well...i was recently shocked after asking my friends this question ,as i found out that they would rather not marry ..than marry a woman who is smarter / has a higher job position than them!! it's really pathetic as most arab men feel that it's kinda degrading to do such a thing!!

i personally have no problems whatsoever in doing so..! in fact..it would make me feel proud !!

what do the others think? ;)

I think the arabic men should learn from u Boy I;) .

Hmmmmm

Actually i don't mind.......

But there exist some hardness....!
I mean if her job was like....... let me say an ambassador!?

Does that mean that i need to follow her??

But generally, no idon't mind at all....... it does make me proud that my, future , wife succedeed in her life and was able to reach a high rank.

Men in general are awful about this.

I suppose in the cavemen days the man wouldn't like it if his wife collected more wood than he did. :duh:

Thing is, most men need to feel 'needed', like the woman depends on him, needs him ......ect. And if she's successful then that feeling won't be there. To him that is. Problem is she would need him for other things like emotional support, love, understanding......ect. But men don't see that of importance. They see the immediate things like money and power.

But a secure, confident man. One that's comfortable with himself and isn't selfish ( :rolleyes: ) will totaly accept the idea. And would be happy. :)

( I'm gonna need one of those in the future :duh: )

I have this a friend who is a sophomore student now, she is in a serious relationship with this guy who has only his high school degree.... Her parents dont know about them yet..but soon...

Anyhow..my friend has no problem with it... The problem with her parents....her dad and mom are both 2 educated people, who met at uni.. And knowing her parents, her chances of being with him are very slim!
But u know...come to think of it..who could blame them!? I mean they do want what is best for their daughter,right?

So basically, wether to get married to an under-educated person or not ,is not always entirely up to the person getting married! LOL! that sounds complicated! dont know where that phrase came from!

Anyhow...parents have alot to do with it!
I on the other hand, dont have a problem with it... I'm sure my parents do though! lol and sometimes being a girl is different than being a guy...
I'd marry someone who is more successful than I am...I'm a girl...But not all guys are ok with marrying more successful girls!

As been said....as long as the man is confident of himself...where is the problem....

As why does he expect his wife to accept him being (as might he assume) smarter or in a higher working position. And then he cant accept it if that happens to her???:lost:

As she is his wife....she he should and would be happy for her success...as its his success two...they are in all that together...and as B.I said....he should be proud...

personally...i would have no problem with that whatsoever.....

hmm..there are quite other points about this..let see what other members think....

that's what I am looking for. A women with a good job insuring continuous flow of money so that I can stay home relax and make her work... I don't mind cooking.....That would be awsome:D ....

Some how successful women turn me on ...
I love exchanging ideas with a smart women ( mind you they have their days ) LOL But I do appreciate women who are smart and wise .
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most arab men feel that it's kinda degrading to do such a thing!!

Not most i would say !!

but anyway ,,i don't mind it at all ,,in fact i would love to :duh:

any ambassadorah , ministrah ,, ...etc out there ?!!:rolleyes:

:cool:

my opinion if u care to hear it is that i dont mind my women to smart and even smarter than me which make us understand each other better. about the job, hhmmmm..... its tough! i think i ll only mind if my job is not one that i dont like and im not proud of compared to hers. but if my job was equally important , then i wouldnt mind!



peace:gap:

I did.

It's not so bad.

You cant stop yourself from falling in love. If you meet someone and you like them and you love them with all your heart and soul, then what is stopping you from marrying that person?
Instead of not marrying them because they are somehow "better" than you, appreciate them and praise them for everything that they are. No need to be jealous. And like i said, you cant stop yourself from falling in love with someone, you can try but it just happens that way. :p

If The believe of caring and sharing there
and If the couple build their life on Love and Unity!!
and whats Good for one of them Should also be good for the other partner! and Vice Versa
and when Jealousy and Envy is out of the equation!
and when Arrogance and non sense if kicked Out!

WHY should it be a problem if ur Dearest Wife is successful (more than u r) in part or different aspect of life!!! U should in fact be proud and Support her more!! after all...Its for the good of Both Togather As one! YET!

Such a woman should not try by any means to show her husband how weak he is or how she is Much better than he is!! and how he is nothing!!!! So its an inter relationship balancing Thang!

I think both should work togther to make both thier lives successful. Even if in the start, one is more successful than the other.

One thing though, successful women might get carried away with thier careers and forget that they have husbands at home. I admit that, many women feel that they have to work harder to prove themselves and within that process they focus more in how to be successful. Ofcourse thats not about all women, but I say many.

So, my point is, as long as being successful does not interfer in my personal life, my husband should be supportive and help me grow more. But, if I got carried away and starte to focus mostly in my career .. then my husband has the right to help me balance it and here it is not because he is threatend .. but becuase he cares about our family.