Since this is a cultural sabla .. why dont we talk about diffent wedding customes in Oman and in the world??

Members could start and then I would talk about my town wedding customes :)

Please clarify if this topic is about wedding customs or wedding costumes.

I mean customs which include costumes in them :)

sorry mind my spelling :p

Arby, why don't you take the initiative to make this thread alive;)

Well I remember my grandparents telling me once about their wedding, you know, things that we no longer do in our weddings, I should really go and speak to them again, to refresh my memory, see if I can find something interesting.

AP our culture is disappearing because the new generation is copying the westerners in everything...thats why i want to ban MTV in the middle east.
Men these days wear tuxedos and women wear white dresses that arent traditional at all.
omani women used to wear the very colorful scarf and pants with cool hina covering their body. They had the old women bands who sound like men.... but these days we have a freakin DJ......since when did we have djs and parties on the beach and all that crap.
Iam sorry I went a bit offtopic but AP we have to save our culture from western influence.
In the uae a man wears a bisht,guitra,igal and white dishdasha...and maybe a sword or kanjar depending from which family they come from.

wonderful :D:p

OooooooK.. Arby can I start abt our town "mine and urs :D:p"

welllllll..

period: it varies.. BUT usually 3 days.. especially for women..

ppl: neighbors and relatives go to help.. rarely can u find ppl depending only on themselves during wedding days.. this is best part of weddings.. the gatherings.. and co-operation..

where? of course the main party is at the man's house.. however, at the girl's house there's still qahwa and 7alwa for visitors.. mainly the close neighbors and whomever the mother wants to invite.. there's also alot of traditional singing.. although these days some ppl listen to modern songs.. "I HATE THIS :fire:"

the mosque or the sabla is where the qahwa offered for men visitors..

clothes: Omani dishdasha for men "usually white.. which I prefer"
for ladies it differs from a region to another.. but they're all fantastic.. colorful.. and don't forget what gold jewellery adds :color:

what happens? hmm.. at night the groom comes and takes his wife.. in fact this may be different from an area to another.. for example in other parts of the town the bride is taken to the groom who is waiting for her at the house while in other parts he goes and brings her to his house.. with a lot of Omani singing and alot of ppl around, the bride enters her house beside the groom..

there's a tradition whereby the groom puts his foot on the bride's when abt to enter the house and some water or maybe rose water is poured on them.. hmm :lost: is this true Arby :confused:

this is what I can think of right now.. Arby, why not complete or add to it? :)

ooh if i will tell u the weddings in my family u will go ......stop please ...... coz we got many many things to do in weddings ...... i think most of u knows bulushi weddings ........ :D ........
we got one full week wedding ....... male in his house and female in her house but last day is in females house ....... soem of them like to make it in tradition way like me .......:p ...... and others in moderen way ......
as far as u r taiking about culture .......
we have in the 1st day male comes with bands wich is bulushi music , relatives , friends , neiboughrs , family ...... to brides house to bring her mahar , gold and bla bla ....... in this day some of them manke engagement party as well and some of them prfere it b4 this night (months or may be yrs ) ......... so if no engagement at this night then bride will stay in and wont show her face to any one outside coz groom cant see her till zafaf ...... :D ...... and music and ppl r dancing .......
2nd night brides face is covered by yellow cloth and she stays in 7iglaa ...... and music is on and ppl dancing round ............groom hasnt got anything but just bands , music , dance in thier house ......
3rd day we call it small 7inna day where bride will be hennad by women , in her hands and feet ...... but still her face is covered ...... and groom come to her with coins and money and drop that on her head ....... ( some times they r noughty they make fun) ....... and yah b4 he comes they make 3areesh in his house all his friends relatives brothers and ....... women bring sandel and ka7al to put one him sandel and ka7al in his eyes .......... they tear his dishdasha ......(poor groom) ........:D and when he comes to bride house bride relatives and family tear his deshdasha again ........:D

4th day at night bands in both houses with dances and musics and its called big henna night ...... women will put a very small bit of henna on his feet and his friends , realtives and brothers , uncles bla bla give him money .and bands on with music and dance ..... then after that at 11 pm brides relatives come to grooms house and bring a plate of henna hands shaped and some rings and bla bla on it ...... this is they said brides hand so he have to use that henna for his feet when women put on his feet ........:rolleyes: ...... and he got khnjer and saif and very sopecial ......
5th night is they night all male go to mousque and he as well ........and that for 3aqed qeraan ....... and brides relatives go as well there ...... but at the morning in the same day groom comes with his father and other person and the relijoust man to bride and ask her who is going take ur responsiblity or bla bla ...... then she said who she wants to be like most of the times its dad ......... and then the relijoust man asks her if she agrees or not 3 times ...... and then when she agrees then women clups and men with each other keep hugging and wish the best for groom ....... at night he cmes with everybody by a designed car to bride and here they r husband and wife ...... so everyboy come to shake thier hands to them and ...... but b4 that he takes off the scarf from brides face and pray on it ......
6th day is the day every body is invited for dinner and 7th night they will go for honey moon if they want if not then groom takes the bride to his own house and some times afetr three day of wedding they go to ther house ....... thast the wedding its finished :color:
ps everybody is so special in the wedding ....... waiting for my brother to get married ........:rolleyes:

LoL , maha that is too long...
in sha' allah my wedding will be 1-2 days :)

i would to know what are the wedding custom in salalah, i remember long time ago a friend of mine was talking about it but i tottaly forgot what he said..

Originally posted by floret

there's a tradition whereby the groom puts his foot on the bride's when abt to enter the house and some water or maybe rose water is poured on them.. hmm :lost: is this true Arby :confused:

this is what I can think of right now.. Arby, why not complete or add to it? :)

Thanx Flora for your illustrative description .. I was waiting for you to start coz u will know more and then I will comment on it :)

Well regarding the feet on top her feet thing, I knew some people from closer areas who does but I dont think in our town we do it right?? However I heared it symbolise that he is the has power over you .. my aunties warned me before he comes that if he tried to put his feet on top of yours pull it away ,, he didnt :)

Regarding the rose water, yes they do it .. and sometimes they slaughter a goat and pour the blood on top of the woman's feet.
It is a sacrifice for a happy marraige.


Maha, really intresting .. one of the weedings I wanna attend is a Bulushi wedding .. I always hear about it .. but never attended one .. so u might invite me to urs ok?? :)
my balushi friend told me that the man has to stay in the bride's house for days before going to thier house .. thats an intresting thing :)

Fahad, urs will be only 1-2 days :p soooo boring .. am not going to urs :p .. just kidding ofcourse :) All the best Inshallah

Qais, what you said is very true for muscat wedding coz of the inetermixing of cultures .. Alhamdulilah we still maintain the traditional wedding in the villages.

I have been to a relative wedding in Abudhabi .. the intresting part was that after the Malka .. and when the man comes to the bride's home, his relatives stay outside and sing and dance .. it was very intresting coz its simmiler to the Omani way :)

Nice topic Arbi, and i would like to share to you here the negative costoms during the wedding (which really i hate it)

1. I have noticed when the groom enters the bride room, usually there is a woman standing at the door and ask for money, which usually not less than 40 O.R, it could reach more than that.

2. At the first night, there should be some family members from both sides staying over night.

3. the next day of wedding there will be an invitation for lounch for may be the tribes of the family members or the town, which is really cost alot.

My suggestion is once the wedding cermony is over, it is preferable for groom and the bride to go for a honey moon alone, the of this trip will be equal or less that the cost of the above mentioned. the honeymoon should not be necessary to go abroad, but it could be in oman it self, this habit will let them to understand each other more and get colser than being surounded with families.

The invitation can be arranged after the honeymoon, when both are knowing each other and there is no shyness between them., and it should be restricted to the families members only.

and more will come later.....

ooh inshalah araby i will if that written in my faith and luck ....... :D ...... i will then invite u all ......:D ...... hmmmm but let the man come first ...... think he is dosnt know where i live ........:D.........

ooh yah fahad it is and u know culture ...... but easy for brides ...... and groom is alway the poor man ...... :D ...... i think u saw that in ur sis wedding but my uncle was always tired ....... :D ......
most og the guys wanna change this like my cousin and uncle ........ they want just 2 days no more .......but still fun ..... :color:

Originally posted by Equality
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1. I have noticed when the groom enters the bride room, usually there is a woman standing at the door and ask for money, which usually not less than 40 O.R, it could reach more than that.
This is very true ad I hate it .. its just an extra of the non ending expenses of the wedding .. but I feel this habbit is dimishing those days.

2. At the first night, there should be some family members from both sides staying over night.
I dont think this is happening anymore :confused:

3. the next day of wedding there will be an invitation for lounch for may be the tribes of the family members or the town, which is really cost alot.
exactly, another undeeded wedding expense!!!!!!

My suggestion is once the wedding cermony is over, it is preferable for groom and the bride to go for a honey moon alone, the of this trip will be equal or less that the cost of the above mentioned. the honeymoon should not be necessary to go abroad, but it could be in oman it self, this habit will let them to understand each other more and get colser than being surounded with families.

I agree with this suggestion .. but, I beleive that spending the honeymoon in Oman itself wont make a diffence .. its a small country and you would have families everywhere and they wont leave you alone .. the least thing to do is spend it in neighbouring countries like Dubai ..

I agree with SOME of what Equality said..

1. yeah.. no need to have a woman standing by the door.. I hate this tradition.. and this what I fear most when atending my sisters' or any of my relatives' weddings.. causes some problems..

2. and I dislike the idea of having some other members of the girl's family overnight.. BUT I pity the poor girl who feels all alone.. she needs someone beside her.. donno..

3. what's wrong with having a feast? I know it's expensive but wouldn't that gather alot of ur dear ones who want to congratulate u? anyway, it depends on what u want to offer.. some ppl try to show off by making BiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiG feasts.. u know.. rice and meat.. :rolleyes:

abt the honeymoon.. maybe yes it doesn't have to be abroad.. but I think it'd be more intereting to be away faaaaaaaar from everyone else :D:p ya3ni getting rid of ppl :D:p j/k I think since u got the person u want then no matter wherever u go.. if u're happy with that person then spending the whole time with him/her is the BEST honeymoon one gets.. :sorry:

Wow...it is so interesting topic & I hope to know more info about the marrige custome in my country ( while I don't have any clue about them:rolleyes: ).......

Bolushi wedding:eek: Oooooooooooooooof it is very hard one they r suffering 4 one week & I really petty the bride who is coverd by more than 5 scarfs:eyes: ...how can she breaths??PoOr lady......
In Al Dakhlia they have many customs I don't know all of them, but as I have heard the dad should not stay at home that day & the mother should not wear bright & colourful clothes to show the ppl that she is not happy to leave her daughter.....Mmmmm I don't know more, but I'll ask my mum & tell u more later:wink: .

In my family the wedding is very simple & 4 one night only & that's it then the couple go where ever they want.....

What I'm cerious to know the custom in salalah, cauz I've heard strange things....I've heard that the bride shaves all her hare to the Zero:eyes: to be more beautiful!!!! so this is Y I'm cerious to know more about their weddings customs.