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Arabian Princess
08-01-03, 09:21 AM
We all know that divorce is the worst halal in Islam, but sometimes it is inevitable.
WHat could cause a two couples to divorce and what are the pressure that might lead them to refuse it even if it is the only soloution?!
I just thought of discussing this because it is an important problem in the society. let us think what is are the reasons of divorce and what could help the couple prevent it? what its cuse on children?
I am sure there are some members who went through it and it would be glad to share thier experience with us.
Bimzoori
08-01-03, 11:31 AM
you've raised some interesting questions Arabian Princess.. I've always wantd to ask the same question : what are the main causes of divorce (esp in our society) ?!
I came across a study carried out in the gulf region which stated that one of the causes of divorce (perhaps not the main one) is personality clashes between the two parties (husband and wife)...especially when these clashes are met with stubbornness where each party refuses to negotiate or compromise.. this situation ends up in a very tense environment and so divorce becomes inevitable..
for some reason, many people look at divorce in a negative way..despite the fact that it is a solution to so many unstable relations.. when divorce happens, it doesnt mean that the man is an unsuccesful husband/father or that the woman is an unsuccesful wife/mother.. not at all.. there are so many divorced couples who get on with their lives, find their soul mates and live a happier and more stable life..sooo, we shouldnt always look at it in a negative way..
i do agree with u bimmi, personality clashes does play an important role..
sexual neglect, is an important factor too.. for example:
the wife earns most of the money and does most of the house work and child rearing. She is an avid reader of romance novels she constantly berates her husband and threatens him with divorce. the husband generally prefers to hang out with the guys, pretty much as he did when he was growing up. both parents love and care for the kids, although certainly not with the same level of enthusiasm and attention.
plus Financial problems , as it is known money plays an important role to bring happiness nowadays.. in the past someone who is fast and muscular to catch animal is considered as the richest.. but nowadays if u have the money u will be the richest and u don't worry alot about ur home and ur kids school clothes and so and so... lack of money can lead to cnflicts between teh couples specially if they don't understand each other.
i believe there are many other factors.. can somebody mention them
as fahad stated the two reasons that lead to the divorce , what is left then the effect on children!
for sure it's gonna effect them negatively , but image the effect on them if the parents decide to stay together even if they cant even stand each other!! divorce would be much better , cause the love of at least one parent is much better than them witnessing theit parents constant fighting , and swearing!!
many think that staying together for the sake of the children is a good think while in fact they're only causing more damage this way!!
Muscati
09-01-03, 09:23 AM
AP, you just got married last week and you're already starting a topic about divorce?! ;)
Arabian Princess
09-01-03, 10:38 AM
LOOOOOL mux
I knew somoene would have such a comment :)
Wallah I was gonna say it, but I thought you might get offended sis.lol.
Really, whats the deal???:duh: :rolleyes: ;)
cummon ..give her a break!! am sure she just wants to discuss this problem in general! ;)
Here are some statistics for you from (Zahrat Al'7aleej Magazine):
- The divorce rate for married couples is 50% (sounds rational to me it is either a 'yes' I'll stay or 'no' I am leaving!)
- The divorce rate is at its highest rate during the first 5 years of marriage, then the rate declines.
- 90% of divorces are caused by financial restriction (however I always wonder when is it financially suitable to get married and not worry about this issue:lost: )
- Apparently, statistically, arranged marriages have a higher success rate than marriages based on 'love' [I wonder why I guess when it is an arranged marriage u don't have expectations but with 'love-based' marriages u have high expectations of ur partner?)
By the way, I think the above statistics are based on the gulf countries rather than world wide.
In my opinion, I don't think a woman and a man should stay together because of the kids if they are starting to hate each other because that can also affect the kids and they'd be better off with the parents separated and friends rather than enemies and living under the same roof!
Arabian Princess
09-01-03, 03:17 PM
Intresting statistics Seham.
Well personally, I beleive that every couple should place extra effort not to lead the situation to divorce. Ofcourse thats not always easy, so in this case of they beleive they cant they shouldnt let thier kids stop them from leaving each other. It is not healthy for them, thier kids or even the society.
I think the most reason why a couple wont stay togther is personality clashes. I feel that other materialistic reasons are easier to handel than perosality clashes.
cummon ..give her a break!! am sure she just wants to discuss this problem in general!
Exactly BI!! :)
I just realised that divorce is a great problem in our society and wanted to see what sabla members think about it :)
my marraige is perfect alhamdulilah :)
nice talk frieds.
yeap boy-interrupted, it is important to atke care of teh kids after divorce.. parental absenteeism ha ssome majot effects on teh children..
paternal ( father)absenteesim, has different effect on the gilr and on teh boy , some studies showed that boys who were away from ther father has low achievmnt in math subjects..
same applies to maternal absenteesim,,..
i did a presentation on the effect of parental abscenteeism on the children bit it ws 4 yrs ago .. need to check my assay...and come back soon.
DorellaM
11-01-03, 01:02 AM
Originally posted by Seham
Here are some statistics for you from (Zahrat Al'7aleej Magazine):
- The divorce rate for married couples is 50% (sounds rational to me it is either a 'yes' I'll stay or 'no' I am leaving!)
Is this for a specific country?? Cause this sounds exactly like the US statistics.
Bimzoori
12-01-03, 12:38 AM
Originally posted by Arabian Princess
I just realised that divorce is a great problem in our society and wanted to see what sabla members think about it :)
is divorce really a problem? or rather a solution to a problem?
what do the members think?
Fantasia
13-01-03, 09:48 AM
Divorce hits in the family when one wakes up one day and started to smell the coffee or realizing it is time for a new beginning.
There are so many aspects that triggers divorce. But the main thing is, people find it as an easy way out to have the freedom of being single again. In most cases, it's the mentality of "I married the wrong person at a wrong time". Or, "had I known this would happen, I would have not married this person".
The only sad part of it are when kids are affected. Especially when there is a battle of child custody.
That is why, it is always important to give enough time to know your future wife/husband. It is better to cut the losses early, rather than buried with headaches.
Arabian Princess
13-01-03, 10:16 AM
Originally posted by Bimzoori
is divorce really a problem? or rather a solution to a problem?
what do the members think?
Personally, I beleive it is a solution that may cause problems!!
espeially when kids are involved, it creats an atmpsophere where kids start thinking: why me?? why do I have a broken home!! and it becomes worse when kids start blaming themselves!!
Navigator
13-01-03, 08:04 PM
Originally posted by Bimzoori
is divorce really a problem? or rather a solution to a problem?
what do the members think?
Well it's there to be used as a solution for problems ,,
unfortunately ,,people miss use it and it becomes a problem itself !!
Bimzoori
27-01-03, 04:34 AM
well maybe thats true.. b'coz usually the issue of child custody creates more clashes..
But I think this can be solved if there is compromsie between the parents.. I mean if the father pulls from one end of the rope, and the mother pulls from the other end, the rope will end up breaking apart.. and its the children who will be affected in the end.. so there should be understanding so as to avoid such problems..
I think according to the law in Oman (not so sure though.. I'll have to double check).. , the mother (if not married) is granted custody of the children untill they reach age 9, and then the father has full right of custody... and when kids are with either parents, they usualy visit the other parent during week-ends and holidays.. whcih sounds reasonable.. and fair for both sides..
Bimzoori
27-01-03, 04:43 AM
ok I just checked from Islam-Q&A about the issue of child custody:
Sharee'ah states that if the spouses separate, the mother has more right to custody of the children than the father, but if she remarries she loses her right to custody. The evidence for that is the fact that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to that woman who asked for custody of her child from her husband – after he had divorced her – “You have more right to that so long as you do not get married.”
I think the above is followed in Oman as well.. but there are age limits as well.. and when the kids reach a certain age, they can chose where to stay, whether the mother or the father..
MoonChild
27-01-03, 09:20 PM
Originally posted by Bimzoori
Sharee'ah states that if the spouses separate, the mother has more right to custody of the children than the father, but if she remarries she loses her right to custody.
what do you think about this? essentially it says that it's OK to be a single mother, but not to re-marry and form a family again. If the mother can't support her kids, has to go find a job, who will watch the kids - so she wants to marry again - then she loses her kids :(
If both Mom and Dad re-marry, who gets the kids?
to me, it would seem better to re-marry and have a 2-parent family (both socially and economically).
Bimzoori
27-01-03, 10:25 PM
Originally posted by MoonChild
what do you think about this? essentially it says that it's OK to be a single mother, but not to re-marry and form a family again. If the mother can't support her kids, has to go find a job, who will watch the kids - so she wants to marry again - then she loses her kids :(
If both Mom and Dad re-marry, who gets the kids?
to me, it would seem better to re-marry and have a 2-parent family (both socially and economically).
Moonchild.. many divorced women re-marry in Oman.. there is no objection on that at all..
but you have raised a good question... why does a mother lose custody of her children if she remarries??
I would like to find out as well.. !! I'l get back if I fnd an answer..
Bimzoori
27-01-03, 10:33 PM
Moonchild, what does the law in the States suggest about Child custody?!
where do the kids usually stay: with the mother or father? and is the issue usually solved between the mother and father or is the decision issued by going to court?!
MoonChild
28-01-03, 06:02 PM
Originally posted by Bimzoori
Moonchild, what does the law in the States suggest about Child custody?!
where do the kids usually stay: with the mother or father? and is the issue usually solved between the mother and father or is the decision issued by going to court?!
there is no clear law - the family court system is different from civil or criminal courts in that it's based almost entirely on the Judge's opinion of what is in the best interest of the child, rather than in law. The Judge makes a determination based on what he hears from the mother, father, and their lawyers.
In the past, the mother almost ALWAYS got full custody of children unless she was clearly unfit (drug user, prostitute, etc). but more recently (last 20 years or so), the courts have begun to favor the father, and if the father wants ot be a part of the children's life he will usually get it in the form of either joint custody or one parent having full legal custody but the other parent getting lots of guaranteed visitation. For instance, if the court orders that the father has visitation every other weekend and every Wednesday, then the mother can go to jail and/or lose custody of her kids if she doesn't allow this.
I'm not sure what the statistics are about how many cases are mediated (decided outside of court) and how many go to court and what the decisions are.
It's a quite painful process for all involved.
ThE OnE
02-02-03, 02:18 PM
its life game it was played between 2 person ;)
Bimzoori
07-02-03, 05:30 AM
Ok, so far we can summarize the discussion into the following points:
-Divorce can be a suitable solution to unstable relations, however this solution can result in further complications, eg:
1) Issue of child custody.
2) Paternal absenteism can result in certain defficiencies in children. (still waiting for Fahad to elaborate more on this).
Some suggested causes of divorce:
-Personality clashes.
-Financial Problems.
-Husband/wife neglect.
-Having made the wrong choice of spouse from the begining.
Bimzoori
07-02-03, 05:33 AM
---->Question to all members:
In order to keep the discussion going on, I'd like to see your opinions on the following question.. try to put yourself in this position:
Lets say, Allah forbid, your parents got separated, and you were given FULL freedom to choose who to stay with (mother or father).. who would you go for and WHY?!!
Inshala inshalla this wont happen to any of you.. but try to imagine yourself in that situation.. what would you do?!! how would you manage your time btwn the two parents?!
waiting to hear your answers..
Divorce is a future tense of Marriage :D.
I think for the couple before going to divorce procedures they should ask themselves some questions especially when kids exist, such as the negatives of the divirce is high then the positives then they should work out and put their children into the consideration. and if the positives are more then the negatives then they can go ahead with the divorce although their children will be affected more then themselves. divorce affects children phychologically and physically. In school they will not be able to consentrate in their studies, also divorce affect their body developments, they will not eat proper food , always like staying alone in the house without doing anything like sports.
Wanderer
11-02-03, 07:14 PM
If half of all marriages end in divorce, the other half end in death.
SUpREMe
11-02-03, 07:38 PM
hi all...
bimi...i think your ideas on the topic are very true nd interesting...
as for your question, i think it will depend on what type of father or mother u have... i was seriously thinking about who to choose if such a thing ( god forbids it happend to me)...
well...i couldn't choose :rolleyes:
what i was thinking of when reading this topic is that:
if a woman got devorced in Oman, would it be easy for her to get married again???
knowing about our society nd the way Men thinks, it is not easy for a devorced lady to get married again...her choices will be very limited... either she gets married to a devorced guy, or to an already married one.. other choices r very rare....only if she gets very lucky.
Bimzoori
12-02-03, 03:56 AM
Originally posted by SUpREMe
[B]hi all...
bimi...i think your ideas on the topic are very true nd interesting...
as for your question, i think it will depend on what type of father or mother u have... i was seriously thinking about who to choose if such a thing ( god forbids it happend to me)...
well...i couldn't choose :rolleyes:
I agree with you that the question is very difficult to answer.. sometimes having people make the choice for you makes life much easier..
MoonChild
12-02-03, 05:25 AM
Originally posted by Bimzoori
[Byou were given FULL freedom to choose who to stay with (mother or father).. who would you go for and WHY?!!
[/B]
Heh heh thus speak the young :p
When you get to be my age, the burning question is, who would come live with YOU?! :D
I've already decided that mom can live with us but dad can go to a nursing home :fire:
Morbid_Angel69
21-02-03, 11:27 AM
I think divorce should be taken as a last resort if the couple has tried everything to solve their problems but it wasnt working.
I know someone who's parents are divorced and i can see how bad it has affected her.
Her mum lives in dubai and she lives here with her father. Her dad is never home, her dad doesnt care what time she stays out until or where she goes and who she sees.
She doesnt have any respect for herself and her grades are very poor too. She doesnt want to go to university after she finishes school - she'd rather take a year off and travel.
She has been raped before! She was in a relationship with a guy who used to beat her up! ETC....
Is this how you want your children to be affected - even if it wasnt this extreme, you can imagine what their hearts are feeling! :weep:
Divorce should be the last choice a man should take to correct a broken marraige, lets go deep into the issue of divorce and have a bigger glnace about it's causes and conseqences mainly on the women, the kids and the society in general.
The following is a serious of questions waiting in a hot ovan for discussion and shring experience:
1. What do you think the major causes of divorce in our society in particular and in the whole world in general?
2. Do you think the chance for a divorced couple to return or fix their initial relation is high or low? and what are the reasons?
3. What are the conseqences of a divorced couple related to the children (if they have any), the wife and the society in general?
4. What is the chance of a divored woman to get married again?
Divorced is MUCH MUCH better that living with someone( u can't live with) for the rest of ur life.......
I don't mind to get divorce in the future
I'm even like 60% sure that I will get divorce :P..
Originally posted by kitkat
Divorced is MUCH MUCH better that living with someone( u can't live with) for the rest of ur life.......
I don't mind to get divorce in the future
I'm even like 60% sure that I will get divorce :P..
KitKat..
What makes you think that you stand 60% to get divorce.. I think that''s the worst snerio to think about it..
Arabian Princess
17-06-03, 08:56 AM
Ice tea,
I thought of merging the old thread with the new one coz you will find them very simmiler to each other.
H-Highness
17-06-03, 08:58 AM
****delete double post*****
H-Highness
17-06-03, 09:00 AM
1. What do you think the major causes of divorce in our society in particular and in the whole world in general?
I think problem differ from couple to couple but most of the time its lack of understanding, trust and respect.
2. Do you think the chance for a divorced couple to return or fix their initial relation is high or low? and what are the reasons?
Again it depend with couple themselves and the problem they're having, there some are willing to re-work their relation and start fresh life and forget completely the past but some don't accept it. So I would say chances are very low.
3. What are the conseqences of a divorced couple related to the children (if they have any), the wife and the society in general?
I think the sufferer here most of the time are children, I mean they're torn between the parents. Also I don't think they would be any problem for the couple themselves if they have formed another marital affairs.
4. What is the chance of a divored woman to get married again?
Good one, chances are very slim but again you can't generalize it
Originally posted by IceTea
Divorce should be the last choice a man should take to correct a broken marraige, lets go deep into the issue of divorce and have a bigger glnace about it's causes and conseqences mainly on the women, the kids and the society in general.
The following is a serious of questions waiting in a hot ovan for discussion and shring experience:
1. What do you think the major causes of divorce in our society in particular and in the whole world in general?
A - Major cause most probably the Pride/ Family Involments/ wrong selection of the bride materialistic.
2. Do you think the chance for a divorced couple to return or fix their initial relation is high or low? and what are the reasons?
B - Once they have divorced to fix it, or return to mend it the chance are always low, even if they do the trust between the two wil lalways hang inbalance..
3. What are the conseqences of a divorced couple related to the children (if they have any), the wife and the society in general?
A - Always the children suffer the most and many ended up in wrong group of people and children a lost..
4. What is the chance of a divored woman to get married again?
A - From NOBLE Men point of view that's somnething I dont want even to hear about it, but it there it happens and we have to accept the realities. The chance is there but not to many.. majority I have seen are sitting at home waiting for Miracles to take it cause.. I would say 1 to 10..
UmHamed
17-06-03, 12:32 PM
Well am not gonna answer all the question coz cos members have ready answered but am keen to aswer the last question:)
What is the chance of a divored woman to get married again Talking about our country the chance is always slim coz of lack of education ppl always think in negative way and that why the demand to allow woman to marry any muslim foregner is needed. A divorced woman will always be careful to re marry as not to do the same mistake again. The matter is not to be labled "married" rather is to be "happly married". also we should not forget that al Zawaj Qisma ....;)
Originally posted by jamila
Talking about our country the chance is always slim coz of lack of education ppl always think in negative way and that why the demand to allow woman to marry any muslim foregner is needed. A divorced woman will always be careful to re marry as not to do the same mistake again. The matter is not to be labled "married" rather is to be "happly married". also we should not forget that al Zawaj Qisma ....;)
Jamila
That's the reason NOBLE people always do have Option and suggestion to solve the problems.. knowingly that Divorced Women stand a less chance re-marrying like you have mentioed due to lack of basic education.. and the Hope is always there for Divorced one to see again the light at the end of the tunnel...
Originally posted by jamila
Well am not gonna answer all the question coz cos members have ready answered but am keen to aswer the last question:)
Talking about our country the chance is always slim coz of lack of education ppl always think in negative way and that why the demand to allow woman to marry any muslim foregner is needed. A divorced woman will always be careful to re marry as not to do the same mistake again. The matter is not to be labled "married" rather is to be "happly married". also we should not forget that al Zawaj Qisma ....;)
I dont believe that.. but i have heard people saying that as well.. infact the, last person that i heard saying was my aunt, i couldnt keep my mouth shut, so i told her that everything is written by Allah, if this person is going to get married or not, who is she to say that once a woman is divorced wont get married again... she used to say it all the time.. and it really bothered me so much.. since that day i never heard her saying that.. and she wouldnt even dare to say those words again when i was around.
H-Highness
17-06-03, 04:12 PM
Originally posted by jamila
Talking about our country the chance is always slim coz of lack of education ppl always think in negative way and that why the demand to allow woman to marry any muslim foregner is needed. A divorced woman will always be careful to re marry as not to do the same mistake again. The matter is not to be labled "married" rather is to be "happly married". also we should not forget that al Zawaj Qisma ....;)
I tend to agree with Jamila, people need to be open-minded with this issue. Its very pathetic to find a woman how is looked up when is divorced, there some who are willing to sacrify their happiness for the same of being labbeled married and keep the unheath relation going on.:duh:
I'm against divorce by all means but when its about humiliation and mistrust I call it full stop.
H-Highness
17-06-03, 04:21 PM
Originally posted by Sleyum
Jamila
That's the reason NOBLE people always do have Option and suggestion to solve the problems.. knowingly that Divorced Women stand a less chance re-marrying like you have mentioed due to lack of basic education.. and the Hope is always there for Divorced one to see again the light at the end of the tunnel...
Good for you, but excuse me in this regards. I would recommend second marriage if there's really need for it. Giving excuse as there's alot of women than men, I find it pathetic.
Cause it seems majority are taking this as fashion thingi, but how far do we really know the rules of poligamy. Its clearly mentioned if a man isn't fair with his wives, he has no place in heaven. Again poligamy is not haram but is neither encouraged nor its must.
Feel free to enlight me
UmHamed
17-06-03, 05:39 PM
Selma habibti I didnt understand what is that you dont believe?
H-H darling, those ppl make me sick too but cant help we got too many Chauvinistics and narrow minded ppl.The campaign idea (somebody mentioned b4 in another thread) was brilliant donno when we gonna start :)
Sleyum the divorced lady now days won't agree to put her self in a sh1t of being a second wife, cos v. few men understand and follow religion. hey why u have to put a "second wife idea" as a solution of every human problem? it merely increase problem !!!:angre:
Originally posted by jamila
Selma habibti I didnt understand what is that you dont believe?
This is what i meant:
Originally posted by jamila
Talking about our country the chance is always slim coz of lack of education ppl always think in negative way...
Originally posted by H-Highness
Good for you, but excuse me in this regards. I would recommend second marriage if there's really need for it. Giving excuse as there's alot of women than men, I find it pathetic.
Cause it seems majority are taking this as fashion thingi, but how far do we really know the rules of poligamy. Its clearly mentioned if a man isn't fair with his wives, he has no place in heaven. Again poligamy is not haram but is neither encouraged nor its must.
Feel free to enlight me
My Honourable Lady..
I did not.. neither do I encourage Men to go for second wife's for the sake of just going for it as part of fashion... Going for second Wife with good reason.. the reason which are justifiable and carry some weight.. beside we have basic Rules as a Muslim for going to second wife if those rules can be followed Then why not.. go for it.. Yes i still stand with my option to go for Second Wife as far we follow the rules and we can be Fair for Both wifes.. if a Men knows He is weak can not satisfy Both equally then why Bothering accumulating SIN...
Originally posted by selma
I dont believe that.. but i have heard people saying that as well.. infact the, last person that i heard saying was my aunt, i couldnt keep my mouth shut, so i told her that everything is written by Allah, if this person is going to get married or not, who is she to say that once a woman is divorced wont get married again... she used to say it all the time.. and it really bothered me so much.. since that day i never heard her saying that.. and she wouldnt even dare to say those words again when i was around.
Selma..
I can understand your frustration what people keep saying about Divorced Women what cahnce they stand.. Neither me do I like to believe in such a Negative thinking. I for One I wouldn't really Mind Marrying a Divorced Women even if she has been Divorced more than once as far our chemistry match. But our Society and the Whole gulf I would say thye think the other way round like whay Jamila has mentioned.. People they dont care to understand the reason why the women has been Divorced even if the 100% Mistake comes from the Men. We always jump into wrong judgement and put all the blame on women which is wrong, Its not fair, and that's where I always disagree with Men and find them being Sick people without any brain. But will Sleyum, Selma, Jamila and HH.. change the mind of our people?? how can we overcome that? its difficult and we have to accept and live with that... :weep:
H-Highness
18-06-03, 08:28 AM
Originally posted by Sleyum
But will Sleyum, Selma, Jamila and HH.. change the mind of our people?? how can we overcome that? its difficult and we have to accept and live with that... :weep:
Totally agree with you, I firm believe that TIME is great healer for everything. So lets pray and I'm sure things will change ;)
Originally posted by H-Highness
Totally agree with you, I firm believe that TIME is great healer for everything. So lets pray and I'm sure things will change ;)
Once in Sabla's life time HH agrees with Men point of view...
and that's a very Big Improvement from our Honourable Lady..
H-Highness
18-06-03, 08:55 AM
Originally posted by Sleyum
Once in Sabla's life time HH agrees with Men point of view...
and that's a very Big Improvement from our Honourable Lady..
Mmmh, so you mean to say I was always sturbon, I don't believe it, never. :weep: :weep:
AP, i personally think that the couple should talk about anything for example, a husbad should talk to his wife about anything that goes in his mind and the wife should do the same. Meaning they should give themselves the opportuny of talking to each other. i think that most divorce cases could've been avoided if the couple had talked and express to each other what they feel and want and for the other party ( wife / husband) should listen and try to solve their problems especially when there kids are involved. Personally TALKING TALKING TALKING to each other can prevent marriages from divorce. Of course i mean talking about problems. each party should give the chance for the other party to express his/her opinion.
Sleyum..
well I'm maybe even 80% sure..
czu I know that I will marry that traditionla way to marry someone from Jordan and maybe from the same family.. and I know that I wont be able to live there for the rest of my life.. I just got use of Oman and Omani people.. and I dont think that me and my relatives can even be friends :(..
BuT I will marry cuz my parents wont let me stay married-less for the rest of my life.. so I will marry to show them that I listend to them then I wont be able to live that way so I will ask for divorce and as a divorced woman I think no one ever will force me to marry again and I will live free for the rest of my life :D..
H-Highness
19-06-03, 08:52 AM
Tell me you're kidding Kitkat.
You shouldn't be pessimistic about marriage, you never know things might be beyond your expectation.:cool:
Marriage is Not a prison.......it is a partnership.......and all partnerships go thru high and low times.......
They usually don't survive the down periods........because the people involved lack the will to endure.......thinking all should be happy and rosey......like in a Hollywood movie.......and the first sign of trouble...BYE BYE......
The younger couples have no experience of real poverty and the many tragedies that can happen to a married couple.........sticking together and getting thru the bad times is what makes the marriage work.....
What makes you think a new partner will spare you from the same problems?
That's my 2 rials.....
cheers
fatak
Originally posted by H-Highness
Tell me you're kidding Kitkat.
You shouldn't be pessimistic about marriage, you never know things might be beyond your expectation.:cool:
Kidding HH..
It Could be!!
But this one of the highest problem we have with the So Called Highly Educated Arab Women.. they think they are on top of everything just because of their Education and that's where things goes wrong.. just to realise when its too late..
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