Many would think what am i trying to really say or mean by that word?!!! But tell me how would you react to someone who always is being Suspicious ????

Well I will give you some questions that might help rise good arguments or even points, and discussion.

How does it happen?!

Why would someone start suspecting?!

Could it be harmful?

How can you deal with someone who has such a habit?!

do you believe its a good thing or bad?! and how would you feel that the one that you really love so much would suspect you in a negative way!?



I would love to hear from all of you about this topic ,,, as i have been facing such a problem and it really has been putting me off, I thought of sharing it with you, and than I can put my own opinion after i see from you guys !!!:(

Nice topic Neena ..

How does it happen?!

Well it depends on what do you mean by suspious. from my point of view .. I see that being suspious is a person who just think too much of every incident happens coz nothing could go smoothly on this world. Example: you met a friend at a shopping mall .. she was over happy to see you .. and your friend just say: she is hiding something and this is why she is over happy!!! :rolleyes:

I hate this attitude .. ok its right to be careful sometimes but dont turn every moment in your life into a police investigation!!!

Why would someone start suspecting?!

sometimes it happens out of past experiece maybe he was hurt for not being careful .. or its a nosy attitude of him.

Could it be harmful?

Yes it could .. coz sometimes that person might dought someone's attitude whle it is nothing true about it. The worst is when that suspecting person takes what he suspected as the ultimate truth .. it could turn into a rumouer.

How can you deal with someone who has such a habit?!

If he is a close perosn to me .. I would advice him to stop it .. tell him that he thinks too much about something that does not need that.
If he wasnt a close person .. I would just not take what he is suspecting seriously ..


do you believe its a good thing or bad?! and how would you feel that the one that you really love so much would suspect you in a negative way!?

as I said, its a bad thing. It always hurts when you did not do something and someone suspects of doigng it. I would personal would ask for a frank talk with that person. Tells him that it hurts me that I am not trusted by him and what reason make him/her suspect me .. if they were valid reasons and things I could work on .. I will work on it .. if they were just made up stories .. I would ask him to think troughly about it again and realise he is wrong.

well you know what they say "curiosity kills the cat"

"How does it happen?!"

Insecure, untrusting people are suspisious...also when a person is negitive/bad himself he tends to suspect it in others.

"Why would someone start suspecting?!"
Ditto....also maybe (if he/she is a good person) it maybe because he's noticed unordinary habbits in you of late.

"Could it be harmful?"
Yep, it can destroy a relationship.

"How can you deal with someone who has such a habit?!"
You lay it down clear to them, tell them whats there and you are not comfortable with their behaviour.

"do you believe its a good thing or bad?! and how would you feel that the one that you really love so much would suspect you in a negative way!? "

Bad because it means this person doesn't trust you. I'd feel pretty hurt.....

How does it happen?!
Well as its been said, insecure people will be suspicious, something could have happened to them before to make them this way (not trusting). But it can aslo be a form of jealousy - maybe you've been hanging around some different friends or something, to make them feel left out and then they just go all weird with you.

Why would someone start suspecting?!
You could have done something without even realising it. Something similar could have happened to them before with someone else to make them suspicious... Or someone could have said something to them. Or and this is something to think about - the other person is doing something that you would be hurt by or that you wouldn't like and they are taking that guilt and shame out on you and are trying to find something that you've done that is wrong.

Could it be harmful?
It's always bad - it makes you uncomfortable, them uncomfortable. It's like there is something else there in the room with you the whole time - and it won't go away. It can ruin a friendship/relationship with whomever you are with.

How can you deal with someone who has such a habit?!
My advice... Confront them - ask them what is wrong? Why are you acting this way? Because then it is out of the way and they can act normal with you if the suspicion is ungrounded (not true). If it is true, then you can work it out.

do you believe its a good thing or bad?! and how would you feel that the one that you really love so much would suspect you in a negative way!?
It's a bad thing - it means that there is a SERIOUS lack of trust - and that needs to be fixed right away - because things like trust are not something that can be ignored. It has happened to me before and it hurts alot, and it is ok for it to hurt as well. When someone you love doesn't trust you it's like being stabbed in the heart. :(

Being Suspicious

How does it happen?! Why would someone start suspecting?!

1) Neena, some people are suspicious by nature and you don't have to have a reason for them to automatically question your move, your behaviour, your attitude, your way of thinking...etc This is to my opinion very negative, especially if that person is close to you.

2) Others become suspicious because something different happened which makes them question the reason behind this change.

Could it be harmful?

It depends if the suspicion is experienced a moment, if it is a repetitive habit (justified or not), or if the suspicion involves something serious.

If it is temporary and the feelings of suspecting are not strong, I don't think it will really be harmful. Most probably the person suspected will not even realized that something is happening on the other side.

If the suspicion is a repetitive habit or involves something serious, it might not be harmful at the beginning...however, if not subdue, it will certainly bring some strains on one side or the other, or even on both people involved. It is difficult to have a positive atmosphere around someone who constantly suspect the other for whatever reasons. A relation can be damaged because of this.

How can you deal with someone who has such a habit?!

Again it depends if that someone is dear to you or not. If it is an acquaintance or a person you barely have contact with, I would just say ignore it.

However, if it involves someone very closed to you, or someone you love, then the best thing is communication. You have to sit down with that person, talk about what disturb him/her and built trust in that person.

It might not be easy, but knowing you, I am sure it is something you can achieve with patience ;)