hi all,
I need your advice guys.. I have a serious problem which could be a miss for my life..

I have a frind who really i do care about & we are together for more than 12 years we grow up together have fun together, enjoy our lives we where three me & she & my eldest sister.. we loved each other very much but for sometimes we left her a lone & traavel somewhere in this world with our parents without her knowing it was a shocked for her but that time there was no choice for us because we didn't know that we are leaving our country for good.. so our parents for some reason force us to not let anyone know about our leaving the country... so she set there a lone she was lost totally lost she was a good girl a perfect relegious girl when we left her she was only 14 years old she stayed there doing funny things try to make frinds but wrong choice she thought that wee trade her & she was true in this thought even if we didn't mean it & we're been forced to do this.. but any way we cannot change the fact she was lost without us no body was there to guide her & take her to the safe place so she try to make a fairs with any one just to make her self understand that she don't need us.. she was young & teenage but when her family notice her attitude they try to marry her & they do & her choice wass great her man was understanding good character trust her very much respect her mor than enough he never ask her wher are going even if she spend night outside there is no doubt she is in her mother house but the problem is that SHE is in love with other guy & he is too..
she try to get devorced but her hobby refused to give her divorced & when accept to give her her family refused it's really a miss life that she lived it now, i don't know how can i guide her to the right direction but i know that I love her more than my self & I cannot let her lose her life I tried many time to advice her but I know am not the right person to advice.. am older than her 2 years but she knows the life batter than i do.. she is always there for when I need her we are for each other but we are tottaly differnt minded.. & now am in a middle of the road shell I leave her or try to stay with her & I do know that i can't avoid her because she all I've got i don't hav eother frind only she..
I know she is perfect from inside no one like her she is kind generous loving every thing nice you can find in her the problem is that shhe lost the way...
please guide me what sheel I do in her case..

Dear Friend,

If you really would like to guide your friend and make understand, you shall convence her to stay with the man who loves her and gave her respect. Would it be fair to the man who loved her an trusted her? If she was trust worthy, than how she got involved in another relationship? I think that the only think you do for her is to pray day and night that she gets back to her mind and knows the right thing to do. It is too hard to find someone who loves you without any return.

Being her friend, is your duty to explain the matter to her. Since you stated that she is well known to the life. Life is not to meet and enjoy, but it is to think and control and well behave. Why she is punishing herself while you and your sis. left her alone. She should know that she is doing the harm to herself not to you ( well I know that you are feeling oufel).

She must forgets the the love and stick up with the husband.

Regards,

If she is getting everything she wants from her husband what does she expect to get from the other guy?. What about being faithfull and trully human?. What about her value as a mother, wife, sister. One day she is going to be a mother and teach her children respect of their partners how she is going to teach them?.
Believe me she is not going to have the respect as her husband respect her and the other guy is not going trust her because she already has a bad record from her preveious relation or married.
Strong Heart :p

thanks for your advice..
but beleive me I tried my best to her & she do have kids the older one knows about her mother & she keep saying that my mother have 2 husbands she is just a child who will be grown as a sick mind because for now sh eis leavin in a layer world there is no trueth she start to lay always 7 she always star on her face at the mirror imitating the behave of her mother.. am so far from them but i canfeel her.. she is deserve a batter life but she broke it she is looking for something out unreachable.. that guy he keep asking her to get devorced & her husband keep refusing.. I tried my best to make her right.. but it useless she have a stone mind & heart won't listen only to her request..
thanks again...

If she has a storn heart then leave her and one day she will realize that she was wrong. Just leave it to the God bcs we cannot show the wright way to those whom we love, God shows us so if she is away from God then she will be always away from wright things.
Salam