Hey Guyz...

Last Year I met one of my sister's friends, she is the same age as me... I used to know her be4 that, but not too much, actually I only knew her name!!!
Anyway, one day, I got her e-mail by mistake, and talked to her, she was nice and completly not rude at all...
This year we became good friends, and we talk about everything without anyone getting mad at the other, I mean like we joke alot with everything...:rolleyes:

Anyway, I used to live in Jordan 2 years ago, be4 I knew her this well, and when I came to live in Oman, we became very good friends, though I haven't talked to her face to face yet!!!

Now the bad things start:

Last night 21/3/2003 at 2:00am almost, I was talking to her, we were having fun, laughing and making fun...
But suddenly, she stopped making fun and Laughing...
I asked why, and she told me that she needed to tell me something, but I should tell anyone about it, and she said the it was very Dangerous...
Ofcourse, I told her to tell me...
She said that be4 yesterday, some green toxic started to grow on her hand, and she went to the Doctor, and he told her that it is some kind of new Cancer!!! Ofcourse I was :eek:, and I asked her how did this happen, and stuff like that... First I thought that she was kidding around, but she told me that I shouldn't make fun of this cause she was crying like hell at that moment, I felt completly sorry, and felt like crying, she said that only had a couple of weeks to continue in life, and that made me Verryyy Sorry, and I almost cried again...:sorry: After that she asked me for a last favour, I told her to say anything she wants...

She said the Following:

I need you to do me this last favour... as I said yes she said:

I need you to throw your self out of the window...
I was like :lost: HUH?
Then she started laughing, she said that she completly tricked me...

I became filled with Rage and I blocked her...
And sent her an e-mail after that asking her how could she do something like this to me, and I told her that I had blocked her...

Now, every 2-4 hours, she sends me an e-mail BEGGING me to unblock her, she really pissed me off...

What do you think I should do?

i m sorry for what happened to you, there is a french philosophe who said

the stupid man forgive and forget
the rude man do not forget and do not forgive
the wise man forgive but never forget


my advice for you is to be a wise man,so forgive her , but you can find a way to get your payback, i mean this is a chance for you to get whatever you want, i think that she's ready to do anything to make you back to her, so ask her anything you want , right now she is all yours, just make her feel that you are very obset and mad at her, so if she wants to make it up to you she has to do that and that....

i mean she deserves a kind of punition, cause we don't play with human feelings like that especially when it comes to death.

good luck !!!!

if you really like this girl keep her sweating for few days anf then get back to her.
remember "treat them mean and you'll keep them keen". not a nice thing to say i know but it works. don't over do it though.

I think this should be in Personal problems sabla.. anyway, I don't agree with reena.. there are other ways to deal with such situations.. getting revenge won't cause but more complicated problems..

I think u should stop this relationship asap.. u know the first reason.. and the second reason is that u shouldn't give her another chance..

don't make use of her "begging".. it's not appropriate..

do the right thing.. not what u like..

Reena: a very good post....says it all..:) and would agree with you that being the wise man is the best...

i can only add.... you dont need to get payback..or (revenge) on that i would disagree ....just inform your friend..that you were seriously... upset..about what she did..and you will forget about it... have a new start.... but if you keep in mind....a payback..plan..then the idea..will...pop in your mind....with every chance you find...eventually it might spoil your friendship..forever..... just let it go....:)

after all...it was totally in-mature...for her to do that..but its best to deal with it in best mature way possible...

good luck....thx for sharing your story.....hmm

Unblock her then throw yourself out the window !

for every tease or Joke there is a limit and such jokes are realy Over the limits and un explainble!

well it depends on u...
If u r a person that can forget and forgive easly or Not!

Well, thanks guyz, I think that reena might have the best solution, being the wise man is better than being rude...

About floret's suggestion, well, why should I stop the Relationship asap? I think that there are many ways to continue the relationship without making problems...

Now, if I Forgive her and I'll have to take revenge...
If I forget about it and make everything go well, she might do it again...
If I Stop the relationship, it might spoil the whole thing, as it may make me regret what I did by not being a forgiving person, as DD Said...

Anyway, I guess that the best between these solutions is the first... Forgiving and taking revenge later in another way! Like making her forgive me for something I did by mistake!

Well, thanks alot guyz, I hope that I can find a forth option that may help me not to take the other three!

And yeah, IceTea...This Ain't No Joke!:duh:

Well thats was not a joke, why cuz he can still throw himself out of the nearest window to the grownd. So he will be fine "inshallah" and this will prove to her that he is willing to do anything for her even if she didn't meant it. Thus she will show more respect to him and the relation will be stronger.It's different approach got it Thug. !

So what do you think of it al khalili ? :cool:

thanx for enjoying our advices, all i just wanna say is that you should act according to the way you want your relashionship with her goes, if you are planning to continue as before ,to set up the situation and make her understand that what she did is too bad , giving her a lesson, so she wont do it again can be useful, you are the only one who knows, just be smart and wise about it, good luck, and if you don't mind let us know about the up comming. :)

Well thats was not a joke, why cuz he can still throw himself out of the nearest window to the grownd. So he will be fine "inshallah" and this will prove to her that he is willing to do anything for her even if she didn't meant it. Thus she will show more respect to him and the relation will be stronger.It's different approach got it Thug. !

Maybe your right, but throwing myself would be risky and painful...

thanx for enjoying our advices, all i just wanna say is that you should act according to the way you want your relashionship with her goes, if you are planning to continue as before ,to set up the situation and make her understand that what she did is too bad , giving her a lesson, so she wont do it again can be useful, you are the only one who knows, just be smart and wise about it, good luck, and if you don't mind let us know about the up comming.

Reena, Ihave no idea if I want to continue this Relationship, it's not easy to decide, cause I know her for more than 1 year, and that's why I'm taking advice...

well it seems to me, that if you've known this girl for a year you are beginning to see another side to her... the possibly cruel side. The longer you know someone the more that they will show of their personality. I say this because you seemed very shocked by her behaviour.

If you want to continue the relationship, do so, but be very careful. You could get hurt - she could do it again, or something else.

I think that you should probably try to distance yourself emotionally from this girl for a while. Until you can be sure that she's not the person that she showed herself to be last night...

take care of yourself....

Thanks alot Jumanjima, I think you are right about the longer I know the one, the more I know about his personality...

Anyway, I sent her an e-mail after she had asked for forgivness, and told her that I will have to think for a while and take advice from here and there about this situation...

She just sent me back an e-mail, telling me that she doesn't care about whats gonna happen, and if I want this to be this way, it is fine with her, and she doesn't care anymore, cause she thinks that I get mad quickly... But I don't think so...

I sent her now to tell her that it's her choice to do whatever she wants... I wonder whats gonna happen next...

she said that you get mad too quickly.....and of course you didn't, for me that means that she doesn't have the same values , she doesn't give the same attention and importance to what she does and says, the problem is that could lead to some misunderstanding and misinterpretating of what both of you will say , so the question is to know whether she deserves to work this out or not, so just put in balance the good sides of her and the bad one's ,in order to make up your mind, i hope you good luck,

Originally posted by mf_alkhalili
Thanks alot Jumanjima, I think you are right about the longer I know the one, the more I know about his personality...

Anyway, I sent her an e-mail after she had asked for forgivness, and told her that I will have to think for a while and take advice from here and there about this situation...

She just sent me back an e-mail, telling me that she doesn't care about whats gonna happen, and if I want this to be this way, it is fine with her, and she doesn't care anymore, cause she thinks that I get mad quickly... But I don't think so...

I sent her now to tell her that it's her choice to do whatever she wants... I wonder whats gonna happen next...

It sounds to me like she is angry about what she did - she regrets it/ feels guilty. And is now taking that guilt out on you - i mean come on, saying she doesn't care anymore, after asking you for forgiveness so much??? Doesn't make sense - she's angry at herself, and is taking it out on you - unless she never cared about you to begin with, but i think that you'll agree that that is not the case.

..... this girl seems like the sort of person that gets what she wants quickly, and you are denying her that. She was very impatient and harsh with you when you wrote the email saying you needed to think for a while.

She could remain bitter about this for a while... and look out for her trying to make this your fault. (That one is just a hunch - i'm not so sure on that, but be careful)

:lost:

here's my honest opinion ...she's mind sick ,sorry 4 saying this ,i mean what ??she watch alot of movies ,but we have 2 xcuze her bcoz she did this bcoz she wanted 2 test u how u 'll react she crazy abt u :) ok this what i think and u have 2 4give but be carefull wid her ;)

Thanks Jumanjima and Mandazi_ya, but I know this girl from my sister, and as my sis says, she is very rude, and thinks that everything belongs to her, in other ways...She is very Hard Headed...

And, it's not that I like her, cause I don't like her like saying love her, I am only a very good friend...:)

Originally posted by mf_alkhalili
Thanks Jumanjima and Mandazi_ya, but I know this girl from my sister, and as my sis says, she is very rude, and thinks that everything belongs to her, in other ways...She is very Hard Headed...

And, it's not that I like her, cause I don't like her like saying love her, I am only a very good friend...:)

Before reading that, I wanted to say that: we all do mistakes sometimes we joke and hurt others feelings.. that does not mean we should break up a long term friendship.. Be mad at her for a while let her know and feel sorry for what she did and to promise you that she will never do such jokes or anything of that sort again....

But again if you think she is very rude person then why wasting your time or thoughts at it.. especially if she said that she does not care...

Otherwise if she is a nice person and just played that lame joke.. then you should just forgive her (and please do not think of revenge).. you will never know what will happen in the future once you become friends again.. sometimes you may do something even worse than what she did and you may want her forgiveness.. so she may forgive you..
( If she is not rude)

Originally posted by mf_alkhalili
she is very rude

hmm ok this why she wants to throw you out of the window, but if she is rude then you shouldn't be rude too otherwsie the thread will break as each of you pulling it from each direction.

Therefore just apply the concept "forgive and forget" and see the progress in the future.

ok since she's rude and u dont care much abt her then i guess leave her alone but i guess its important 2 4give her so that she wont has bad feeling toward and she wont try 2 hurt u

Well, Today she sent me a reply on my e-mail, telling me to take my time thinking about it...

And, I came online and saw her but she was blocked...

And I guess that I did the right thing, by Forgiving but not Forgeting...And so I unblcoked her, she said she was sorry, and everything went completly fine, thanks alot to you all guyz :wink:

Originally posted by mf_alkhalili
....she was crying like hell at that moment, I felt completly sorry, and felt like crying,...

Though I am happy that you say that everything is fine now mf_alkhalili, but I still feel that you should be careful. Why I said that?...because what bothers me is not the fact that she made a stupid joke on you which many friends do sometimes on each other.

What bothers me is that she cried like hell when you thought it was maybe a joke! This particular behavior shows that she is either weird or she can play very well a role of a liar. She fakes so well her crys that you thought they were real. I conclude that she has the capability to make you believe something which is not real and this is not right, if not dangerous.

Originally posted by mf_alkhalili
....she doesn't care about whats gonna happen, and if I want this to be this way, it is fine with her

When she realized that you ignored her for a while, she wanted to show you (out of stubbornness or proud) that she frankly told you that she didn't care about you or about whatever final decision you were going to take. For me this she is acting immaturely and she is for sure not a real friend.

But at the end, you make your own decision and only time will tell...

Wishing you good luck! ;)

Originally posted by mf_alkhalili
thanks alot to you all guyz :wink:

Any time mf_alkhalili :D