:
i think it is good for who doesn't have a lots of money
but when you have your wedding alone it special because sometimes it is once at the life ..............so it have to be special day for you with your bride :cool: :cool: :cool:
Originally posted by H-Highness
You're missing my point Amour :eyes:
i dont think he did. ;)
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anyways.. i dont know really. if it was two or three brothers or cousins getting married and decided to make it on the same day so that they would spend less on the wedding then that should be fine. other than that ..i dont really like the idea of total strangers sharing a wedding. its just too messy in my opinion. and in the end..i dont really like all those fancy weddings and would rather have something simple with close friends and family.
A mass wedding sounds very entertaining. Lots of grooms Lots of brides Lots of spectator...Lots and lots of everything else to. To me Id like to be a spectator in such an event but to share my special day with others I dont think so.That would have to be crossed off my list.If its the cost factor many people think about , in my case I'd rather bargain for a really small memorable wedding day with close family and friends.Be it if I had 50 guests and had it at home :)
I don't know why some people think that the special momnets will be spent with others in such kind of arrangements, the special moments will be only between the bride and the groom in the bed room :)
Sounds like a good idea here, especially in rural areas. I mean, think about it: In a small village, pretty much everyone gets invited to the wedding whoever is getting married! So if everyone gets married at the same time, the guests are just the same, except that everyone splits the bill.
Still, if you've got money I guess most prefer to do their own thing, especially in the city.
X-press 08-07-03, 02:27 AM http://thumb1.image.altavista.com/image/56698339
I think group marriage is a great idea for those who can't really afford the expenses of a big wedding. The brides and the grooms will still have the feeling of havind done something big while spending little.
It is also great to see some companies in Oman starting to help financially these group marriages and I hope more will come forwards with time.
However, on a personal note if it was time for my own wedding, I would prefer to have it exclusively for me and my husband as it is supposed to be a special moment once in a lifetime. If I had some financial problems, I would still do something very small but private.
Icy, good topic you brought up here ;)
Originally posted by IceTea
Qoloob, the bride is not a pice of land (600 SQM) at Al-Ghubrah area to pay 20,000 or 30,000 for "mahar". Yes it's expansive in some areas in Oman, but I believe the average "mahar" is 4000 to 5000 OR. So saving 500 rials or 300 is still good for people with low income.
I know that….but wedding ceremonies differ from area to
another…. I mean it is not only one night … it can last for a whole
week…. So in this case what would u do??
Any how…. I would like to have my own wedding and get the
whole attention ...no matter how much it will cost…if he loves …he
has to pay… :cool:
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Originally posted by Qoloob
…if he loves …he
has to pay… :cool:
Thats is the kind of mentality we need to change in our society and Omani girls in particular, love doesn't mean that the husband has to suffer a financial crises. At the end it will reflect on the both of them and their life will be affected at the end.
X-press 08-07-03, 12:03 PM Originally posted by Qoloob
...no matter how much it will cost…if he loves …he
has to pay… :cool:
Thinking like this is starting a marriage on the wrong foot..but I am sure Qoloob was just kidding ;)
Again, I think mass weddings are not for most of us, but only for the less fortunate ones. Imagine all these couples who can't afford much expenses (destitute ones) but want something really full of life and nice to remember...celebrating all together can be ideal.
Icy, what do you mean by "I don't know why some people think that the special momnets will be spent with others in such kind of arrangements, the special moments will be only between the bride and the groom in the bed room"... :lost:
Though I didn't quite get the first part, the 2nd is :p
Libellula 08-07-03, 12:44 PM Originally posted by X-press
Icy, what do you mean by "I don't know why some people think that the special momnets will be spent with others in such kind of arrangements, the special moments will be only between the bride and the groom in the bed room"... :lost:
Though I didn't quite get the first part, the 2nd is :p
I think that he means that there isn't a need to spend so much money on the wedding reception, trying to make it "special" because in the end it's like you're putting on a show for other people to enjoy..? I've heard some guys say this, but the opinions about this differ from women to men.
Most women actually want a nice reception and party to remember. After all, you only get married once.. :lost:
Originally posted by X-press
[B]Thinking like this is starting a marriage on the wrong foot..but I am sure Qoloob was just kidding ;)
Of course I was kidding…. If I love him I won’t put him under such
burden …. but if I don I wouldn’t care… :cool:
joking..... :gap:
Seriously …u r right Ice Tea….i don know why girls tend to think in
this way... they only think about the present and disregard the
future …which can end up in a divorce….and what is really
frustrating when u see educated girls have this kind of
attitude .....
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very nice topic ice tea.
well i think it's a good idea , it has many advantages one of these advs that low costs of weddings.
bytheway, heard from the radio today that this thursday there will be another group marriage in bousher( muscat) that's great.
GOOD LUCK TO ALL GETTING MARRIED :)
Originally posted by X-press
Icy, what do you mean by "I don't know why some people think that the special momnets will be spent with others in such kind of arrangements, the special moments will be only between the bride and the groom in the bed room"... :lost:
Though I didn't quite get the first part, the 2nd is :p
I meant that some members here have the opinion that the couple will not enjoy the special moments in their weddings, just because they are part of a group wedding. In my opinion it's all related to the feelings they both hold in such night. They don't have to express the feelings externaly becasue alot of other couples joining them this special day, but the they still have this nice feelings and happiness internaly and they can discharge it when they become alone after few hours in their room :)
Originally posted by X-press
Though I didn't quite get the first part, the 2nd is :p
I'm sure a smart lady like you will get my 2nd point easly :p
Originally posted by Phoenix
I think that he means that there isn't a need to spend so much money on the wedding reception, trying to make it "special" because in the end it's like you're putting on a show for other people to enjoy..? I've heard some guys say this, but the opinions about this differ from women to men.
What you said is quite true Nixy, but that was not my point :)
Thanx anyway ..
Originally posted by Phoenix
Most women actually want a nice reception and party to remember. After all, you only get married once.. :lost:
A noble man can get married more than once :cool:
Originally posted by Qoloob
Seriously …u r right Ice Tea….i don know why girls tend to think in
this way... they only think about the present and disregard the
future …which can end up in a divorce….and what is really
frustrating when u see educated girls have this kind of
attitude .....
Good at least we are now in agreement :)
H-Highness 08-07-03, 07:31 PM Originally posted by nana
bytheway, heard from the radio today that this thursday there will be another group marriage in bousher( muscat) that's great.
It could be true, one of my colleague is getting married this Thursday with couple of his relatives and they're from that area.
Cerulean 09-07-03, 11:51 AM Its a nice idea, but a lot of people i've never seen in my life would be there :rolleyes:
Originally posted by Cerulean
Its a nice idea, but a lot of people i've never seen in my life would be there :rolleyes:
They are humans, so no need to be scared from them, I'm sure they won't bite you :D
Beside that every bride will be busy with herself thinking about the fisrt night to spend it with her husband and what he will offer to her :wink:
Cerulean 09-07-03, 05:43 PM Beside that every bride will be busy with herself thinking about the fisrt night to spend it with her husband and what he will offer to her
Is that all guys think about?! :rolleyes:
Well out of what I know, the woman would be busy thinking about her wed, after all its a BIG event for us females. should be for guys too.:D
It would be a good idea for those who can't afford it, like others have said, but if a person has enough money to pay, then why have a grouped marriage with total strangers, yes, icey, they are humans, but every couple might have a different opinion on how they want their wedding to be, but as I said, if it's a group of friends for example, then why not!
Libellula 10-07-03, 04:48 PM Originally posted by IceTea
They are humans, so no need to be scared from them, I'm sure they won't bite you :D
Beside that every bride will be busy with herself thinking about the fisrt night to spend it with her husband and what he will offer to her :wink:
And I thought that most people would want the persons whom they love and care about to share this special occasion with them, not complete strangers.. I guess I was wrong. :rolleyes:
Actually, not "every bride" will be thinking about 'that'. :duh:
I'll be thinking of dessert.
Originally posted by Phoenix
And I thought that most people would want the persons whom they love and care about to share this special occasion with them, not complete strangers.. I guess I was wrong. :rolleyes:
I don't agree with you it will be complete strangers, coz both copule families, friends, etc will be available and if people live in the same area I assume they will all know each other.
Originally posted by Phoenix
Actually, not "every bride" will be thinking about 'that'. :duh:
I'll be thinking of dessert.
What kind of 'dessert' you will be thinking of?
Libellula 10-07-03, 06:18 PM I can't make up my mind, really. Haagen Daz ice cream, creme caramel.. anything.:gap:
I think ice cream will be good to cool you down :D
Cerulean 11-07-03, 02:57 AM You make it sound like she's "on heat" :rolleyes:
Salam to everyone......
They say a person has 3 special days in his life....
The day he or she was BORN..
The day he or she gets MARRIED..
The day he or she DIES..
PPL should stick to the rules, Maximum to b paid for Dowry(Mahar) is RO3000 & everything should be shared between the 2 families, instead of the Groom taking all the expensese i.e Cards..Food ...Hotel.
In the old days a Bride would be advised about married life during the wedding preperation, nowadays its nothing is done I feel.....I have appointment with Bi ...... to check my fitting, today I'm goin to Daksha....., hair dresser is waiting 4 me.....no time for advise.
Once the couple r married then problems occur which is the spice in any married life but the problem cannot b solved coz they dont know how to handle it.
Wishing all of u a happy married life....
By the way I'm happily Married ..its just that I see it outside & I dont like it.
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