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I got inspired from the thread “Dare to share!!! We wanna see you NOW! (http://www.englishsabla.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=10666).

Why some of you wouldn’t want to post your pictures in a forum where you have been active for month, if not for years?

Do men automatically judge negatively a girl who posts a decent picture of herself...just for others to know the member behind the nick? Is the feeling mutual also for the ladies?

And finally isn’t it contradictory not to want to show publicly how you look like, but to send several pictures of yourself to the opposite sex which you hardly know?

waiting to see the discussion ,,


BTW ,,, I like the pic on the left side ,, who is she ??!!! she looks bu 3raaab ...:D

Why don't you start it Navy? :duh:

well..some ppl dont want the other members to know who is behind their nick, coz maybe in that case some other member know him or her in a real life..so that person wont feel free to express the feelings. After all its just a fourm where can we say whatever we wanna say freely and we just know each others by nicks..then why do they leave a blank for the nickname??? why dont they write their name instead..

About girls..most of omani girls are wearing scarfs and they dont want the others to know who is she..and she is just useing the net for having fun, and most of the parents dont alowed their doughters to that...as all of u know that our culture is different , and specially for girls.

well said amoor ,,

I think u covered the most of it ,, about the girls ,, some of them prefered not to post thiers & we understand that from the culture side,,, it is better for them not to ,,coz otherwise some foxes r really bad ,,..

Well said amoOor, but if this forum was way up in alaska, where no one knows anyone, would it still be a big deal to post a picture? Is it a problem because it is an OMANI forum?

For guys I don't see any problem in posting their pic if other members intrested to see the faces behind the nicknames for once, just to have an idea when posting and replying to other members. But I don't think knowing how the person look like will make a difference it's just a matter of curiosity which is always linked to humans nature.

For girls I think it's not that easy for a girl to post her pic in public, and as explained by amoor, let us assume that the her father or brother saw her pic then she might face some problems in her family. It is ok for a girl if she trust a person to send him/her her pic in private but in public forum it is not recommended.

I guess I should reply to this as the major trouble-maker of the moment.

I sort of agree with what the Teabag and co said. Social conventions are important in a conservative society like this. But even in other, more liberal societies, a lot of people would be reluctant to give away their real identity: a big part of the attraction of the internet is anonymity, and even if Oman were the most liberal country in the World, it is also a small one, and the risk of someone knowing you from your pic is high.

But even if you do not post your pic on the net, there is still the same risk of sending it to anyone you know on the net. However easy it is to become friendly with someone over the internet, it is not the same as knowing them for real. Do you know their full name? Phone number? Where they live and work? Or another measure: would you invite this person to your house? If not, then should you share your pic with them, and take the chance that they are not who they claim to be? Perhaps they will know you and not let on that they do.

Personally I take that chance. I have met a lot of people over the net who I think have become genuine friends. Of those, I have either met them in person now or intend to when I get the chance. I think the "risk" is worth it to meet new friends. But as a grown man with his own family, it is easier for me than for, say, a young single woman who is still answerable to her parents or whatever. Part of the equation for me also is that every now and then my face and or name is in a newspaper or something (not very often, but it's happened), and if that's already in public then there's not much left to lose!

I still prefer to keep my real name etc to myself until I've got to know something about the person I'm giving it to. I fully understand why some people would be willing to give a pic to someone they chat to over MSN but not to post it on a bulletin board.

But what gets me is that either way there is an element of trust in the unknown, a little bit of risk. We all draw that line in different places, but what I find irritating is where someone will take a certain amount of chance in sending pics to people they've never met, via MSN, but then condemn someone else for taking it that little bit further and posting a pic in Sabla. I don't think that doing either makes anyone indecent or improper, whatever their culture or religion. People just have different levels of trust in human nature, or different levels of confidence in themselves. We all draw our own lines, and if someone else's is slightly different, we should not condemn them.

Originally posted by X-press
Well said amoOor, but if this forum was way up in alaska, where no one knows anyone, would it still be a big deal to post a picture? Is it a problem because it is an OMANI forum?

Not because its omani, its just an Islamic fourm

Originally posted by amo0or
Not because its omani, its just an Islamic fourm

well said amoor ,,:D

Hey guyzz

if you are interested to know who are the 5 girls who sent their pics,,

click on the link below !!


cheerz,,

Navi

Good idea x-press, but I think I said every thing I want in that thread, so nothing more to add as I guess.

As it is there are more than 20 members on this forum who know me, some of them i dont know until now, we might know each other but they don't want to tell me who they are Take an example of H-Highness, she knows me but refuses to tell me who she is?!?!?!


imagin, at least i know her nick and she hinted that she knew me! i wonder how many others out there know me but arent telling!!

Thats only by my nick! boy if i had my picture, i wouldnt wanna think of whats going to happen!?!?!

Cooooool reply some1 .... i like the way u wanna tell us how famous u r ....:D

i do not know u ....dose this give u enough reason to be relieved from ur current time disquiet???? j/k:

Originally posted by samy
Cooooool reply some1 .... i like the way u wanna tell us how famous u r ....:D



LOL :D :p thats true, if you count the number of "me" you will find them 8 times used :p

Easy guys. Enough picking on the girls please. Somey was just making a valid point, from her own personal perspective, which therefore necessitates the use of the word 'me':rolleyes: .

Now leave her alone, and go hunt something.

Its okay Raffee, im always IceTea’s Favourite prey. He would always find a way or another to make a comment on me :D. I’m still living though ;)



I was saying that if you can be known by your nickname only then showing your picture would be a disaster! In case you guys missed the point!

comeon rafraf easy on me, you don't let me breath in the sabla from you nasty observations :p

some1/2 I've a solution for you if u wanna post your pic, which I don't want to see ofcourse :wink: just post any female pic like raffee pic for example :D

Why i know you wouldnt wanna see it as i think you would get a heart attack so im really worried about your health thats why i can't post it!

Opz! see now you made me tell the truth ;)

Salamtak bil donya ya icey!:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :D :D

:color: Well i guess lots of people arent interested in exposing their pictures online. I mean its better for our safety if we dont and also some may agree with me that its not such a good idea to show your picture to people who you dont even know. And not just 1 or 2 people, we are talking about 100's of people. So thats why its an issue...i think! :duh:

Well I would never dare post my pic! I don't think that it's a wise thing to do, especially for the ladies, because you never know who'll be seeing your pic, eventhough only members have access to it, but again, you never know what some of the members might do! You might know some of the members very well and trust them but what about those you know nothing about? It's a big risk and it's better to stay away from trouble!

My mother always told me not to speak to strangers, imagin if she knew that i had my picture on the net:eyes: :eyes:

Yea mum knows best! ALWAYS :rolleyes:

We know many good people in this place, but any random person can just come in, have a look at the picture, and then decide to used it for whatever thing he would use it for.
Having a pic on the net is not a very safe thing! Obviously!
And it is much worse if it was a girl's pic.

alright..how about the other members.... anything else you can add here about this topic?

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Personally. Its simple, I would prefer to know who knows me. And posting a picture of myself in sabla doesnt satisfy that requirement. So no picture to be posted. Besides, its not really that important.

Overall....if I become friends with a member we might end up meeting up (maybe in 1 of the movie gatherings:rolleyes:), so no need for a picture before that. Better see their first impression face to face :D

Originally posted by SoMe1
Take an example of H-Highness, she knows me but refuses to tell me who she is?!?!?!

imagin, at least i know her nick and she hinted that she knew me! i wonder how many others out there know me but arent telling!!



lol Sommy is not that way, take it from me.


As for me, If I were to put my pic then I have to use my real name :), not because I'm hiding my true identity but I enjoy being anynomous. Funny, I found out I'm familiar to bunches of members in real life.

On the other hand I have nothing wrong with those who put their pics in the net afterall its nothing to do with me.

Originally posted by X-press

And finally isn’t it contradictory not to want to show publicly how you look like, but to send several pictures of yourself to the opposite sex which you hardly know?

Sorry to say, but most girls in this society like to give the perception of being conservative ... but really aren't at all ... in fact the ones who make so much noise about how religous or conservative they are ... are usually the biggest fakes.

I don't think a picture of a girl on the net ... in real life ... or seeing her uncovered defines her honor or self-respect ... her actions and her dealings with people define her self-respect.

If men are soo repressed and soo desperate to assume that JUST because a girl lets her hair down that she is has no honor ... that is the man's problem ... not the women's.

i dont see why should anyone put their picture online, just to make the others look at it, i mean if you dont mind, then hey its kewl, but you shouldnt blame those who dont..

:angre:
thanx anyway people

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the thing actually is not only about women showing thier picture, its about how men react to it!

I am quite sure when a girl post her picture, she will get flirts from many male members around. Why should a girl go thorugh this (especially the ones that dont like it).

Its not only in this society, its everywhere!

I dont think I will ever post my pic!

Originally posted by Arabian Princess
the thing actually is not only about women showing thier picture, its about how men react to it!

I am quite sure when a girl post her picture, she will get flirts from many male members around. Why should a girl go thorugh this (especially the ones that dont like it).

Its not only in this society, its everywhere!

I dont think I will ever post my pic!

Trust me AP, you could be a page 3 girl ... and I would NEVER flirt with you.

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X-press,

yes I agreee about the lowering part ... men here have certain critieria of a respectable woman "to them". Ofcourse they are not right, but am talking about a differnt issue here in addition to this.

flirting exitis everywhere .. its just that its ok to flirt in a western society while an arab woman get offended if a guy told her that she is "hot" for example. No one is right, its just how each culture look into it.

Orion,
and so you are telling me you never thoght of telling a {page 3: what does it mean by the way} girl who posted her picture how hot she was??
Its just in an arab society, telling her that she is hot is considered rude, while in a western society it might not be the case!

Dear members.......

I don't recommend any women posting pics here.......because they might be lifted off.and GOD knows where they will be posted after that.

Maybe in some Singles dating service......where guys look at the pic thinking they will meet you and they send money for the e-mail.which turns out to be false........

I always ask for a pic of anyone I am chatting with on MSN.or ICQ.....after getting to know them abit.......

I really don't like to chat with strangers about personal matters unless I can see them and judge for myself if that person looks like a sincere person......to share things with.

To be honest I have received lots of pics from people all over the world.....of which some ladies are looking for some romantic thing.....I usually just tell them right off..my situation......I am NOT looking for that kind of thing......

I hardly ever received a pic from muslim girl......because basically I think they are NOT interested in meeting western guys.....even for just chatting....no big deal, although some from Turkey and Iran......real beauties too......

I am curious to see Omani ladies but I don't push it.

In any case I know most people on here......so I don't mind sending pic or if you want to send to me......no problem..

MSN .....billybee54@hotmail.com
ICQ...158997048

Cheers
fatak

hi my name is fatima..I am an Omani girl looking for friends...here's my pic..

Yeah right........

Cheers
fatak

Originally posted by Arabian Princess

Orion,
and so you are telling me you never thoght of telling a {page 3: what does it mean by the way} girl who posted her picture how hot she was??
Its just in an arab society, telling her that she is hot is considered rude, while in a western society it might not be the case!

The same way you expect men to practice a degree of self-control ... maybe you as an Arab, Muslim, woman should practice self-restraint if ever such a compliment came your way. ie Not jump to conclusions.

I can look at a painting and say it's beautiful but I don't have to steal it from the museum ...


:wink:

Orion, its not reaching into conclusion ..

I guess its how arab women are raised. They should be strickt because if anything happened they are to be blamed .. so maybe they make themselves so rigid and wont accept any complements even if they know the guy didnt mean anything!!
Its just an immediate reaction to any complement.

Originally posted by Arabian Princess
Orion, its not reaching into conclusion ..

I guess its how arab women are raised. They should be strickt because if anything happened they are to be blamed .. so maybe they make themselves so rigid and wont accept any complements even if they know the guy didnt mean anything!!
Its just an immediate reaction to any complement.

We were talking about posting pictures and what to the view of that was ... not how - arab women - are raised (ie confused).

Back to topic?

orion, how arab women are raised effect wether they will post thier pic or not :rolleyes:
I dont find my self away from the original topic!!

unless you feel so then khalas .. end of story!

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Dear Exxy ..

I am not talking about me here, am talking generally why a lady wont post her picture.
Its the preception in arab women's mind that when someone flirts with them, its an offence!

Originally posted by Arabian Princess
orion, how arab women are raised effect wether they will post thier pic or not :rolleyes:
I dont find my self away from the original topic!!

unless you feel so then khalas .. end of story!

You are soo cute when annoyed.

And Exxy, a page 3 girl is alluding to a model (usually topless) usually found in the Sun newspaper in the UK.

heyyy fatak
that fatma is really cooOoooOol man
send me her e-mail PLZzz:D

lOolz
just kidding :D..

I totaly agree with Arabian P, that our society is different from other societies & our men mintality is different too...U gave Wounderer & mooni as eg. & they dare to share their personal Pics, & I'll say the western men mintality is different & they feel proud when others see their wives & how beautiful they are, while here they feel jelouse & they know what kind of ideas come to the Arab men once they see a women, & this is the important reason which stop the Arab ladies from posting their pics, cauz they are not for show ( & this is not an insult for the western ladies at all, cauz they are lucky to have open mind ppl around them).

AP, I totally agree with you. One more thing to add is that when we write here, we all use nicknames to remain mysterious, no one knows who you are, though many members get to know eachother, but that's different. Posting a pic in a web site is a big thing, as fatak said, you never know who might sign into sabla just to be able to see these pics and use them somewhere else!! Imagine that!! So it's always better to stay in the safe side!

Well..am amazed how cam this threat been posted by femal!:confused: heaps of questions popped in to my mind ..here is one ..what kind of utility you will gain by asking others to post their pic ??
Dare!!! HuH is it the key point your playing on ?

U know guyz last week we had an incentiv discussion in philosophy lecture, the topic was about " how men treat women"..after long discussion we came across to critical point (How muslem's treat their women ) .suddenly i have heard someone behind fleer & smiling in such lousy way , i was like :duh: ..then philosophy professor asked one the uncommitted muslim's students to apply teeches ..he was abit hesitative ..Student: wamen are free within limite in our society...etc ..in the midle of his talk one of the jewish ..said loudly bullsh!t ..and start announce all the corrupt information he have learned about islam with hostility appearent ..untill the professor stopped him ...well Here is the Good part of this event.

one of the commited muslim's student ,stand up asking the professor for his opportunity .."Student:Sir let,s assume tht u have treasurable diamond .."Professor :duh: ! .." Stu : where would you keep it ? "Pr: in special box .."St: where would u keep tht box ? "Pr: in my wardrobe .."St: where is your wardrobe position ? Pr: in my bedroom.
with victory smile ahmed says ..u know why it,s in your bedroom because it,s the only room u can put ur expensive items . Thus how muslim's treat their wamen like treasuable diamond ..hardly to seen ,hardly to have & hardly to leav ,hence we work hardly to keep them safe as long as we can......everyone start claim to ahmed ..it was an penetrative replay .

what i want to say ....woman is something valuable so don,t let ur self down by diffusing ur pic everywhere .

Best regards :)

You are right... we shouldn't even bother educating these diamonds of ours... in fact we should go back to burying them at birth just to keep them safe.

Does anyone really really believe these age old arguements that have no sense in modern Islamic society???

Oh well ... to each their own.

His_Highness Thanx for posting that event, & I've posted such story about daiomnd twice before just to clearify the idea for them, but what can we do if some ppl don't want to be convienced:rolleyes: ......Orion are u talking about the stony ages up there?? In our socitey even if there are limits which are with the girl not against her & to protect her, we still have freedome to do what ever we like....But do u think posting PICs in the net or what about giving # too cauz we are in the 20th century:rolleyes: , so ppl can call us modren.....I prefere to be called close mind lady instead of doing that & I'll be proud of my self;) ..

Cheers

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