Pros and cons of early marriages, well this is an area of debate, many people are against the idea and suggest that there should be a law deciding the age of marriage, while others think of it as the solution to many of the social problems that the world is facing in the present time...
So give us your opinion!

Personaly, am a pro -early marraige.
ofcourse am not talking as early as 15 and 16 .. but 18 for a girl and 20-21 for a guy.

My argument, instead of guys and girls going with strang men and women why shouldnt they settle with one and try to make thier marraige work. Some people say they are still kids but I think given the responsibilty of marraige will make them mature.

Plus, at that age, both the girl and the man will be romantic, they will learn to love thier spous more.

One important thing that you all should know, I beleive that any marriage could work if both worked hard to make it work. ANy two person could love each other if they are willing and ready to love each other. I mean here that the parents should not force the two to get married, but it should be thier choice!!

Good topic Dr N...

It first depends how early you think is early when you talk about marriage?

Personally I don't think a girl, no matter how mature she is for her age, can be ready for marriage if she is below 18. Though the age is just a number, the most important thing is for any girl to feel that they are ready to enter a serious commitment and this for life. If she is in her early twenties, it is not considered too early and most people will expect her to commit herself around that age.

As for a man, again age is a number but a man of 25 is not as mature as a girl of the same age, and needs more time to "grow". A man should marry when he feels stable, responsible, and know where he is going. I do not believe a teenager already knows what he wants and can take the responsability of looking financially, physically and mentally after another person.

The good thing about early marriage is that first you are young and have more energy to face any daily ups and downs when they come. Secondly, you and your partner grow and mature slowly together. You have time to live without rush...

Good topic.

I agree with AP and X-Press on the age ... 18 for Women and 21 for guys sound good.

Its all about handling the ups and down for each others lives together. Earlier on in life (late teens), it's more of lust and infactuation than love that leads a person to marry. Later on, when they get matured they reap the fortunes of yesteryears.

The best motto ... when you truly think you're mature enough to handle the responsibilities of sustaining a family, and when you truly love someone you know ... marry!

Cheers

I think most people are not emotionally stable around the age ~ 20/21, and cannot decide who the right person is (maybe unless its an arranged marriage).. this is why you find some people at this age moving from one relation to another, becasue they dont seem to know what exactly they want and who they want..

there have been a couple of stories mentioned by members in this sabla about how their relations have ended up falling apart... I believe one of the main reasons is that these relations have started way too early in the person's life, and thus both sides couldnt seriously commit to it..

Besides, a 20 year old guy who hasnt yet graduated from university cannot sustain himself financially..how would you expect him to meet the demands of starting a new family? lets not forget there will be the responsibilty of looking after kids..which requires both parents to be wise and mature inorder to ensure that the kids are rasied up properly.

I'm against the idea of rushing into marriage at a young age..because its a life-time commitment and you should not commit to it unless you're fully ready.

I would say at least 23/24 for men, and perhaps 20/21 for women (since they do not have financial responsibilities).

Originally posted by X-press
As for a man, again age is a number but a man of 25 is not as mature as a girl of the same age, and needs more time to "grow

25??!!
If he's not yet mature by this age, then he must
be sick.

Originally posted by Arabian Princess
Plus, at that age, both the girl and the man will be romantic, they will learn to love thier spous more.


I'm against this point for a simple reason: I think the mistake many peopel make is that they look at marriage from a romantic point of view.. and forget the responsibilities that lie behind it..

many girls' idea about marraige is all about falling in love with "faris ala7lam" and then thinking about the "Big day" and wearing a white dress and bla bla... how sweet and innocent... however, when they are bombarded with the responsibilties, they soon find out there's alot more into marriage other than these temporary fancies/dreams..

The most important responsibilty as I mentioned in my earlier post is raising kids to the best of one's ability..and it aint an easy task at all...

There are no rules when it comes to marriage and no 'right' or 'wrong' age. It's far too individual to say that 20 is too young or 23 is just right etc.

I think it has to do with the person in question; how ready they feel to enter into a lifelong commitment, and how mature they are as an individual will make all the difference.

It also has a lot to do with luck, believe it or not. Some people are blessed with a compatible partner, or at least one that is equally willing to share in the responsibilities of the marriage, understands the concept of compromise and is consistently working at making the marriage work.

Sadly though, not all people are so fortunate and what started out as a fairytale union may well end up being a one-sided effort or simply an incompatible pairing.

The only issue I find to be of great relevance in an early marriage is not whether or not it is 'better' to marry early, but the risk of being so young that you have not yet decided what your life goals and ambitions are, and if you are already tied down with a person who then has completely different goals that will not facilitate for your own, then you are in a bit of a dilemma. If, however, the marriage is based on this shared sense of compromise, then even that may be accomodated for.

A word of advice to all those single people looking for Mr or Miss Right from a veteran:) :

Always try to imagine how that person would fare as a father or mother, even if you dont intend on having children right away if at all, because if they are imagined in this way, you will start to see past the rose-coloured glasses to the real person, further than the romantic nuances that we all so like to revel in when we begin a relationship.

It will benefit you in looking at the long-term effect of your union, and might help to sort the casual flirtations from the life- enduring prospects.

If we look at it from the Islamic point of view, our great profet PBUH encouraged the youth who have the ability to marry in his famous saying. This means early marriage is encouraged if the man feels he is ready to take this step in his life. If the resources are available and girls available then why to delay the marraige for no valid reason. But now adays guys facing alot of problems when they want to marry and one of them the high expenses requested by the girl parents, life expenses increasing too. The life is not simple as in the past it's more compicated and will take some time for a guy to settle down and be ready for marriage.

I totally disagree! 18 is too young for a female to get married!
At this age a young woman should be planning what she wants to do with her life. What she wants to be. Where she will continue her further studies (university) and what she wants as her career. And where she wants to work.

Taking on the responsibility at such a young age is too much. I mean, I am 18 and i can not imagine getting married at this age! I have my whole life ahead of me, so much to do and so much to see and so much to learn! I wouldnt wanna be at home, pregnant and married at that young age - NO WAY!!!!

Early marriga is the best thing to stop prbs happening for families coz of their teens ,,

This means early marriage is encouraged if the man feels he is ready to take this step in his life. If the resources are available and girls available then why to delay the marraige for no valid reason. But now adays guys facing alot of problems when they want to marry and one of them the high expenses requested by the girl parents,
agree with u Icy ,, but the difficulties u talking about here differs from a place to another ,, it depends on ppl mentality (( I mean here the old ones )) ..



I totally disagree! 18 is too young for a female to get married!
At this age a young woman should be planning what she wants to do with her life. What she wants to be. Where she will continue her further studies (university) and what she wants as her career. And where she wants to work!

good point ,, but we still see married women or even engaged countinue their study & some work ,,, most of these women are having gr8 life ,,

If the women delayed thinking of marriage for longer time ,,they might miss it for ever ,, coz most men prefer to marry young women,,

Thanks everyone for sharing your ideas...
Well here's what I think:
I think that it all depends on the situation..if two people are in love and they are mature enough to understand the meaning of commitment then they should go ahead and get married, or maybe get engaged and take some time to know eachother before there's no turning back, that's why you see many young people who are engaged and are getting along well with their own lives, like achieving their goals and building theirselves, and at the same time, they get to know their partners but with no responsibilites, and when they're both ready they can go ahead and get married...
Well I'm 20 and I think that I'm still young to be thinking about marriage, I still have my studies and my own life to build, or maybe it's just that my studies are taking most of my time that I haven't got time to think about this. I personally want to finish my studies and achieve my goals, then maybe I'll give myself the chance to consider the idea of marriage!

Originally posted by Dr N

Well I'm 20 and I think that I'm still young to be thinking about marriage, I still have my studies and my own life to build, or maybe it's just that my studies are taking most of my time that I haven't got time to think about this. I personally want to finish my studies and achieve my goals, then maybe I'll give myself the chance to consider the idea of marriage!

Well I think it's time for you to think about marraige since you rech 20. Your study can be delayed but you can't stop the years from passing and the age when go up it go down same time. You can always achive your goals as a wife with relax mind and no need to be single to do that.

My point is ice t, is that not everyone needs to marry at an early age, I think that it's a good thing to have in cases where marriage is the best solution, like when two people are ready to share their lives together and are capable of taking responsiblity.
What I said was a personal point of view, I think that if there are no problems then why rush into marriage? It's better that both the males and females finish their studies, be financially capable and then think of marriage.

Can u imagine a young girl of 18, just finished her school and getting married? I mean she is too young to take on such a large responsibility! :eyes:

Alot of girls at 18 still want to go out with friends and spend their time with their family. And im sure the husband wouldnt like it if their wife was usualy with her family or out with her friends - right? And 18 might sound like the girl should be mature by this age but she's still in the process of learning. I mean she doesnt fully understand the true meaning of love and she surely wouldnt want to see herself 9 months pregnant when all her other friends are out together having fun without a huge stomach in front of them.

I mean you cant take away an 18 year old female life by saying its good and she should get married. She still needs to discover who she really is, just as i pointed out. For example, i'll be finishing school in 3 months and i would hate the idea of getting married. Im off to the UK to make something of my life. To be what ive always dreamed of being.

And another point i'd like to make, life isnt about getting married and rushing to get married because your scared no man will like you the older you get. There is someone special out there for everyone no matter how old you are ! Do you honestly think an 18 year old female is mentaly, financially ready for marriage????

Well our religion view about this case as our Prophit(PBUH) said, he said it is better to get married early than latley, BUT if u CAN.
Let us take our generation now 4 example, boys & girls r depending at their parents to provide them every thing till they finish their study, so some of them who start working after school we can say that they started to be responsible & this is when?? At the age of 18!!!!. The others who is completing their high education still need their parents support, so they r not responsible yet even to feed them selves till they reach 25 maybe. So how do u think early marrige is successful these days?? While ppl become responsible at a late age???
I think the good age nowadays to get married is 25 for girls & 30 to boys....This is what I think.

It really differs from a person to another, I know a couple of ladies who got married at the age of 17-18 and yet where able to go further with their higher education and even come up with impressing results.

Talking from my own experience, I think a lady from the age of 20 should really conceder it.

After all when you meet the right man never say no because of your studies that in my opinion is not good enough, if he really cares it should not be a problem for you to go on. In fact he should be there to support you and give you all what you need to go trough a smooth time of education.

Age is not an important factor in my opinion, some girls are 25+ and when you talk to them you just this impression that they are just big babies. And on the other hand might find a girl at the age of 16 with an open mind and very smart and could speak her self out. Age is not the issue, it’s the responsibly that a girl can take and if she is ready to carry them.

I dont think anyone should consider marriage unless they are mentally, physically, and financially ready for it!
16....18.....24......34...if your hearts not in it, dont go for it!
Alot of girls after the age of 15...16...17 etc try to think like they are old enough. They might be obsessed with a guy, they might think that they are in love, therefore saying that they can take on such a big responsibility as MARRIAGE! But we all know thats not possible.
I mean surely some of you must have experienced such a way of thinking - and then when u look back at yourself you just laugh because it was so immature!
I also dont understand how parents would allow their daughters to marry at such a young age.
My dad wants us to finish our education completely and have a successful job making our own money before we settle down and search for that someone special.

These days its important that women have a career because if anything happened to their husband or if they divorced their husband then at least they have a career to fall back on - something to keep them in a stable position - something they can use as a means of protecting their children.

There might be cases where young girls have been married and finished their studies at the same time and they were successful....true! But where they happy? truly happy from the bottom of their hearts????

Exactly! What if the marriage never works out and they end up leaving eachother? Education comes first, and then marraige! Education is a woman's only weapon in life, and if she loses this chance, then it would be difficult for her to continue, because women struggle in life to get chances, and her education would provide her with a good oppertunity.

Originally posted by Morbid_Angel69
Can u imagine a young girl of 18, just finished her school and getting married?

Yes I can imagine that plus most of our parents got married
during that age.

Originally posted by Morbid_Angel69
I mean you cant take away an 18 year old female life by saying its good and she should get married.

Marriege is not Death
Marriage is not a prison
Marriage is not a disaster
Marriage is a must do thing, for those
who are willing to get married.
So yes life is about getting married.

Originally posted by Morbid_Angel69
life isnt about getting married

We live the LIFE with our family.
We make families by getting MARRIED, so
Life = Marriage.

I liked what pharmacy has said.
I think its true .. marraige and life do go togther. Yes it has responsibilties, but also has many other stuff like sharing, love and support. The couple could love togther and build all these togther while they grow and that makes them closer to each other!!

When the person finds the person he wants to end up with and he knows that this is the person why should he wait?? things might be hard at the first step but with Allahs help things will be solved out.
One important point is that both the woman and the men are willing to take the challange. You cant force someone who does not want to get married to marry early. It might not work!!

Yea marriage = families = life
but at age 18?!?! Our parents did it but this isnt the 1950's, 60'2 or 70's! It is the year 2003, where opportunities are out there for everyone! Where education is much easier to have access to! Where womens mentality are changing and they are focusing more on themselves!
I think getting married is a MAJOR COMMITMENT and i wouldnt recommed anyone at age 18 to make such a big decision! I mean at 18, your biggest decision should be what universities you want to chose after getting offers from them and where you will work once you have your career!

There is plenty of time for marriage and I strongly disagree that a young woman of 18 should be permitted to get married...or even girls younger than 18 - the idea in itself is absurd! And i think parents need to focus more on their sons and daughters education rather than worrying about who to find to marry them - and anyway i believe that women and men should find their own partners!

Morbid angel,
Every one have thier pirority! Maybe your pirority is to get your best education first and then think about marraige and other women think that no, she should secure a family first and then get educated.

I dont think marraige stops education. If there is a will, then nothing would stop it. My mother got married when she is in her first prepotory .. she stoped for a while and then started evening school .. and guess what?? she made it till collage and graduated as a teacher .. and the first in her collage!! She made it with her hard work .. and she never neglected her children!!

2 types of women

some prefered to get married & countinue their studies (( this one is succesful))

& some prefered to go for te education first then the marriage (( but be careful not to miss the train ))

Yea navy boy! And its strange that lots of girls who do concentrate on their education end up being much more happily married in the end than those who get married at 18 or younger without even knowing who they are.

morbid

chill out
in my post I said what i think & i didn't mention who is happier
(( but be careful not to miss the train ))
when i said this I meant that most men when it comes to a marriage they will choose the younger ..

Marriage isnt a choice...its not about seeing a group of 5 women and then selecting the one who looks the youngest.
Its about finding the person who you can relate to, the person who you feel comfortable with, the person who loves you for everything that you are and the person who you can trust.

yea ..
it happenes a lot in the indian films..& the egyptian series

:rolleyes:
In case you didnt realize it, we are living in REALITY here...life isnt an indian movie or an egyptian series. LIFE IS REAL and you cant play with women that way. We arent here for men to chose us depending on our age. We are here to look for the right person depending on their HEART!
Age is just a number!

Originally posted by Navy_boy

& some prefered to go for te education first then the marriage (( but be careful not to miss the train ))

Navy, if he's any kind of man and is the right one then he'll wait untill she's done. ;)

In case you didnt realize it, we are living in REALITY here...life isnt an indian movie or an egyptian series. LIFE IS REAL and you cant play with women that way. We arent here for men to chose us depending on our age. We are here to look for the right person depending on their HEART! different society controls that ,,, & here I'm talking about our society ( OMAN )

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Originally posted by runnin' around
Navy, if he's any kind of man and is the right one then he'll wait untill she's done. ;)
I talked in general
but yr case shows that the women got a man waiting for her (( brevious relation ))

but in case there is no one !! what could happen ,,there is possibility that she misses the train .

Delaying the marraige for girls has more -ve impacts compared to guys, becasue when a guy decide to marry he will prefer a young girl most of the time in the range of 19 to 23 years old and his 2nd choice will be after that age. So it means that older girls will have a less chance of getting married and it will be hard watching the years passing and they are still single and if a girl reach 30 years then we can say bye bye to her cuz it will be tough to find a husband unless being a 2nd wife.

there is no certain age that a women or man should get married ..... it depends on the person:eek:

:rolleyes: Yea whatever ice tea and navy boy ! Im sure oman is following an indian movie....great! :rolleyes:

anyways you are right qais :wink:

it differs from a society to another
for example
ppl thought in Oman is different to ppl thoughts in Somalia

lol navi


Iam not somaliian and i've never been there....Its supposed to be a joke but no one gets it.

:rolleyes: DUH! I think i know that navi! Im just so disappointed that alot of you think that 18 is the right age for a woman to get married! Dont you want your sisters to finish their education first so they themselves can get a descent job and be financially stable before the get married????????????????????????????

Seems like there's a hot discussion going on around here...
As I said earlier, it all depends on the situation, so all of you are correct. I guess in such a topic there are no clear cuts to what is right and what is wrong, because different situations require different actions, and so you can't just make a statement and generalize it.
So all of you are correct.

I would agree with Dr N.....as it really depends... some situations it might seem reasonable..others....its quite unacceptable....

overall a forced early marriage is out of the question.:)

:rolleyes: That's what ive been trying to point out all along - forced/arranged early marriages are unacceptable in my opinion. And i understand people have different points of views and its difficult to say whats right and whats wrong - but i would have expected more people to disagree with such early marriages before education is COMPLETE!:sorry:

Morbid angel, whoever supporeted early marraiges said that from the begining that they are aginst forced marraiges, as long as the younge couple are willing .. it would be encouraged!

I think education and marraige doesnt contradict. Both can come togther and maybe support each other.

Sorry i dont agree!
If the girl has just finished school, then i dont think she should consider getting married until she has completed her university education.
However if a woman is already married and wants to go back to university (lets say she is around 27 or something), then thats fine!

Originally posted by Morbid_Angel69
Sorry i dont agree!
If the girl has just finished school, then i dont think she should consider getting married until she has completed her university education.
However if a woman is already married and wants to go back to university (lets say she is around 27 or something), then thats fine!

just to let u know that in our society .lots of girls who likes to get married just after the school
some gets married just after finishing by one day ,,,
Dont you want your sisters to finish their education first so they themselves can get a descent job and be financially stable before the get married it is more important for her to have to choose the way she wants to live ..

sorry i'm here by mistake

sadlad what do u mean??

Well let us be realistic, we don't live in a perfect world. A lot of things go wrong, and young people do make a lot of mistakes. Early marriages can be a solution to many of the dangerous problems that the world is currently suffering from, like single mothers and aids. In situations like these, it would be better if the two got married instead of reaching such a peak, but if everything is moving on smoothly then marriage can wait until the two are capable enough to handle marriage responsibilites.

Originally posted by raffee
I think it has to do with the person in question; how ready they feel to enter into a lifelong commitment, and how mature they are as an individual will make all the difference.

It also has a lot to do with luck, believe it or not. Some people are blessed with a compatible partner, or at least one that is equally willing to share in the responsibilities of the marriage, understands the concept of compromise and is consistently working at making the marriage work.

Sadly though, not all people are so fortunate and what started out as a fairytale union may well end up being a one-sided effort or simply an incompatible pairing.

The only issue I find to be of great relevance in an early marriage is not whether or not it is 'better' to marry early, but the risk of being so young that you have not yet decided what your life goals and ambitions are, and if you are already tied down with a person who then has completely different goals that will not facilitate for your own, then you are in a bit of a dilemma. If, however, the marriage is based on this shared sense of compromise, then even that may be accomodated for.
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indead good points there Raffee. From my experience i wouldnt encourage early marriage

very good Dr N..:D

I totaly agree with Raffee.... totaly agree!

Bu I liked what Pharmacy sayed:

"Marriege is not Death
Marriage is not a prison
Marriage is not a disaster
Marriage is a must do thing, for those
who are willing to get married.
So yes life is about getting married."

It is about getting married, but in my openion, most people delay it because of all these ideas mensioned above. Some people beleive they would lose something if they got married,or fear that the person they married was the wrong one. To them, marriage would be like death, and it would defenetely be like prison and a big disaster.
I personaly cant afford to get married because I have a long way to go, I have to finish my studys.... and I always say that I will not get married untill I settle down and finish my degree....but is this the real reason??
If the right person was just in front of me, would I say no just becasue I have to finish my degree? The question would be, if this person was the wrong person, and I descoveered that after marriage, I mean things happen, but would I be in a very bad situation when it comes to my studys, would I have lost much? May be!
It's not easy deciding to get married when you feel that marriage is accompanied with many sacrifices.... may be it's safer to getting a degree first, making sure that you are up on your feet, and then decide to get married without feeling that there is much to lose if the person you married was the wrong person. You may call this insecurity, but to me it sounds like .. hmm.. (security :P).
Thanks

Exactly azraq, well said, why get involved in a relationship and sacrifice for it if you know that later on you might regret doing it? What kind of a life would it be, if you show your partner that all the wrong things in your life is because you decided to get married early? A terrible feeling I tell ya! In marriage, the two must be completely dedicated to eachother, there has to be love, care and understanding between the two, so giving a chance for both of them to grow and mature and have a strong basis, is important for a healthy long relationship. But again, there are other situations where marriage is just the answer to all the problems, and the couple can achieve their goals being together.

This what Dr.N said ...
Education is a woman's only weapon in life


Good topic Dr. N , I just posted a similar one before seeing this one.

Well according to your quote ....
I ask a question to all the ladies over here ...

Why do you keep on talking about (the womans weapon), her education, her happines, her ....etc

When are we going to talk about her ROLE in this life ?
Isnt it bringing up well behaived kids ?
Ofcourse most probably a graduate girl might be better than an undergraduate, but does marriage effect her education ?

As IceTea mentioned ....the train might leave.
And according to what we see there are a lot of ladies who prefared to concentrate on thier career and forget marriage.. do you know how these ladies ended up ?
Unmarried the whole of thier lifetime.... some of these regret what they did, but continued to behave well. Some regret it , but made stupid acts after that (that is go out with guys thinking that those guys will propose to her) !

So be careful ladies out there..... i heard few weeks ago that 70% of the lady Dr's in Royal hospital are not married yet!
I am not sure of how true the information is , but it unfortunately it is possible !

Originally posted by Guwantanamist

So be careful ladies out there..... i heard few weeks ago that 70% of the lady Dr's in Royal hospital are not married yet!
I am not sure of how true the information is , but it unfortunately it is possible !

Guwant, is this warning for me?:) Well I've heard something similar too!
I like what you say about women's role in life, but before we go into all the talk about raising up kids and everything, there are many women who are being mistreated by their husbands, and they can do nothing because they depend on their husbands to bring food and give them shelter, not just only to them but to their kids too, and so they have to obey all the rules and desires without saying a word because they won't be able to survive in the outer world with no education and it won't be easy to raise their children all by theirselves...
But if the women were educated, and they get abused by their husbands, they would know how to react, they would know that they don't have to keep up with this, and they can't start their own lives with their kids...
Even in a happily married couple, you need education to raise the children, I know that there are many children who grew up living with illitrate mothers and they did great, but it would have a great impact to have a mother who can answer her childrens doubts and help them, since life is changing around us!
And as I said, I have no problem with women getting married at an early stage, if they can balance between their studies and marriage, and as I said, each case is different.

I like this topic...

Getting married at an early age......I personally think it's a very good thing in all cases as long as the parents of the guy agree to support their son and his wife until their son is capable financially of supporting his own family and as long as the guy is matured ( i.e: is working hard in his studies first of all = secured job, strong personality and religious belief, independant in all aspects of his life other than financially..etc

However, this idea is better for those who are studying abroad for many reasons, including:

1- Temptations as u all know are more and more in western countries , for example: in summer time, people tend to wear as less clothes as possible! u can imagine how hard it is for someone to live in such an environment and not to be tempted to look, and that's the least, just a look, coz all around him/her is semi' naked people!! and this is just one example...

2- having a wife while abroad protects the commiting of many sins! and not only that, it gives high moral and emotional support.. example: it is know that when one is abroad he/she is very lonely ..having a wife makes a big difference ..so at least when one goes back to his apartment/ house , knows that there will be his wife waiting for him, or his wife studying with him .. ,,..living all day surrounded by people " hugging and kissing " :6: makes it even worst for the lonely ones..heheheh masakeen...


3- it wil be even greater and by the way this is my dream: to have a wife who studies abroad with her husband... studying together and living together, giving each other moral support, love and helping each other study..


After all this though, a perosn can get used to being abroad and with time it's all normal , so studying hard and being patient is the best thing to do, and after graduation and working for at least a year , until independant would be a suitable time to get married..

I do too support early marriage, as i dont see anything wrong with it as far true love exists between the parties Involved and with the support from their parents, saying so.. they should ogfcourse be age limit for example a girl can get marriage from the age of 16yrs old, althus they should be no age limit for a boy!! you know Boy is just A boy can manage it, But again we have to set age limit too as its not fair for example 14yrs old boy getting married with 16yrs lady, So in this case a Boy should atleat be 18yrs old to marry 16yrs lady,

Well don't you think that at the age of 16 a girl or a boy, doesn't really know what they really want? I mean, I still consider them as kids, so how can they be responsible of families? If the person is mature then fair enough, they can get married. But at this age they would still be in school, not even college, this is a crucial time where their main focus should be on their studies, because their whole future depends on this!
Me, I agree, it is a good idea for people to get married while studying abroad...
But keep in mind: if you were in such a situation, do you want your parents to spend money on you and your partner? I thought that marriage is all about building your own family, where you are in charge, so are you ready to let your parents be responsible for this? Is it fair to them, if their financial status isn't that good? Or even if they were wealthy, would you want them spending money on you?

Originally posted by qais
there is no certain age that a women or man should get married ..... it depends on the person:eek:
I think I agree with u in general... I think the age of getting married is a personal thing and depends on what career paths u'd like to take before getting involved in such decisions ... as well as the influence of finding Mr or Mrs Right ... (of course this doesn't apply to arranged marriages!)

However, as said earlier there is a preferable age limit for women if they want to have children where their fertility starts to decline after the age of 35 usually and the most preferable age for conception in a female is between early 20s to early 30s... this doesn't mean u can't have them earlier or later but the risks of having a healthy baby declines, too. However, this doesn't exclude the males ... their fertility declines with age too usually beyond 40 ... but despite all these fiqures the chances of having a healthy baby are always higher than having an unhealthy baby! So let us look at the bright side of the equation:) ... and I would say don't get married unless u r ready to...

Hi every body

i wanna ur opnion guys and girls

what do u think about early mirrage i mean after graudating from the uinversity and no problem to be engaged while studying in the uinversity ?
and who agree with the idea to delay mirrage till some time and why?

correction - "marriage"

anyway , hi :)

i think its a good idea to be engaged whilst you are studyin and then to get married once u have graduated.

i think it is very delaying once a person decides in first graduating then finding a good job THEN finding a good partner. by that time you will be 30 !! it is a waste of time...

it really depends on the individual and the partner - u can still study whilst you are married....but then again it depends on your partners view and family etc if they are cool with that......

sorry but this topic has been discussed so many times before!!!!!

Man of principles,
I have merged the old thread with the new one, and so you could continue the dicussion from there ...

For me i think Engaging early is very healthy and good things to do .Because your young and u can handle the ups and downs of ur partner as some of u said..becasue once u grew older you will be mature and the way u look to life is completely different than the way u look to it when ur young.

Besides the marriage decsion should be made the right time cos when u delay it .it will be very difficulte to make it later coz once the man grew older the risk he is willing to take will be less and he always be reluctante becasue he want to be sure that his marraige is successful and he wont imagine the idea that he may fail unlike the young ppl he will always assume that things will go ok.

there was smth attract me in this nice discussion, why do we always think that marriage and education or getting qualified r contraindicated ? can't they co-exist ?

i remember one of my professors saying that he was studying 8 hours daily for his master when he was alone and he performed poorer than what he has performed for his PhD when he was married and studying 3-4 hours only ???

I've always thought that being engaged while studying is a good idea. Nothing wrong with it, and it can be a motive to make you really work hard because you know that someone is waiting for you, and someone is there for you, listening and caring. But getting married quickly could be a problem. You see when you're in college, you've got certain priorities, you need to study hard, you've got exams all the time, and if you're married then you need to work to be able to take care of your family and you need to spend some time with your partner, and not everyone is good at doing all these together!!
EUD, well PhD is a different issue, you can coordinate between the two.
Again, it depends on you! If you're sure that you can handle it, and if you've found your soul-mate, then go for it!! Just don't jump into something just because you want to get married and you're too afraid that it might be too late!!:rolleyes: